how to find a guy....

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    Nov 26, 2008 5:54 PM GMT
    hey guys. i am a gay student, in the closet, and no one knows im gay. i really want to hook up with a guy and mess around with someone but i can never find someone. what should i do?
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    Nov 26, 2008 6:01 PM GMT

    hey jock4life,
    What should you do? Well, you're here.

    Come out and it will be easier. heh.

    Just did a little search for you, and found five in Buffalo age 22-28 looking for hook-up, chat or web-cam.
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    Nov 26, 2008 7:02 PM GMT
    Well, I'm certainly not an advocate of hooking-up, but manhunt.net is probably your best bet. You will have to put your picture on there though. Otherwise, it's just not going to happen.
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    Nov 26, 2008 7:05 PM GMT
    step one: come out of the closet.

    no one will hook up with you if no one knows your gay.
    no one will do more than hook up with you if you're paranoid about people finding out you're gay. too much drama and emotional baggage.

    get comfortable with yourself first, then the men will come.
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    Nov 26, 2008 7:07 PM GMT
    czarodziej saidstep one: come out of the closet.

    no one will hook up with you if no one knows your gay.
    no one will do more than hook up with you if you're paranoid about people finding out you're gay. too much drama and emotional baggage.

    get comfortable with yourself first, then the men will come.


    He's right. You need to come out and become comfortable with yourself.
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    Nov 26, 2008 7:12 PM GMT
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    Nov 26, 2008 7:20 PM GMT
    Grow, live, learn and come out of the freaking closet?
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    Nov 26, 2008 7:51 PM GMT
    Hello my fellow Buffalonian.

    Being in the closet is a big turn off for many guys and at your age it is an even bigger turn off. Kids are coming out of the closet in middle school these days. If you feel you must stay in the closet you will be at a huge disadvantage. This is part of why you can't find anyone. Guys wont know to hit on you unless you put yourself out there.

    And why is it hard to find someone to have sex with. Between Manhunt, craigslist (wretch), and other sites you should be waste deep in ass. There are also plenty of bi curious dating sites that might cater to a discrete clientele. A google search brought up a dozen for me.

    Oh, your profile says you only sometimes have safe sex. If you are going to be hooking up you damn well better be using protection. Otherwise you will be in a long term relationship with gonorrhea, chlamydia, and herpes. And no one wants to sleep with an infected closet case.
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    Nov 26, 2008 8:14 PM GMT
    jock4life saidhey guys. i am a gay student, in the closet, and no one knows im gay. i really want to hook up with a guy and mess around with someone but i can never find someone. what should i do?


    Have you looked into your campus GLBT student organization? Unless you're attending a Christian college, I assume they have one in NY. Possibly called the "10% Society" or "GLBT Student Association" or similar.

    Most groups hold private meetings so you won't be outing yourself, unless you participate in campus activities. Besides the gays & lesbians you'll meet there, it can be a resource to network with other community gay contacts.
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    Nov 26, 2008 8:19 PM GMT
    you dont need to be out of the closet to meet guys.

    I know several guys that everyone thinks is str8


    YOu are on realjock, that is how you will find friends, if you want something more, there are guys that will help you here
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    Nov 26, 2008 8:25 PM GMT
    onslaught saidyou dont need to be out of the closet to meet guys.

    I know several guys that everyone thinks is str8


    YOu are on realjock, that is how you will find friends, if you want something more, there are guys that will help you here


    Why in the world would a gay man want others to think he is straight. Time to get a life and get out of the closet and enjoy life in this new world.