Jantheman saidi thought about this and it really made me wonder. In today's generation we have the internet, cellphones, and apps that make it a lot easier to meet guys... we can instantly ask someone out and of course, sometimes, we get instantly rejected. which is sad.
So yea, back in the day... how was it? What's the difference now and then? Was it harder to meet guys back then with the absence of technology? How did you meet guys?
What were the things that you wish still existed today or things that you miss the most back in the day in terms of dating guys (if theres any)
In the old days, folks had much better interpersonal skills, and weren't as rude. Dating involved an effort, and shaking hands, having a first and last name, and real conversation. No texting. No crap communications.
One of the challenges faced by Corporate America is that many young folks have never learned "soft skills" because they've been in the Cyberverse.
However.... The Internet is very, very, empowering in that it allows like minded people to come together in an instant from disparate locations. It's still not a real interaction in the sense that voice conversation is with all its nuances and intonations.
It would be a much nicer U.S. electricity was turned off for, say three hours a week. It would force you to meet your neighbors. That's something many gay folks, and just plain urban folks fail miserably at: being nice; knowing their neighbors and having a sense of the larger village.
Folks in to gay bars used to be more amiable. Dallas, where I live (technically Austin Ranch at The Colony, TX), is well know for being stand-off-ish. It's called Dalitude by many.
So, getting to the question, it was better in some ways, but, worse in others.
The bathhouse crowd can now hang out on Grindr, but, it's all what you make it.
A lot of guys now, can't seem to develop any level of a relationship, doing the hookup night after night. It's sad, and speaks that many gay folks have a long ways to go.
And, there's lots of head fucked sex addicts out there. Folks so scared of commitment, and rejection, they go through life doing one trick after another. And, of course, there's the really head-fucked closet cases, cheating on their wives, or so self-loathing and paranoid it's not worth the baggage to invest any time in them.