Being cruised and chatted up by women, how does it make you feel?

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    Nov 26, 2008 8:29 PM GMT
    It makes me feel scared and panicky. Not sure why, but perhaps I'm not used to women coming on to me and don't know how to react or behave.

    I was at a new shopping centre in London and I got chatted up twice by young women. I didn't even realise they were cruising me until my friend told me that that's what they were doing.
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    Nov 26, 2008 9:03 PM GMT
    If they are attractive women then I like it especially if they use some funny pick up line. But I don't like being hit on by ugly people or people who don't take care of their bodies or minds because they usually try gross come-ons. I used to just politely ignore it or brush it off but sometimes I just want to be a jerk and ask them why they think anybody would be interested in someone like them, let alone someone who actually takes care of themself like me. Sounds incredibly arrogant but it's their fault for having too much confidence when they can't back it up.
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    Nov 26, 2008 9:17 PM GMT
    I chat back to them, smile, flirt, have some fun, let them know in a subtle way I'm gay/bi (depending on how attractive they are)

    It's a women, they need to feel the love too and who better to do it then a gay man who can flirt her under the table!
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Nov 26, 2008 9:38 PM GMT
    Ugh!!....I can relate. I had a women start Winking At me at the Gym & wave to me!!......I didnt know what the fuck to do.....LOL.......I think I almost dropped my dumbells on my feet......LMAO......icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 26, 2008 9:40 PM GMT
    That happens to me from time to time too. I can't help but think, "Where were you when I was actually TRYING to date girls?"

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  • auryn

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    Nov 26, 2008 9:42 PM GMT
    I feel flattered that a woman that has no chance would have the nerve to hit on me. Some women have more balls than men.
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    Nov 26, 2008 9:43 PM GMT
    Praise & interest can be flattering, from either sex. But I feel bad when I must tell them I'm gay, and not what they want. I never misrepresent myself, even for a free drink.
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    Nov 26, 2008 9:53 PM GMT
    Im a flirt by nature but it backfired recently. My ex coworker asked me to hang out with her to watch a football game. We ended up hanging at her brothers. How come everyone thought we were an item. I was being invited to Thanksgiving and Christmas. She put her head on my shoulder and wanted me to have some drinks and maybe spend the night. I felt so awkward. I wanted to run out that house and get to my car. I havent felt so out of place in a long time. I didnt know how to act.
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    Nov 26, 2008 10:14 PM GMT
    Makes me feel uncomfortable when I'm sober, I flirt back when I've had a few to drink. icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 26, 2008 10:14 PM GMT
    It makes me feel dirty, and I like to feel dirty.
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    Nov 26, 2008 10:26 PM GMT
    On my last backpacking trip to the United States in 1998, I was staying at a hostel in Boston, when I took a day trip to Provincetown on Cape Cod Penninsula by ferry. On the return sailing that evening this woman, just slightly younger than me, approached and started chatting to me. After talking for a while, she said that I was very handsome and intelligent, and I made a difference in the world. She used to be a fashion model and even that evening she was still strikingly beautiful. We sat and had a meal together. Later that night we parted, she went home and I returned to the hostel. The next day I found myself sitting alone at Quincy Market in the heart of the city, crying my eyes out.
    Nobody had ever said to me that I was intelligent and good looking. Nobody throughout my entire life. And in 1998 I was still recovering from the wretched rejection from arrogant churchgoers in 1994 for being different, including their suspicion that I might be gay.
  • RSportsguy

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    Nov 26, 2008 10:27 PM GMT
    I actually feel a little bit flattered! There are far more worse things in this world than having another person attracted to you!!
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    Nov 26, 2008 10:35 PM GMT
    A girl I have on facebook messaged me yesterday, flirting with me etc, I flirted back and she said I should text her and get in touch. I told her I'm into guys, and that if I wasn't I'd definitely give her a call (she was pretty sexy) but, penis prevails!
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    Nov 26, 2008 11:02 PM GMT
    It only gets worse as you get older. Between your late 30s and early 50s you become very attractive to many women because you will likely be among the few not wearing a wedding ring. Meanwhile their biological clock is ticking. It has happened to me so frequently that I have a recurring dream of getting involved with a woman, having sex and then before penetration I feel a need to out myself. I always like these women. They are interesting, intelligent, nice looking but they can at times be very aggressive. It was really sticky on one job when I kept getting calls at work from my boss's wife's best friend. Sometimes when they hear the truth they still think I could be bi. One women told me point blank that she'd let me fool around with guys if I dated her. I don't get panicky but I do feel this, oh shit, I am going to have to come out again.
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    Nov 26, 2008 11:05 PM GMT
    I have had a cougar and her daughter checking me out at the gym. It was kind of flattering. icon_cool.gif

    It is not as annoying as guys whom check me out, then they walk up to their girlfriends and kiss. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 26, 2008 11:06 PM GMT
    It only gets worse as you get older. Between your late 30s and early 50s you become very attractive to many women because you will likely be among the few not wearing a wedding ring.

    I'm currently being stalked at the gym by a woman who follows me back and forth in the weights room, then the swimming pool, then the steam room. I end up seeking refuge in the men's locker room.
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    Nov 26, 2008 11:09 PM GMT
    I get weird and codependent with it, i feel guilty about disappointing them when they find out I'm not going to be delivering the goods they're after.
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    Nov 26, 2008 11:17 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidIt only gets worse as you get older. Between your late 30s and early 50s you become very attractive to many women because you will likely be among the few not wearing a wedding ring.

    I'm currently being stalked at the gym by a woman who follows me back and forth in the weights room, then the swimming pool, then the steam room. I end up seeking refuge in the men's locker room.


    Also I should mention: Red hair is a big draw for women. They love the idea of little red headed puppies.
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    Nov 26, 2008 11:25 PM GMT
    Red hair is a big draw for women. They love the idea of little red headed puppies.

    This is true. Women love red hair and guys who keep trim (just like some gay guys).

    I think it's because I'm not used to women being predatory or sexual. Of course, they are, but I never used to see it. Now, they're EVERYWHERE!
  • esputniko

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    Nov 26, 2008 11:57 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidThat happens to me from time to time too. I can't help but think, "Where were you when I was actually TRYING to date girls?"

    Irony is a powerful force in the universe




    I can't believe girls didn't pay attention on you... and hope you are not "into this" because of that...

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    Nov 27, 2008 12:04 AM GMT
    Guys guys... its all about what you wear.

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  • drakutis

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    Nov 27, 2008 12:07 AM GMT
    I've never been with a woman and I can happily admit that, but I think it is hilarious reading some of the reactions to females checking some of you guys out!

    My thought reaction is "Honey, you ain't got the tools too handle this job!"

    My outside reaction is "Thanks! So kind of you to be interested!" While I'm thinking "Do you have a brother!?"


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    Nov 27, 2008 12:09 AM GMT
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    happens to me all the time...
    but it's fun for me, i dont min it and have even taken up
    some invites of some chix if they are cute /y not... am bi
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    Nov 27, 2008 12:12 AM GMT
    The first thing that comes to my mind is "shit how am I going to blow this one off?" I usually burp or fart it scares em away lolicon_cool.gif

    O yeah also call them dude or bro they love that shiticon_wink.gif
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    Nov 27, 2008 12:16 AM GMT
    redheadguy saidIt makes me feel scared and panicky. Not sure why, but perhaps I'm not used to women coming on to me and don't know how to react or behave.

    I was at a new shopping centre in London and I got chatted up twice by young women. I didn't even realise they were cruising me until my friend told me that that's what they were doing.


    Now you can understand how a str8 guy must feel, when he has another guy do it to him, and even more so in the locker room.

    I have a women I work with who is in love with me,and she tell everyone she want to wed me. I'm just so light hearted about it,and make joke about it would be equal to a lesbian act, all we could do is rub bums.