feel lonely in a relationship

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    Oct 12, 2013 6:41 PM GMT
    I feel very lonely now.
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    Oct 12, 2013 6:44 PM GMT
    It's time for you guys to sit down and communicate. Talk about that with him rather than us. Don't fear communication and connection. Express to him that you're feeling guarded and lonely, then see if it is an issue that can be resolved or if it is time to move on. Best of luck man
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    Oct 12, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
    Just tell him that you don't like what ever he said to you
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:39 AM GMT
    Thanks guys
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:40 AM GMT
    I should cheer myself up and just go and play with watercolours for now. icon_cry.gif

    maybe my loneliness will make me a famous painter one day hahaha
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:00 AM GMT
    I first saw the vid (link at bottom) on this forum. I forget who posted it but I've watched it a few times since. Seems to apply here.

    http://m.imdb.com/title/tt0839896/quotes?qt=qt1898713
    Madea: Ain't nobody said it was gonna be easy, but it will get easy when you learn how to love yourself. When you get to a point in your life where you look at people and you go 'Okay wait a minute. You or me?', you will make a decision. When you telling folks to do something... Now I've never thrown nobody away, I've never in my life just thrown anybody away saying 'Don't bother me no more, don't talk to me no more', I've never done that. What I DO is tell them, 'Look, this thing you doing right here is gonna cause a problem. You need to fix that because if we're gonna be friends and gonna be cool, you need to fix that. And if you don't, we're gonna have an issue'. If you see somebody fix it or even trying to fix it, that's somebody that cares. Keep those people around, that's a leaf that's trying to grow up and be something else. But if you tell somebody 'What you're doing is hurting me and I need you to stop' and they keep doing it, they don't care. Move on, let them go! No matter how much it hurts, let them go. And it'll get easier, I promise you. Every day, it'll get easier and easier and easier, you just have to make it through. You hear me, Sonny?

    Here's the vid on that...

    https://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=226161747414537
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    Okajuurou said
    Have you ever felt lonely in your relationships?

    I use to feel lonely which lasted for a year in my nearly 6 year relationship until it ended few months ago when I realized that the real problem was in me.

    As CryoDream suggested...you should talk about it even if it makes you very uncomfortable. If you don't want to discuss face to face, write on a paper telling him how lonely you feel, how sad it makes you, etc. but don't speak/write it like a complaint...write more like a confession. and give it to him.
    But don't try to consider moving on soon...during the rough times the relationship looks weaken and we often feel very lonely, but that doesn't mean it should break/end there.
    Unlike many relationships yours isn't about cheating or abusing etc. It's just misunderstanding, fights always arise with misunderstanding and lack of trust/confidence in one another. Try to understand each other everything will resolve.
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:11 AM GMT
    I think it's bad taste you have a picture of you 2 in your profile and you're also openly talking about your personal issues as a couple here. You should show some respect to your boyfriend. If you wanna talk about this fine but at least remove his picture there.
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:22 AM GMT
    Oh wow
    that is a wonderful video. I wish I could follow Madea's advice no matter how difficult it is.
    Thank you, theantijock
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    David3000 saidI think it's bad taste you have a picture of you 2 in your profile and you're also openly talking about your personal issues as a couple here. You should show some respect to your boyfriend. If you wanna talk about this fine but at least remove his picture there.



    ooops true words.
    my mistake, did not think about it icon_sad.gif