To the men who are 30+ - What are some pieces of advice you would give to someone in their 20's?

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    Oct 13, 2013 2:45 PM GMT
    Just curious for all the really old men on Realjock (30+). Haha kidding!

    But seriously, what are some pieces of advice you would give someone in their 20's? I'm 21 now so my 20's are just about over and I'm curious to what others have to say.

    It could be sexual advice, financial advice, life advice, or anything really. Is their something you wish you had done differently?

    By the way this is partly for one of my classes - so serious advice is a plus, but never opposed to the RJ comedians posting either ;-)
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    Oct 13, 2013 2:55 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidYour 20s are just about over, Joshy?
    Pardon me while I fall down laughing.
    Advice: Don't eat anything blue that isn't supposed to be blue. Like those stupid blue snow cones. Blueberries are okay, they're supposed to be blue.


    But... but... during the summer I love to eat "Blueberry Bash" snowcones. The snowcone lady knows just how to make them. icon_redface.gif
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    If you want something from someone 30+, don't call him old
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:17 PM GMT
    It's not that bad being in your 30s as long as you take care of yourself. I know to some gays, it's over the hill.

    40 is scaring the hell out of me. icon_sad.gif

    I would give you an advice, but I don't want to sound like a preacher. Just do what makes you happy.
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    Use condoms always.

    Never take someone's word of their HIV or STD status as a guarantee.

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    Oct 13, 2013 3:20 PM GMT
    Start saving for retirement now. Put some money away every month without fail.
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:22 PM GMT
    I'm 29 so I feel as if I can speak on this:

    I went through a period in my mid 20s-- like 23 to 27 where I did not keep a budget for myself and spent frivilously on things. Don't do that.

    I spent the last 2 years paying it all back and am now at 29... realizing how importamnt it is to save for stuff. It's just not cute to be in debt and like ...ur out on a date....and your phone is constantly ringing cuz bill-collectors be blowin u up like cray and u have to explain to ur date that you're really popular..... and like totally fuckable.
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:39 PM GMT
    - Start saving from now.
    - Buy only the things you need, not want. I learned this too late.
    - Don't get too attached to family or friends, they can greatly hold you back. Doesn't mean you don't love them, but you might end up making sacrifices out of love and respect for them that might disadvantage you later in life.
    - Do not hoard stuff, just have the essentials.

    - Make sure you get a really good education and study an area that is relevant and guarantees a decent income not what makes you feel comfortable.

    - Travel and experience other cultures (if you can).
    - Stay organized
    - Backup your computer
    - Don't buy a desktop computer, holds you back and too much baggage, a decent Windows laptop with Windows 7 is all you really need.
    - Stay away from fast food and carbonated drinks if you can.
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:42 PM GMT
    Start working out as soon as you can. Building a muscular body can take a long time.
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 13, 2013 3:44 PM GMT
    1. Be out.
    2. Be out at work.
    3. Don't be stupid.
    4. Don't think acting stupid is cool or cute or enough.
    5. Find a sport that you can play until you're 80 (gym counts).
    6. Own a dog and be good to him, her.
    7. Make some money and if you can, work for yourself. Answer to no one but your partner and your banker.
    8. Live in a place (starting now!) that you love and that soothes your soul.
    9. Love more than you fuck.
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:46 PM GMT
    Read this and don't forget it.

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3480437/
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    Oct 13, 2013 3:49 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said

    I'm 21 now so my 20's are just about over


    Oh Lawd, learn how to count.
  • KenHendSF

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    Oct 13, 2013 3:54 PM GMT
    Live for today
    Plan for tomorrow
    Cherish your friends -- don't take them for granted
    Surround yourself with quality people
  • Timbales

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    Oct 13, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    - Open a savings account and put some money in it every paycheck
    - Learn the appreciate quality in furnishings, clothing, beer and food
    - There's a fine line between taking things seriously and taking yourself too seriously.
    - Have enough self respect to never do something you don't want to do because you feel like you're supposed to.
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:01 PM GMT
    StephenOABC said
    JumpMan_Josh said

    I'm 21 now so my 20's are just about over


    Oh Lawd, learn how to count.



    Hahahaha
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidI'm 21 now so my 20's are just about over

    Wait, what? Recheck your math, dude. icon_wink.gif

    And don't buy into the myth that as a gay guy your shelf life ends at 26. What you will lose in youthful appearance is nothing compared to what you will gain in life experience and knowing yourself -- if your priorities are in order.
  • BillandChuck

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    Oct 13, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    Upper_Cdn saidStart saving for retirement now. Put some money away every month without fail.

    As two guys well over 30 (well over twice your age!)..... THIS above is great advice. It doesn't matter how little it is, put away whatever you can, but put away SOMETHING every time you get paid or get money as a gift.

    On a less materialistic but still just as practical vein, find your True North and follow it. This means intellectually, spiritually, professionally and physically. Spend enough time with yourself to know what gives YOU value, and make whatever those things are your pursuits and your guides.
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:16 PM GMT
    They don't have to be the best time in your life (I'm only saying that because I'm 29 and hoping that my 30s will be awesome).
  • CityofDreams

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    Oct 13, 2013 4:28 PM GMT
    BillandChuck said
    Upper_Cdn saidStart saving for retirement now. Put some money away every month without fail.

    As two guys well over 30 (well over twice your age!)..... THIS above is great advice. It doesn't matter how little it is, put away whatever you can, but put away SOMETHING every time you get paid or get money as a gift.

    On a less materialistic but still just as practical vein, find your True North and follow it. This means intellectually, spiritually, professionally and physically. Spend enough time with yourself to know what gives YOU value, and make whatever those things are your pursuits and your guides.


    Beautifully said!
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
    Stop caring what people think about you
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    Oct 13, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said
    Aristoshark saidYour 20s are just about over, Joshy?
    Pardon me while I fall down laughing.
    Advice: Don't eat anything blue that isn't supposed to be blue. Like those stupid blue snow cones. Blueberries are okay, they're supposed to be blue.


    But... but... during the summer I love to eat "Blueberry Bash" snowcones. The snowcone lady knows just how to make them. icon_redface.gif


    ha

    funny


    study as much as u can.

    save some money every month

    have lots of fun now...

    travel!
  • Eli_jah

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    Oct 13, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    Import saidI'm 29 so I feel as if I can speak on this:

    I went through a period in my mid 20s-- like 23 to 27 where I did not keep a budget for myself and spent frivilously on things. Don't do that.

    I spent the last 2 years paying it all back and am now at 29... realizing how importamnt it is to save for stuff. It's just not cute to be in debt and like ...ur out on a date....and your phone is constantly ringing cuz bill-collectors be blowin u up like cray and u have to explain to ur date that you're really popular..... and like totally fuckable.


    Haha, but seriously, I racked up about 5000 in debt over the years. Now down to 1800 and when I'm done paying it off, no credit cards ever again (okay, maybe one)
  • vj2004t

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    Oct 13, 2013 4:44 PM GMT
    Never give your heart away too quickly it is a gift you give only to the right guy val
  • peterstrong

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    Oct 13, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    put your whole heart in everything - give it away as often as possible - heartache is necessary for any possibility of growth and moving beyond the incapacitation of fear - people who hold back or withhold love, live to regret it