Do you ever feel Fetishized ?

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    Oct 15, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    Do you ever think people look at you because of a certain feature or phenotype and become infatuated or blinded by that one aspect of you and associate you with that one thing and not give credit to your complex qualities ?

    This could be anything from body size, race, hair color, height, for instance when you have big pecs and its all someone mentions when ever they compliment you or refer to you, or if you're " black " and you are always the hot " black man " in stead of just being a hot man. Or when your foreign and have some sort of accent and all of of a sudden you're the " exotic man " instead of the man with an interesting personality.... in my case alot of times I've been the long haired hippy or the ethnic one .... cant i just be me and not just have a theme ?
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    Oct 15, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
    Yes.
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    Oct 15, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidDid I ever tell you that you've got great abs?
    Love a guy with great abs.
    Oh yeah.
    So hot.
    Did I ever mention this to you?
    'Cause when I think about you, I think of these really great abs.
    What was your question again?


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    Oct 15, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    Yes, a lot the guys I've encountered seem to only been interested in me because of my being black, as everything said always seem to come back to color. It gets sort of annoying after awhile.
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    Oct 15, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
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    xrichx saidYes.

    Says the Gaysian hottie
    Lol. I also get requests to wrestle. I think being short and muscular attracts a certain crowd.
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    Oct 15, 2013 5:41 PM GMT
    yes my hair ... but really who gives a fuck as long as they are attracted to you. Male birds have bright colors so they can attract a mate. Nature gave us a blessing so we can attract someone and the rest will follow. If you didn't have that special feature that attracts others to you, and you to others, then you'd just be boring and wouldn't attract anyone, then where would you. Don't look a gift horse in the mouth and count your blessings while you still got em'.
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    Oct 15, 2013 6:38 PM GMT
    I had someone say he wanted to fuck my glasses.

    Fuck.
    MY.
    GLASSES.

    Yeah I just don't know anymore.
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    Oct 15, 2013 6:47 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    xrichx said
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    xrichx saidYes.

    Says the Gaysian hottie
    Lol. I also get requests to wrestle. I think being short and muscular attracts a certain crowd.

    wow, I didn't realize what a pocket gay you are until I looked at your profile. Somehow on cam you don't seem so short.
    Oh I must have had the tall effect running on my cam software. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 15, 2013 6:58 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidI had someone say he wanted to fuck my glasses.

    Fuck.
    MY.
    GLASSES.

    Yeah I just don't know anymore.


    That's a really strange one. I had a guy ask me to get on cam and pull my hair, and another wanted to hear my heartbeat. There are some oddballs out there.
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    Oct 15, 2013 11:17 PM GMT
    yeah I get fetished as an abusive bully
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    Oct 15, 2013 11:38 PM GMT
    David3000 saidyeah I get fetished as an abusive bully


    Really ? Why is that ?
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    Oct 15, 2013 11:49 PM GMT
    David3000 saidyeah I get fetished as an abusive bully


    So the advertising is working?
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    Oct 15, 2013 11:58 PM GMT
    I suppose we all do it to some degree but I think there are more natural forms of it (objectifying dick or ass, for instance) and then there's the manufactured variety.

    I got fetishized a few times that I noticed. Twice for being Jewish, one particularly creepy when the guy described me as forbidden fruit. The other was more naturally inclined, drawn by actually enjoying the culture of it, not by his own culture's disdain of it, but by then I'd already been sensitized so there went that.

    The other two times both involved what I call feeders, both attracted to me while I was in mourning and working towards getting rid of some depression weight. The first was real creepy because I'd never experienced that before.

    I found myself putting on weight as we were dating. When I realized he'd been purposely encouraging me to eat I got so creeped out I dumped him right away. I was trying to get healthy and he was trying to hurt me. No. Not gonna happen.

    Then, years later, when I was in mourning again, it happened again with a different guy but this time I recognized it from the start and I confronted him about it. He thought he was being nourishing. Nooooo. Not gonna happen.
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:02 AM GMT
    No
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    yep any time im in Asia, any asian country, hence I rarely ever go anymore
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    The only post of mine that was fetishized was never seen on RJ.
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    Nope unfortunately I don't attract people..so stop complaining
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:16 AM GMT
    If someone finds a physical feature of mine a total turn-on, who am I to say they're wrong for doing so? icon_wink.gif


    I have guys message me that they love speedos, jockstraps, short guys, lean guys, white guys, whatever it is about me that happens to be their "fetish." I would not come on here and post up my pics if there was a chance that I'd be offended by peoples' comments on those characteristics. I don't think its' racist or inappropriate to be a "hot black guy" or a "hot anything" as long as you're not being overtly objectified.
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:19 AM GMT
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    Behemothboi saidNope unfortunately I don't attract people..so stop complaining


    I dont get your comment.

    I'm saying that if someone finds something about you attractive just be happy about it..It's better than having no one attracted to you at all
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:22 AM GMT
    Go ahead Copper and speak that truth!

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    Oct 16, 2013 1:26 AM GMT
    Behemothboi
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    Nope unfortunately I don't attract people..so stop complaining


    I dont get your comment.
    I'm saying that if someone finds something about you attractive just be happy about it..It's better than having no one attracted to you at all


    Yout tell'em too Behemoth! At least yall ain't ugly! and somebody likes you, even ugly people got people who are attracted to them! I look and got nobody YYYYY!!! anyway y'all make good peachers
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    Behemothboi saidNope unfortunately I don't attract people..so stop complaining


    Dont command me. I dont enjoy the feeling of being a " one trick pony ". Of course i enjoy being admired and praised by a person i like, but at the same time if someone cannot separate one facite of my appearance from my overall personality and being , i would not want to start a relationship with someone like that It would make me feel like a strange exotic circus thing.

    Its even more interesting when people like one part in my complex personality and insult another part, For instance at work sometimes i have a tribal gypsy style ( think the lost boys vampire movie) but other days I'll come dressed in Express clothes looking completely opposite, and the comments i'd get would be like a backhanded complement ... like i was assumed to be a one trick pony which is ridiculous.

    Is it true that you dont attract people ? or are you being sarcastic .... serious question
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:39 AM GMT
    Sometimes. I feel like guys only like me because I look Latino, and I know that's a fetish some guys are really into, which there is nothing wrong with that, but I wish guys would like me for me and not because I "look" like I belong in a category.icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:39 AM GMT
    Jk copper of course I do probably for the same reasons as you lop being "exotic" or my tattoos.. idk when this became the thing but they get more attention than me -_-
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    Oct 16, 2013 1:41 AM GMT
    Mesmer saidSometimes. I feel like guys only like me because I look Latino, and I know that's a fetish some guys are really into, which there is nothing wrong with that, but I wish guys would like me for me and not because I "look" like I belong in a category.icon_sad.gif

    That would be me..the Latin boys love the pinga icon_razz.gif