Advice Guys-"This Guy that I like"- (Read on)

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    Nov 27, 2008 8:34 PM GMT
    Ok. Here it is. There is this dominican guy that I like. He is gorgeous, face, muscular body, tall , dark and handsome. I talk about him all the time. Now in south florida, TWIST is very popular club. Well, since I started going he always goes and I always see him. The thing is we never talk. He is one of those guys who always has an entourage and some guy is always trying to talk to him. I tend to be hesitant to approach guys like that. I guess for major fear of rejection. But the funny thing is. -- He eyeballs me when he sees me and the other day, he pulled my arm and told me to come over to chat. I was so fukking nervous, I just walked away..LOL...I think My heart started beating so fast, surprise that he did that.. Now I dont know if I fukked it up and I really just am worried about messing the way I feel about him. and What If he doesn't like me? but then, this can just be a fling and in my head, I don't want to talk to him because of that. What do you think guys..?
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    Nov 27, 2008 9:00 PM GMT
    ah.. I know the perfect solution...






    http://www.neuticles.comgo order your self some balls..


    Once you've done that, go up and talk to him..


    I don't know what other advice you wanted.
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    Nov 27, 2008 9:28 PM GMT
    If nothing else you could at least make a friend


    Dont be afraid to talk to someone, you wont get anywhere if you do that.

    If you're scared, then go day by day thinking of him and staring at him in a club.


    You're a man, show some balls....


    Is there something you could bring up?

    I said this before but I had a similar thing happen. Id never just come up to a guy and introduce myself. I think it's kind of odd in my opinion.

    here is what I did...

    I live in denver, there was a broncos game. This guy i wanted to talk to was wearing a raiders shirt. Now broncos and raiders fans don't like each other.
    I made it a point to call him out on it.

    I said:

    " you know, you can't wear a raiders shirt around denver folk. You're bigger then anyone here so I guess no one would say anything"

    he says:

    " well you're big and said something, does that mean I'm not big enough for you to not say something"

    I said "no one is too big to talk to, beside I can take you"

    he laughed and so did I and we then introduced ourselves.



    So, come up with a reason to talk to him, if you don't get anything out of it, at least you can move on.
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    Nov 27, 2008 11:41 PM GMT
    Tanker has it. Fortune favors the bold. I mean, the man tugged at your arm to talk to you. He is pulling at your flesh for the opportunity to talk to you. Next time you see him you better fucking yank his arm out of the socket and chat him up. Obviously there is mutual interest.
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    Nov 28, 2008 12:04 AM GMT
    Yes. Talk to him. Just explain to him that you were nervous when he approached you. Honesty is the best policy...he'll understand. And before you know it, you'll probably have the hottest sex of your life. Okay. That's not guaranteed. But talk to him. He's obviously interested.
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    Nov 28, 2008 12:26 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidTanker has it. Fortune favors the bold.


    Indeed. Follow this advice, klass. We live in a democracy, and while some people may have advantages over us, no one should intimidate us.

    I've dealt with US Presidents, Cabinet members, Governors, Senators, 4-star Generals, movie stars, all kinds of celebrities and the miscellaneous rich & famous, etc. Don't ever be cowed by anyone. Respect their accomplishments & positions, yes, but never let yourself feel inadequate.

    You may be exactly what this guy wants. You won't know unless you try. And if you're not, and he says no, then is it any different than if some other guy says no? You try again with another man, until you get a yes.

    Life is simple, if only we know how to let it be.
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    Nov 28, 2008 2:02 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa said


    Life is simple, if only we know how to let it be.



    That quote is so simple yet very sage. You have inspired me.



    and to klassikjock-
    I would have killed for a chance like that, next time just relax and go with the flow
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    Nov 28, 2008 2:58 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidah.. I know the perfect solution...

    http://www.neuticles.comgo order your self some balls..

    Once you've done that, go up and talk to him..

    I don't know what other advice you wanted.


    OK, hold the phone here people...why are people buying their pets fake balls? Seriously?

    I just don't understand sometimes...*head shaking*

    Oh, it all just hurts so much....icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 28, 2008 3:03 AM GMT


    "He eyeballs me when he sees me and the other day, he pulled my arm and told me to come over to chat. I was so fukking nervous, I just walked away..LOL."

    If you saw that happen in a movie, you'd feel bad for the person that was pulling the arm. His advance was rejected - by you...this is so easy I'm laughing. Go right up to him and tell him he took you by surprise. Say you were wanting to talk to him and still figuring out a way to do it when....!

    To be honest I'd had this done to me and usually tended to loose interest in the person I asked to speak with who rejected my advance by walking away. Why? Because if it was that hard to just try to talk to him, what would getting to know him be like? I used to just shrug it off thinking the guy that walked away was too uptight, and what would be the point of chasing after him? heh Been there, done that.

    Now and now, it's your turn. Approach him if you like him that much. Do it!

    -Doug
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    Nov 28, 2008 7:55 AM GMT
    looknrnd said, "

    OK, hold the phone here people...why are people buying their pets fake balls? Seriously?

    I just don't understand sometimes...*head shaking*

    Oh, it all just hurts so much...."


    So their pets will still look complete after being neutered.
    Indeed kind of silly!!icon_rolleyes.gif
  • GQjock

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    Nov 28, 2008 2:41 PM GMT
    Umm... Klassi

    Do you need a Gay Rock to fall on your head? icon_neutral.gif

    The guy pulled you over ... the ball's in your court

    Matchpoint*
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    Nov 28, 2008 3:11 PM GMT
    That was your chance. I would suggest that you go up to him buy him drink, just be honest and say that you were so nervous that you just ran away. That way he won't think you're nuts. It may be something that you both would laugh about later.

    You always run the risk of him saying that he can't be bothered. Because what you did was beyound pale and rude.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Good Luck dude.
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    Nov 28, 2008 6:41 PM GMT
    I discovered years ago that one of the more difficult aspects of living is that things we really want are not just handed to us. We have to take risks, including the risk of rejection.

    You don't want to go down the "what might have been" road for very long, you will end up very unhappy. Next time you see him talk to him, buy him a drink and have a conversation with him. He might be a great guy or he might be someone you have nothing in common with, but you need to do some old-fashioned in-person socializing (you know the kind that existed before the internet).
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    Nov 28, 2008 6:53 PM GMT
    [quote]
    OK, hold the phone here people...why are people buying their pets fake balls? Seriously?

    I just don't understand sometimes...*head shaking*

    Oh, it all just hurts so much....icon_neutral.gif[/quote]

    Like most "pet related things," they're made for the pet owner, not the pet. I've often wondered by they don't make "carrion flavored" dog food, for instance, since my log loves to eat up on dead things...or, y'know, "mouse flavored" cat food.

    Instead, we get "gourmet this and that..." whatever...
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    Nov 28, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
    Geek,

    Are you sure you replied to the correct post?????? Your response is totally unrelated to the topic at hand.icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 28, 2008 7:34 PM GMT
    Ducky44 saidThat was your chance. I would suggest that you go up to him buy him drink, just be honest and say that you were so nervous that you just ran away. That way he won't think you're nuts. It may be something that you both would laugh about later.

    ^---- This, though honestly I think you may have screwed your chances by walking away. That's a really rude thing to do, even if you can just blame it on nerves, so if he's willing to give you a second chance after you pretty much blew him off you may have found somethin' special there.
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    Nov 29, 2008 1:26 AM GMT
    looknrnd saidOK, hold the phone here people...why are people buying their pets fake balls? Seriously?

    I just don't understand sometimes...*head shaking*


    Their pets? Hell, the rednecks are putting fake balls on the rear bumpers of their pickups and SUVS, which I find totally gross. And the straights say that it's the gays who are a threat to traditional values.
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    Nov 29, 2008 1:41 AM GMT
    klassikjock saidNow in south florida, TWIST is very popular club...


    Every gay here knows Twist:

    http://www.twistsobe.com/aboutus.asp

    Too young for me, and too far from FtL, but a hot place. Your problem is no different, however, than if you were in any gay club in the US.

    You either make your move, or you sit in the corner alone, until you come home and write another RJ post.

    Sorry to be harsh, but sometimes life forces us to either make a move, or quit the game. Or you could approach someone less intimidating. But ya know, maybe he doesn't appreciate that he's intimidating, and would welcome your coming over.

    Case in point: I've approached guys at a bar, who actually thanked me, because they wanted to speak to me, but were too intimidated. And I'd be like, WHAT? Me, intimidating? I'm nothing of the kind. Yes you are, they'd insist, even if you don't think so.

    Come on, what have you got to lose? The worst he can say is no, whereas you've already taken a no if you don't even try. Embarrassment? Hell, like a reporter from the Miami Herald is gonna be there to record it, for tomorrow's front page?

    You take the no and move on, until you get a yes from some other hunk. Trust me, that's how it works.
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    Nov 29, 2008 2:09 AM GMT
    ok i will do it.. if he spits in my face.. you will see me on the news..lol crying...........lol
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    Nov 29, 2008 5:13 AM GMT


    Yikes! We'll be hoping THAT doesn't happen!

    You go, man. Just don't forget to let us know how things go!!!

    Gosh, feeling like your fairy God-fathers....heheh.

    (Where are those darn glass track shoes!..... Bill, check the pumpkin coach will ya?)