Nothing could be more natural that homosexuality. It occurs many places in nature, and it's not an immoral thing.
False belief systems / religions / cults like to attach guilt to things pleasurable, or different, from whatever the viewpoints of that entity. Consequentially, folks that are in those cults / religions / false belief systems carry around a lot of needless baggage / or hate because of the brainwashing of their participants (it starts at a very young age). This sort of thing was clearly demonstrated in the Prop 8 vote demographics.
I think the whole idea about the timing is flawed. I'd venture a guess that the young man's parents already had an idea of his sexuality. After all, they've been around him for a very long time. In my case, I know my parents are behind me in most instances.
It's absolutely ridiculous that, in 2008, a person should get so self-involved with something a small as sexuality. It's a small part of what a person is. It's a real shame some folks get so wrapped up in it.
I know folks who go around lying to their spouses; their friends; and leading of life of multiple personnas. That's clearly dysfunctional, by almost any standard.
No person should be self-loathing, low-esteem, deceitful...that's part of the brainwashing of those false belief systems. No person should be so self-involved with their sexuality that it defines everything about them. E.g., just cuz you're gay doesn't mean you need to be a fairy.
I have a standing rule that I don't associate with discreet or not out. If they can't be honest about something so basic, how could I trust them in a personal or business relationship? It's a common sense thing. I won't be the enabler.
Let me share with you the story of my mom's two gay brothers, for reflection.
One brother lived in San Fran. It was the late 80s. He was a bit of a fairy, but not bad. My mom's sister is a nurse. For nearly 2 years, my mom's sister nursed in through HIV. To this day, my mom doesn't know, nor would it be likely, about Raymond's gayness, nor his HIV. She believes, with all her heart, that Raymond got sick, and Pat (her sister) had an affair with him.
Mom's other brother, Frank, was clearly a fairy. July 7, 1969, Ed, Frank's brother, called Frank a queer. He was in Medford, OR. Frank drove to Eugene, put a 30.06 rifle in his mouth and fired it, leaving the back of his head all over the wall behind him. His mother found it a few hours later. That's what good Catholic gays did in 1969. I remember it well.
No person should be a such low esteem and such low confidence that have to lead multiple lives, deceive folks, lie, or just generically be a person of low-integrity.
I won't as act as an enabler to that condition (the guilt, self-loathing, etc.).
When it's all said and done, we have honor and integrity. Life is to short to impose a self-inflected misery.
It's good that the poster moved forward. It's not a big deal. He's gay. So what. Now, he can get on about life in an honorable way. Only if he MAKES himself feel bad, shall he.
It's important to not support low-life dirt bags who are sneaky snakes in the middle of the night. They simply aren't worthy.
Throwing sound judgment and being all-accepting is wrong, just because someone says they're gay, is prescription for trouble.
Good for the poster. Now, hopefully, he'll lead a balanced life that isn't centric around being a particular way.