Hi guys.Can anyone give me some advice on what to do??

  • Maxim90m

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    Oct 18, 2013 10:45 PM GMT
    how to be more interesting to other people?
    I'm always quiet and a bit shy. I am tough guy and I do like sport, music, reading, movies..,but I really dont have good friends... What should I do?icon_question.gif
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    Oct 18, 2013 11:34 PM GMT
    If you're naturally quite oh well, no need to change yourself just because you want to get guys to find find you attractive or interesting. Being quite has its perks too, it gives you more of a mysterious aura. As for myself I too am a bit on the reserved side, but I still managed to make a few friends here and there.
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    Oct 18, 2013 11:35 PM GMT
    I agree about the club or activity. That way you are doing something, and then you have common ground to start friendships, plus its fun.
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    Oct 18, 2013 11:36 PM GMT
    Do things that will put you in contact with other people; join clubs, do volunteer work, etc.
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    Oct 19, 2013 12:35 AM GMT
    I was unpopular in high school and read a book called "How to win Frends and influence People."
    It was useless.
    I think the technique of making friends is hit and miss and can't be taught - but it can be learned.
    I have lots of friends today and don't feel I'm doing any thing differently. Go figure.
    Join a gym, as others have said. And watch the news every day. You'll always be interesting.
    (CNN is fascinating.)
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    Oct 19, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    I'm a quite kid of guy too, I'm more talkative online though ironically..... Maybe a good place to start is by not sounding so unfriendly in your page description. I dont consider my self to be very fem but i dont run around saying how " i dont like them ". It sounds douchey and off putting and not friendly at all
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    Oct 19, 2013 12:55 AM GMT
    You could also come to America and just sit and watch TV with me because you're so darn cute.
  • MikeW

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    Oct 19, 2013 1:13 AM GMT
    WHY are you "quiet and a bit shy"? Is it because you are naturally introverted or is it because you're unsure of yourself and feel the need to keep quiet so you don't attract too much or the wrong kind of attention? Or if not either of those, what is it for you?
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    Oct 19, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    meetup.com

    Look for groups which match your interest and are sexually oriented according to your own needs.

    Also, keep in mind that you're hot as a BelAmi porn star and some guys might feel intimidated by your striking good looks. Smile, even if you're shy and quiet. Eye contact is important too. Invite their attention and conversation if you like them. Ask questions and share about Family, Occupation, Recreation and any other topics which you learn you have in common. Conversation is like a game of "baseball catch". It's the most fun when everybody is pitching and catching and nobody is "hogging the ball". Don't be afraid to ask guys if they want to go and do an activity or something which involves social time. For example, going to an arcade or playing cards. Movies are great, as long as there is time after the movie to share time and discuss the movie and get to know each other. Beach and picnic type activities can be fun as well.

    Also, consider taking a Jung Typology Test so that you know your own cognitive and social style and can learn to adapt to others in social settings.
  • Webster666

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    Oct 19, 2013 2:45 AM GMT
    Maxim90m saidhow to be more interesting to other people?
    I'm always quiet and a bit shy. I am tough guy and I do like sport, music, reading, movies..,but I really dont have good friends... What should I do?icon_question.gif


    I don't think that most people can be more interesting than they already are.
    And, I'd bet that a lot of guys would find you very interesting.
    You're certainly very good looking.
    Shyness is a problem for lots of us.

    Here's an idea.
    Whether you do it on this site or other sites, how about sending a simple invitation to as many guys as you would like to meet, who live in your area, to meet for coffee ? To be clear, I mean meeting them one at a time. LOL. But, first, be sure that your profile description says a lot about you. That's a good way to weed out the guys who aren't interested, for whatever reason, like maybe they don't recognize a great guy when they see one. LOL.

    Good luck.
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    Oct 19, 2013 7:24 AM GMT
    I'm trying to figure out how your ethnicity is South Asian and you're from Romania.
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    Oct 19, 2013 4:11 PM GMT
    I don't mean this in any really mean way but possibly you don't have good friends because you don't appreciate people enough?
    You've gotten a lot of empathy and advice here but haven't said a word in reply!
  • Maxim90m

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    Oct 19, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    Thank you very much for your advices. I really appreciate your helpicon_wink.gif
    I'll definitely take some of your advices.
  • Maxim90m

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    Oct 19, 2013 5:49 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidI'm trying to figure out how your ethnicity is South Asian and you're from Romania.

    I am south asian and live in Romania.Do you think it is not possible?
  • Maxim90m

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    Oct 19, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    Webster666 said
    Maxim90m saidhow to be more interesting to other people?
    I'm always quiet and a bit shy. I am tough guy and I do like sport, music, reading, movies..,but I really dont have good friends... What should I do?icon_question.gif


    I don't think that most people can be more interesting than they already are.
    And, I'd bet that a lot of guys would find you very interesting.
    You're certainly very good looking.
    Shyness is a problem for lots of us.

    Here's an idea.
    Whether you do it on this site or other sites, how about sending a simple invitation to as many guys as you would like to meet, who live in your area, to meet for coffee ? To be clear, I mean meeting them one at a time. LOL. But, first, be sure that your profile description says a lot about you. That's a good way to weed out the guys who aren't interested, for whatever reason, like maybe they don't recognize a great guy when they see one. LOL.

    Good luck.


    Interesting ))) Thank u
  • Maxim90m

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    Oct 19, 2013 5:53 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidmeetup.com

    Look for groups which match your interest and are sexually oriented according to your own needs.

    Also, keep in mind that you're hot as a BelAmi porn star and some guys might feel intimidated by your striking good looks. Smile, even if you're shy and quiet. Eye contact is important too. Invite their attention and conversation if you like them. Ask questions and share about Family, Occupation, Recreation and any other topics which you learn you have in common. Conversation is like a game of "baseball catch". It's the most fun when everybody is pitching and catching and nobody is "hogging the ball". Don't be afraid to ask guys if they want to go and do an activity or something which involves social time. For example, going to an arcade or playing cards. Movies are great, as long as there is time after the movie to share time and discuss the movie and get to know each other. Beach and picnic type activities can be fun as well.

    Also, consider taking a Jung Typology Test so that you know your own cognitive and social style and can learn to adapt to others in social settings.


    thanx for advice. That might work, I'll try it.
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    Oct 19, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    Maxim90m saidhow to be more interesting to other people?
    I'm always quiet and a bit shy. I am tough guy and I do like sport, music, reading, movies..,but I really dont have good friends... What should I do?icon_question.gif


    May I ask, where in South Asia?

    You look very good looking.

    Why not join a local club?

    Swim club?

    Football club?

    What books do you like to read?
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    Oct 19, 2013 6:03 PM GMT
    Do you think being shy is a bad thing?

    There are benefits to being shy.

    They are cautious.

    They are observant.

    They are usually


    http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/26/opinion/sunday/26shyness.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

    INTROVERSION IS VALUABLE.

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    Oct 19, 2013 6:29 PM GMT
    bambamgigolo said
    Oeaseaux saidDo you think being shy is a bad thing?

    There are benefits to being shy.

    They are cautious.

    They are observant.

    They are usually


    http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/26/opinion/sunday/26shyness.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

    INTROVERSION IS VALUABLE.



    from what i understand, there is NO such thing as being an introvert and an extrovert. it just depends on someone's comfort zone which allows them to open up to others. some people are open books because they feel comfortable around strangers and others. others are not. doesn't mean that they lack social skills, are hermits or anti-social. it also depends on other factors such as mental issues and etc like anxiety, autism and etc. the biggest misconception about so called "introverts" are that they lack social skills.

    only thing the op can do is just try to reach out to people or just find people he's comfortable around to express himself to without being judged.


    A spectrum then. Extroversion and introversion are extreme ends of a spectrum.