Destinharbor saidWow. Shybuffguy has some serious issues. Self loathing the first of many. The OP asked a very reasonable question and gets this response from the one local? I live in a conservative part of Florida and certainly understand the problems of a fairly open city surrounded by close-minded rednecks who unfortunately out-number us at the voting booth. Sounds like shy buff has allied with the haters. Bud, we're asking for nothing the straights haven't had throughout history. Sorry, we're demanding it. Ya don't ask, ya don't get. But equally true id Askin ain't getten. You go back into your closet and pretend these great Mormons don't know you're gay and don't hate you for it.
Let me first address your ridiculous and over used charge of my being "self loathing" and "pretending" to be straight. Neither of those are true. My Mormon neighbors know that I'm gay and in truth they are more accepting of my being gay than are most of the so called "Gay Community" of my being conservative.
Second. You, as has the OP have taken upon yourselves as if it were your right to dismiss more than 62% of the states population as if they themselves have no rights but the rights you say they can have. I find it interesting that people like you are always screeching about "majority rule", unless the majority overrules you, but, that aside.
The Op's original statement was : "I recently received a job offer in Salt Lake City. It looks like a really fun place that has progressed quite a bit from the Mormon influence. It also appears that there is a good size gay population."
So by the OP's own statement, he sees it as "progress" if the people living in the state are aligned with his ideas and and positions and have moved away from what he disparagingly refers to as the "Mormon Influence". Yet, more than 62% of the state are aligned with the ideas, positions and values of the LDS Church. I would submit to both you and the op, in light of the addresses at the recent LDS General Conference reaffirming the LDS stance on the traditional family and traditional marriage, for more than 62 % of the people living in the state for the op to move more toward alignment with their ideas and principles might represent "progress" to them . My point to the op was that if he was coming here with the idea that he was better than the majority of residents in the state by assuming that his way of thinking was the only way to progress and that he was somehow going to change the people and the state, he would be forever frustrated and unhappy here. The sad fact of life that so many refuse to admit is that it is the very "Mormon Influence" in the state that sets us apart and makes Utah an attractive palce fo many who choose to live here and most of us living here really don't want to see that change. In his replies to my original post the Op reinforced exactly the points I was making to him in my original post.
I would also point out that many of us who have moved to Utah, both Mormon and Non-Mormon have moved her for exactly the reason the Op presents disparagingly as the "Mormon Influence". As a single parent the Mormon influence and, therefore, the more traditional conservative values were for me, as for many who move into Utah a major factor in my decision to move here. And as you have so aptly demonstrated, the Mormons hate gay people much less than gay people hate them.
My intent in posting was never meant to be nasty toward the Op, only to be open and honest with him.