Sep 16, 2007 8:49 PM GMT
I was reading various forum posts for the heck of it, and there's a debate that keeps coming up on here - the question of why some people don't post "face shots" or keep a lot of info private in their profile.
I've gotten to a point in my life where I'm proud as hell to be who I am regardless of other people's opinions, so I'm not worried about posting anything about myself and it coming back in a negative way.
But I think I understand why some people are pissed that there are a number of people who don't post face pics or fill out info on their profile.
If you're worried about people "finding you out", then stay away. You don't have the balls to be honest, and that says a lot about who you are as a person. Face it, you're a coward. Quit making excuses that it's "your work" or "family". Are you saying I don't have a job or family? Coming out to my family was a real bitch, guys. No bed of roses here. Second, it's reaping the benefits without contributing. You belly up to the "communal bar" of the community, but don't want to do the work or help the rest of us out.
There is strength in numbers, and if you aren't counted as one of the group for whatever excuse you make up, you're no good to yourself, and you're no good to the rest of us either.
I had a national manager at work who was the perfect husband, Christian man, married with children kinda guy - who got drunk during a national meeting, and then came onto me after a sales meeting dinner at the hotel we were all staying at - told me he wanted me to come up to his room and f*ck him in the ass (no condom I'm assuming - and by the way, I did not do it and refused). I was angry as hell. He was putting on a facade to get the benefits of a "straight lifestyle" while coming onto me and using his position to get laid.
I hate hypocrites and I hate people who take from the pot without contributing. This nation was not built by wussies nor cowards. It was founded by people with the guts to stand up for what they believe even if it meant getting killed (Revolution).
I cannot and will not accept anyone saying that "work" prevents them from being honest on a f*cking gay website. Pack up your crap and go home then.
Do you realize how much more normal being gay or bi would be if you men quit being such cowards about it and got honest. I don't know - I live in Austin so maybe I'm blessed with cool people who don't give a damn as long as you're a nice person. But regardless, it's 2007, and I for one and fed up with the cowardice.
No more excuses, no more delaying dealing with the inevitable. Dealing with it "tomorrow" will never happen because tomorrow never comes. Accept it, or don't, but you are who you are - and no amount of working out at the gym and muscles will make you a man or a jock if you can't even handle being honest with who you are.
The only obstacle that holds the gay community back in today's world are gay men themselves.
What pisses me off even more is that ANYONE would say "it's my work" or "it's my family" - oh, like I don't have the same situation?!
Whatever it is, it must be shitty to be you. What a horrible way to live your life. Watch Brokeback Mountain and see your future. The movie is accurate of what happens to men who don't get over it and waste time "fighting" their feelings. You lose. Every time. End up alone and apart of nothing.
No more excuses. What would the world be like if we were all just freakin honest for a change......?