number exchange-- no followup...

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    Oct 20, 2013 1:54 AM GMT
    Just getting back into the dating scene after a real LTR..
    This seems to happen a few times-- guys are definitely interested at the bar or party- we do the Iphone bump---

    then no followup...

    Must be the alcohol or just being nice.. but these guys seem genuinely interested and in to me at the time...

    Perhaps I need to hang out till closing time ..icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 20, 2013 2:11 AM GMT
    With bars and parties, they may have just been looking for someone to go home with that night.

    Keep trying - with those type of venues, it might be hit or miss. If you want more dating-oriented guys, you might want to try the online dating sites.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 20, 2013 2:17 AM GMT
    don't hang out til' closing ... they won't get any better. U r very g l, so it isn't you. If they are not getting back with you, they are flakes and not worth your time ... count your blessing. ... you know the old saying ... 'you gotta kiss a lot of toads before you find a prince'
  • MikeW

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    Oct 20, 2013 3:07 AM GMT
    They probably don't even remember who you were let alone whether or not they were interested in you at the time. That's no criticism of you, exactly, as AMH said, you're vgl, so that isn't it. BUT... sometimes you have to make an IMPRESSION. I duno. Maybe try spilling your drink on them or handing them a card with a pic of your dick or something. (No, I'm not really serious about that but you get the point.)
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    Oct 20, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    talk to the quiet guy in the background, the shy one. He'll be your best bet
  • MikeW

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    Oct 20, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    boorangOz saidtalk to the quiet guy in the background, the shy one. He'll be your best bet

    Yep.

    ETA: Well, unless you're looking for a dominant top.
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    Oct 20, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
    I would call the OP back. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 20, 2013 3:18 AM GMT
    MikeW said
    boorangOz saidtalk to the quiet guy in the background, the shy one. He'll be your best bet

    Yep.

    ETA: Well, unless you're looking for a dominant top.


    Sometimes they are the quietest.....
  • MikeW

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    Oct 20, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    boorangOz said
    MikeW said
    boorangOz saidtalk to the quiet guy in the background, the shy one. He'll be your best bet

    Yep.

    ETA: Well, unless you're looking for a dominant top.


    Sometimes they are the quietest.....

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    Oct 20, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    Don't worry about guys not calling back. The right guy, at the right time, will call you back.
  • great_scott

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    Oct 20, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    They're not interested or they're waiting on a call just like you are.
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    Oct 20, 2013 5:58 AM GMT
    Thanks for the advice-- after being off the market for so long-- it's hard- and this just puzzles me..

    Ya - I get it that they're not interested-- but why go thru the bother of being interested at the moment- usually they are the ones initiating the connection..
    And I do text the next day for the followup--

    I guess the real question is how to avoid these guys and stop wasting my time..

    I'll look for the quite guy in the background icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 20, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    Finally a legitimate reason to have an I-phone--so want to bump you.

    IDK man, would hope you're not telling them you're just out of "Long" ltr right off the bat?

    "guy seemed great...why is he single?"
    -It's all electronic now, guy's know more about you without meeting you.
    IE. whats your virtual image; LinkN, facebook; what comes up when they Google you.
    -Hang out here long enough and you'll get the idea of what read flags you're waiving, without even knowing it.
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    Oct 21, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidFinally a legitimate reason to have an I-phone--so want to bump you.



    Thanks icon_smile.gif

    No I stopped talking to guys I meet out about being new to the single scene (as in my long LTR)..

    On a tangent-- the other problem I'm having is just building up my social network and meeting new friends--

    Anyways- thanks for all the advice-- I am getting my mojo back icon_cool.gif