" SEEKING SIMILAR "

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    Oct 20, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    How many times have you viewed a profile saying " I am a ' such and such ' seeking similar "

    This could be anything from personality, looks or even height. I've seen this on so many profiles including friends of mine and I'm starting to wonder if most guys only like guys who seem like carbon copies of themselves. I think its nice to be around different guys sometimes that can open me up to new things instead of the same old same old. I like myself but i dont want someone exactly the same as me ... then i'd just stay single or have no friends and date myself icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 20, 2013 7:48 PM GMT
    And what if the guy you're with likes things you don't and you're forced to adjust to his interests? Because that's what I often see when people date/marry people unlike them. The whole learning new things from your partner gets old fast and people start resenting their partners for not having mutual interests in things and they grow apart.
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    Oct 20, 2013 7:50 PM GMT
    Ravensong saidAnd what if the guy you're with likes things you don't and you're forced to adjust to his interests? Because that's what I often see when people date/marry people unlike them. The whole learning new things from your partner gets old fast and people start resenting their partners for not having mutual interests in things and they grow apart.


    Well of course some things need to be in common for a concrete relationship ( morals and such ). I think it depends on how committed both are to making it work
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    Oct 20, 2013 7:52 PM GMT
    bambamgigolo saidat least they have the courtesy to tell you to avoid them.


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    Oct 20, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    There are so many different ways to spin this. You can even say that the guy is just politely indicating he's looking for guys of his own race/ethnicity.

    But for the most part, I think it just means he's looking for guys with same/similar interests and activities as him. Narcissism might not be a factor here.
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    Oct 20, 2013 8:00 PM GMT
    don't read too much into it, it's really not worth it
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    Oct 20, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    somersault saiddon't read too much into it, it's really not worth it

    Such sage advice... Must be a sign of pigs flying!icon_lol.gificon_wink.gif
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    Oct 20, 2013 8:08 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    somersault saiddon't read too much into it, it's really not worth it

    Such sage advice... Must be a sign of pigs flying!icon_lol.gificon_wink.gif


    look dude we all know he's fishing for the diversity/race setup
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    Oct 20, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    bambamgigolo said
    xrichx saidThere are so many different ways to spin this. You can even say that the guy is just politely indicating he's looking for guys of his own race/ethnicity.

    But for the most part, I think it just means he's looking for guys with same/similar interests and activities as him. Narcissism might not be a factor here.


    are you sure about that? some dudes literally want someone who's into the same exact things they do to a tee. it's like they want someone who likes the same exact music artist they do and even dresses exactly like them. i was horrified when i seen gay male couples @ the gay pride parade in new york dressing the same. icon_eek.gif no joke. same shades, same t-shirt, same jeans, same height, same everything. it just makes you wonder WHO they're really in love with.
    That might be an extreme example. Plus it was pride. Couples like to do lame things like dress the same in order to be seen.
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    Oct 20, 2013 8:12 PM GMT
    bambamgigolo said
    xrichx saidThere are so many different ways to spin this. You can even say that the guy is just politely indicating he's looking for guys of his own race/ethnicity.

    But for the most part, I think it just means he's looking for guys with same/similar interests and activities as him. Narcissism might not be a factor here.


    are you sure about that? some dudes literally want someone who's into the same exact things they do to a tee. it's like they want someone who likes the same exact music artist they do and even dresses exactly like them. i was horrified when i seen gay male couples @ the gay pride parade in new york dressing the same. icon_eek.gif no joke. same shades, same t-shirt, same jeans, same height, same everything. folks think that romance or love is basically looking like twins or clones. icon_confused.gif that's some controlling shit.

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    Oct 20, 2013 8:26 PM GMT
    Ravensong said
    bambamgigolo said
    xrichx saidThere are so many different ways to spin this. You can even say that the guy is just politely indicating he's looking for guys of his own race/ethnicity.

    But for the most part, I think it just means he's looking for guys with same/similar interests and activities as him. Narcissism might not be a factor here.


    are you sure about that? some dudes literally want someone who's into the same exact things they do to a tee. it's like they want someone who likes the same exact music artist they do and even dresses exactly like them. i was horrified when i seen gay male couples @ the gay pride parade in new york dressing the same. icon_eek.gif no joke. same shades, same t-shirt, same jeans, same height, same everything. folks think that romance or love is basically looking like twins or clones. icon_confused.gif that's some controlling shit.



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    Oct 20, 2013 8:44 PM GMT
    Let's face reality. As much as we try to have some diversity in our lives, we usually end up associating with what's familiar and similar to us.
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    Oct 20, 2013 8:48 PM GMT
    It's an simple way of being up front, if you've got enough detail about yourself in your profile, you can just put similar in the category that asks what you are looking for. I don't think most guys want someone who is exactly like them, but at least a few things in common is a good place to start.
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    Oct 20, 2013 8:50 PM GMT
    bambamgigolo said
    xrichx saidLet's face reality. As much as we try to have some diversity in our lives, we usually end up associating with what's familiar and similar to us.


    true... but some of us are exceptions though such as myself where we just don't fit in because we're weird.

    Then find someone weird.
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    Oct 20, 2013 9:12 PM GMT
    It usually comes after them describing themselves as either into fitness or intelligent.

    Usually for the fitness types it's because they don't want some fat guy at home eating Pringles on the couch and making defensive comments.

    For the brainiacs I guess they want someone who they can solve Rubik's cubes with or whatever clever people do in their spare time.
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    Oct 20, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    Feel it really leans to much to competition--how competitive are you?
    If you like the same things; well, someones going to be better at it. I find it fun with friends; in a lover, not so much.
    --having differing interest and out looks, can very spicy.
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    Oct 20, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    Well its only logical to want to be with someone whos into the same stuff than you and share interests and point of views. On the other hand sometimes the opposites attracts, so I guess it depends on the person. Im VERY similar to my bf and sometimes its a big problem because as the texan said you get involved in stupid competitions and ego fights
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    Oct 20, 2013 11:51 PM GMT
    i think its really closed minded when someone only wants someone who's exactly like them. wats the fun in that?
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    Oct 21, 2013 1:59 AM GMT
    bambamgigolo said
    Ravensong said
    bambamgigolo said
    xrichx saidThere are so many different ways to spin this. You can even say that the guy is just politely indicating he's looking for guys of his own race/ethnicity.

    But for the most part, I think it just means he's looking for guys with same/similar interests and activities as him. Narcissism might not be a factor here.


    are you sure about that? some dudes literally want someone who's into the same exact things they do to a tee. it's like they want someone who likes the same exact music artist they do and even dresses exactly like them. i was horrified when i seen gay male couples @ the gay pride parade in new york dressing the same. icon_eek.gif no joke. same shades, same t-shirt, same jeans, same height, same everything. folks think that romance or love is basically looking like twins or clones. icon_confused.gif that's some controlling shit.



    i think the research is flawed for one reason. how many couples stay together for 20-35 plus years? it's difficult for people to stay together for a year or two. don't think that similar interests guarantee anything either.

    I didn't have the patience to listen to those two talking heads but the reason couples start looking alike after 25-30 years is the same simple reason old men look like old women and vice versa - everyone's nose gets bigger and more bulbous, eyelids droop, ears elongate, hair thins. Go to any nursing home and half the patients look related!

    As for the topic...

    "Seeking dissimilar. Young. Blonde. Green eyed. Swimmer's body. Mathematically inclined. Oh - and straight."