Grindr is the devil's work

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    Oct 21, 2013 10:04 AM GMT
    I want to know what you guys thinks about grindr.

    I've found it to be fun most of the times. But thinking about it, it feel like it does more harm than good. Two of my three relationships have ended indirectly from it.

    I'm not saying its bad if you want to hook up. But I feel that many people get hooked on it and even if they don't use it to get laid there are negative consequences eventually.
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    Oct 21, 2013 10:43 AM GMT
    "Two of my three relationships have ended indirectly from it."

    May I ask why and how, or would that be too personal?

    I have never used it but I admit I am conservative due to my anxiety problems. I do want to get laid and Grindr seems like a good platform to meet guys, but since it is for hook ups I would not be interested in it. Call me old fashioned and conservative but I am more interested in Match.com type platforms. I have met guys from there but it hasn't served me well.

    I could be mistaken, but from my understanding of it it seems like it serves for the sexually active gay man. You might meet the man of your dreams but for me, if it means finding the right guy (long term relationship) I don't think it would work out so well. Hooking up is not for me. I wouldn't mind meeting people from there and forming a possible relationship but if it is just hooking up, not my cup of tea.
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    Oct 21, 2013 11:28 AM GMT
    If by blaming grindr for men having opportunistic sex with other easy men, then I could see how you could blame grindr for ruining relationships, but long before grindr, there were other sources of hooking up outside of a relationship, grindr just makes GPS and finding a quick hookup very easy.
    That said, some men have issues committing and no matter what the hookup option, they will use it. Find a quality man and find a way to make it work, but if you hook up with scummy men, scummy things will always follow.
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    Oct 21, 2013 1:14 PM GMT
    It's a hookup app! That pretty much sums it up!
  • TheiKevin

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    Oct 21, 2013 1:40 PM GMT
    Grindr = almost useless unless horny.

    I HAVE met some cool people on there who were not just looking for a hookup. But I don't talk to any of them anymore. So it could be used as a platform to meet new friends although in the end you meet on grindr and the chances of anything substantial coming from it are slim.
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    Oct 21, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    TheiKevin saidGrindr = almost useless unless horny.

    I HAVE met some cool people on there who were not just looking for a hookup. But I don't talk to any of them anymore. So it could be used as a platform to meet new friends although in the end you meet on grindr and the chances of anything substantial coming from it are slim.

    My hand works just fine when I am horny. I can't understand the idiots who hookup endlessly just because they can. Seek therapy.
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    Oct 21, 2013 1:58 PM GMT
    The same guys on Grindr are the same guys who frequent the gay bars. I despise the gay bar scene, so I deleted that app after the first week. Most of the guys on Grindr want to fuck without knowing a damn thing about me which is a huge red flag for me. Scruff is much better for my personal tastes because you can actually have lengthy conversations and get to know someone first.
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    Oct 21, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    Youll also find that the same guys on Grinder have a nice dating profile on Match.com etc and a slutty one on Grinder or Scruff.

    It tends to be the same guys on different apps.

    I think they have their place although Ive never met anyone on one of those apps who I would ever consider to be a real friend. people who say they are "looking for friends" on those apps are using a euphemism because they are too ashamed to be honest about what they ae really after.

    Moral is: just be honest about what you want- if its not for you its not for you. The gay world is much more than a hook up app. although I will admit that I was put of the social circuit of the gay community when I went to a sports group and very soon discovered that all the members were busy fucking each other.

    It made me wonder how much gay men can be friends with each other without the sexual tension and as a result- I just stayed away from those social groups.
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    Oct 21, 2013 5:45 PM GMT
    http://goodmenproject.com/everyday-life-2/kt-what-grindr-taught-me-about-being-a-man/comment-page-1/
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    Oct 21, 2013 9:31 PM GMT
    I've never been on grindr and have no interests in joining. To me, it's probably better to go to the gay bars and hook up. It sounds a bit desperate to hook up with someone randomly. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 21, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    Don't blame me, i have nothing to do with that ridiculous app.....
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    Oct 21, 2013 11:14 PM GMT
    I don't use it for hooking up. It's just the same as meeting someone at a bar if you ask me. Many times guys at bars are just looking to get laid too. You just have to weed them out depending on what you want from the situation.
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    Oct 21, 2013 11:21 PM GMT
    hellass saidI don't use it for hooking up. It's just the same as meeting someone at a bar if you ask me. Many times guys at bars are just looking to get laid too. You just have to weed them out depending on what you want from the situation.


    you have sex with guys you meet at bars?
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    Oct 22, 2013 1:18 AM GMT
    Stop blaming the technology and start blaming the PEOPLE.

    Grindr didn't end your relationship, the PEOPLE you met did (or however it went).

    can you imagine what it was like 5-10 years ago? 15-20? 50-100? being gay in 1929 and trying to meet other gay guys?

    life is so fucking easy now (relatively speaking), that apps like Grindr/Scruff/ETC make it only even easier and better for us as gay men to meet other gay men (for whatever your reason may be, whether it's for relationships, sex, friendship, etc...).

    Now, does this mean that shady people never existed before grindr/scruff/etc? no, of course not. there have always been shady people. if you used newspaper ads or random phone numbers on a bathroom stall wall in a porn shop trying to meet someone; you'd still meet those shady people.
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    Oct 22, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    Just to put it out there:
    I know off more than a couple straight guys that find hours of entertainment on it.
    Never had it, but now I hate by proxy, as in they come to me to ask did I know...
  • kuroshiro

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    Oct 22, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidThe same guys on Grindr are the same guys who frequent the gay bars. I despise the gay bar scene, so I deleted that app after the first week. Most of the guys on Grindr want to fuck without knowing a damn thing about me which is a huge red flag for me. Scruff is much better for my personal tastes because you can actually have lengthy conversations and get to know someone first.


    Um... and scruff is somehow different from Grindr...how? Oh wait, that's right... it's not.
  • Eli_jah

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    Oct 22, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    metropolitan saidI want to know what you guys thinks about grindr.

    I've found it to be fun most of the times. But thinking about it, it feel like it does more harm than good. Two of my three relationships have ended indirectly from it.

    I'm not saying its bad if you want to hook up. But I feel that many people get hooked on it and even if they don't use it to get laid there are negative consequences eventually.


    I don't use it. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 28, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    Too many hook ups and if you are not careful you would probably wish you hadn't. We can practice safer sex.
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    Oct 28, 2013 3:49 PM GMT
    somersault said
    hellass saidI don't use it for hooking up. It's just the same as meeting someone at a bar if you ask me. Many times guys at bars are just looking to get laid too. You just have to weed them out depending on what you want from the situation.


    you have sex with guys you meet at bars?

    Glory Hole sex...
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    Nov 13, 2013 6:57 AM GMT
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    somersault said
    hellass saidI don't use it for hooking up. It's just the same as meeting someone at a bar if you ask me. Many times guys at bars are just looking to get laid too. You just have to weed them out depending on what you want from the situation.


    you have sex with guys you meet at bars?

    Glory Hole sex...


    Your face is too pretty for that...
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    Nov 13, 2013 1:26 PM GMT
    I have mixed feelings about Grindr, Jackd, Growlr, etc:

    I have met some good friends actually from all of the apps being relatively new to the area.

    Have also met some people that I'd like to forget ( ie. Open Relationship, Flaky friends and creepy people, STRAIGHTS looking for a gay fling??)

    I have actually deleted the apps off my phone. Utilizing RJ and Meetup to meet new people now.
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    Nov 13, 2013 1:35 PM GMT
    I dated a couple of guys though Grindr, the first I did when commencing the dating process was to delete Grindr, I thought that was common sense.
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    Nov 13, 2013 11:41 PM GMT
    somersault said
    hellass saidI don't use it for hooking up. It's just the same as meeting someone at a bar if you ask me. Many times guys at bars are just looking to get laid too. You just have to weed them out depending on what you want from the situation.


    you have sex with guys you meet at bars?


    I don't have sex period. I'm a monk.
  • e2ksj3355

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    Nov 14, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    I like the idea of Grindr and location social apps, but sexed crazed gay guys have ruined them. They use them mostly for hookups and rarely try to form long term friendships.

    It is difficult for a gay guy to find other gay guys, especially if they aren't out. I still use the app, but have been back and forth with it. I've made one good friend off of it, but all the other guys I have talked to are just looking for sex.
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    Nov 27, 2013 8:00 AM GMT
    What is scruff?