Celebrate being alive.

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    Oct 22, 2013 6:36 PM GMT
    My co-worker Terry was one of the most thoughtful people I've ever met.

    I'm a manager up front, and he was in maintenance (cleaning bathrooms, ect). We joked around that a lot that if we switched each others jobs there is no way we'd be able to handle it. Honestly, I think his job was worse.

    Terry was 40 and extremely poor. Like, dirt poor. I loaned him some money to get to work and back when I could, but it still wasn't enough. He'd bring back old clothes and I'd give him a refund for it so he could buy lunch or whatever.

    He had his baby a couple of months ago, and even though I know it wasn't a good decision at all, it still happened. He was extremely excited to become a father, and the look of joy on his face when he talked about his baby is something I won't forget.

    Terry was slow. I don't know how or why, but something wasn't all there. Still, he was a co-worker and a friend and we both appreciated each other. People were dicks to him. They really were. People are just downright dicks to things they're scared of or don't understand.

    Terry's baby was diagnosed with down syndrome sometime later, and they didn't think it would make it. It had open heart surgery, but that still didn't seem to help with things. I'm still not sure if the baby will make it.

    He was transferring to a different store two weeks ago, and finally had a house that was passed down to him. He was sad about leaving work, and so was I, but I told him I was excited about his new life, and he was too. He was moving to a college town and was so excited about seeing Alabama cheerleaders :-)!

    Terry died yesterday morning. A massive heart attack. I don't know why, I don't know how, but I don't care. People from work gossiped about it all day, but they cared more about how he died than him actually being dead.
    "Maybe his wife poisoned him."
    "Maybe she wanted insurance money."
    "He might have committed suicide."

    I could do nothing except go in the back room and fucking cry. For what seems like years I finally broke down and let something get to me.

    The last thing I remember is giving him a hug and told him to see an get an autograph from an Alabama football player for me.

    I think it finally hit me that tomorrow is never promised for anybody, and we should appreciate people more while they're alive instead of when they're dead. I'm still in a bit of shock stage but death is a reality that is all too real.

    So give someone you love a hug today, and let people know you care about them. Please. And if their is somebody out there who is different or feels like an outcast, please reach out to them and let them know they're loved and cared about it. I wish more people would have let him know that.
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    Oct 22, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
    A lucky man will marry you.
  • MikeW

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    Oct 22, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    Great post Josh! Sorry for your loss. What you say is so true. We have so much to be thankful for. YOU are one wonderful guy. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 22, 2013 7:07 PM GMT
    MikeW saidGreat post Josh! Sorry for your loss. What you say is so true. We have so much to be thankful for. YOU are one wonderful guy. icon_wink.gif


    ...and right now I'm thankful I got to know Josh, both here on RJ and elsewhere.

    And to celebrate life...



    "State of life-may I live-may I love
    Coming out the sky, I name me a name

    Coming out-silver word-what it is
    It is the very nature of the sound the game
    Siamese, indionese. to tibet treat the life
    As a game, if you please

    (hey)

    Coming up-carabi-this sense of freedom
    Derives from a medative state

    Movin' on, 'believe' that's it, call it magic
    Third world, it is, I only guessed it

    Shablam idi shablam ida
    Shablam idi shablam ida
    Shablam idi shablam ida

    Shot to the soul-the flame of oroladin
    The essence of the word
    The 'state of independence'

    [interlude]

    Sounds like a signal from you
    Bring me to meet your sound
    And I will bring you to my heart

    Love like a signal you call
    Touching my body my soul
    Bring to me, you to meet me here

    Home be the temple of your heart
    Home be the body of your love
    Just like holy water to my lips

    (hey, hey)

    Yes I do know how I survive
    (yes I do know) know why I'm alive
    To love and be with you
    Day by day by day by day

    (hey, hey)
    Say-aye yaya oh
    (yayah yaya oh)
    'be the sound of higher love' today

    (yayah)

    (hey, hey)
    Time, time again, it is said
    We will hear, we will see
    See it all-in his wisdom-hear
    His truth will abound the land
    This truth will abound the land
    This state of independence shall be
    This state of independence shall be
    Time, time again, it is said
    We will hear, we will see
    See it all-in his wisdom-hear
    His truth will abound the land
    This truth will abound the land
    This state of independence shall be
    This state of independence shall be
    This state of independence shall be
    This state of independence shall be
    This state of independence shall be
    This state of independence shall be..."

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    Oct 22, 2013 7:32 PM GMT
    theantijock saidA lucky man will marry you.


    So very lucky.
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    Oct 22, 2013 7:46 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said
    I think it finally hit me that tomorrow is never promised for anybody, and we should appreciate people more while they're alive instead of when they're dead. I'm still in a bit of shock stage but death is a reality that is all too real.

    So give someone you love a hug today, and let people know you care about them. Please. And if their is somebody out there who is different or feels like an outcast, please reach out to them and let them know they're loved and cared about it. I wish more people would have let him know that.

    When I first saw the trend of memorial pages made for people on Facebook some years ago, it struck me as incredibly sad when without fail a number of the deceased person's friends said some variation of: "you are [insert awesome things to say here] and I wish I'd told you while you were alive." It made me decide to be intentional about expressing the positive things I feel about someone so that there's no regret. I'm not sure why there's such a phobia around expressing feelings, and the finality/reality of death is a hard way for us to learn to drop that fear, but at least we learn right?

    You're a beautiful man. Inside and out. Thanks for sharing your friend with us
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    Oct 22, 2013 8:36 PM GMT
    Thank you so much for the love, support, and kind words guys! If anyone is interested I'll send you guys a facebook link for a page that gives updates and support for Terry's baby, and more information about him. Feel free to PM me if anyone wants it.

    Thanks again!
  • pandx970

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    Oct 22, 2013 8:40 PM GMT
    What an ode to a sincere, honest person. Everyone deserves such respect and I'm happy to know that You've given due respect to Terry. Sorry for your loss.
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    Oct 22, 2013 10:16 PM GMT
    You are a remarkable young man.
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    Oct 23, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    Josh --- I'm sorry for your loss. You're a beautiful guy inside and out. Thanks for sharing with us your message.
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    Oct 23, 2013 1:59 AM GMT
    duluthrunner saidJosh --- I'm sorry for your loss. You're a beautiful guy inside and out. Thanks for sharing with us your message.



    Yes, you have a BIG heart!!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 23, 2013 1:59 AM GMT
    Life is fragile

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    God grant him and his family peace.
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    Oct 23, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    Sone said"Maybe his wife poisoned him."
    "Maybe she wanted insurance money."
    "He might have committed suicide."

    Reason #1 why we have workplace conflicts. Busy losing your humanity instead of focusing on your job.



    Very, very true!!!!!
  • ChicagoSteve

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    Oct 23, 2013 2:05 AM GMT
    Wow Josh, I am very sorry to hear that. But you speak words of wisdom. We never know how long any of us have here so you have to appreciate every day as a gift and treat others kindly. I think how a man treats others, especially those who are less fortunate than him, speaks volumes about his character.
  • CityofDreams

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    Oct 23, 2013 6:50 AM GMT
    Is anyone else in love with JumpMan_Josh? icon_smile.gif You are a beautiful soul, Josh. I am always excited to read your posts! We think very similarly.

    It's tragic to read about Terry. The fact that his baby has down-syndrome has me teary-eyed, long story, but special needs children hold the key to my heart. These little angels can teach us more about ourselves than we can ever imagine possible. They are all beautiful!

    Lastly, Terry had a great life ahead of him, but alas it wasn't meant to be. When the stars align life is ravishing, but without notice it can steal you of everything. Life is extremely fragile. If you have ever lost someone you dearly loved, a person whom you envisioned living the rest of your life with, you will know what I mean! The sooner you realize your mortality, the faster you'll start living and appreciating the wonderful people around you.

    Live and love as if today were your last.
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    Oct 23, 2013 12:09 PM GMT
    Death is truly the only certainty in life. Morbid thought but it's a reality many people take for granted until it hits home.

    Someone I knew passed away this summer after a traffic incident while biking. Went to HS with him, then we went to the same college. We had mutual friends but hung out in the different circles but he was friendly to me and just about everyone else regardless. He was a marine, cross country athlete, aspiring police officer and more........ and now gone at age 22.


    Josh, from the time i've been here, i've seen nothing but the utmost positivity from you. Even if the people don't ultimately follow your advice to appreciate those around them, i'm pretty confident that you will continue to and that's very admirable
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    Oct 23, 2013 3:58 PM GMT
    Sorry mate , it definitely hurts to lose someone you care about .. You definitely are a very caring bloke , as someone mentioned it earlier in this thread , you will make someone very happy in the futur ..
    Tight hug to you Josh .