FloridaCarFan said...All I was trying to say is that I've noticed that when I am truly in love and share everything...all I have...money, love, resources...affection...that's what drives guys away. Prolly something about me...yeah...I guess I am an asshole... go ahead...stomp me some more you fucking dick!
That must be you being holier than thou.
Someone who treats people like shit as you have already announced you do in saying that "the ones I act indifferent towards have kept coming back for more
", indicating ongoing poor treatment, perhaps is not treating someone as earnestly well when they think they are, because if you were being kindly, consistently, you would clearly state you are not interested instead of allowing them to come back for more. It would not become an ongoing abusive relationship.
So if the kindness is merely convenient, then just maybe the other guy picks up on that when you are being kind. Could also be esteem issues on the other guy involved, or by both as it could be you seeking that out or it certainly seems that you don't like the guys who like you. What does that say? Not everyone is like this.
I've not had people in my life who I continually treated badly because I simply don't do that and if you think that's holier than thou, you're being an idiot.
I have had such experiences as I noted of people treating me badly, but I rarely allowed that, I was aware of it at the time and it was by damaged people who eventually crossed a line beyond return.
My pointing out that you seem to be kidding yourself is not me being a dick. Now go let somebody love you.