Safe sex after HIV

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    Oct 23, 2013 10:05 AM GMT
    I've seen many comments from HIV positive men who after their diagnosis then are more careful about safe sex.

    I know they should be safe even after the diagnosis (for many reasons), but it makes me wonder why they choose to practice safe sex then and not before. I'd like to hear (specially from HIV-positive men) what you think.

    I also know there are some that where mostly careful during sex but one mistake changed their status and then go to bareback only. It just makes me wonder that goes inside their mind. I'm not judging, just want to be more informed.
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    Oct 23, 2013 11:36 AM GMT
    Interesting question every time I've met a guy who insisted I go bareback but says he's neg I leave it alone its a trap I'm sure
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    Oct 23, 2013 1:04 PM GMT
    Don't forget..
    * A simple puncture in a condom..
    * Stealthing.
    * The one night you get too drunk.
    * The new boyfriend that tested negative right after he was exposed.

    There are many that have been overly cautious that still got infected.

    .. I have seen the rise in 'Bareback Only' profiles on the net..
    Coincidentally Bareback porn sales are through the roof.
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    Oct 23, 2013 3:30 PM GMT
    You can't trust anyone these days, just tell however is saying, I am negative 'great' now I am gonna put on a condom or you are gonna wear one and we gonna keep negative.

    If they can't handle it and insist on BB, just tell them, thank you for your time and have a nice day.
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    Oct 28, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    Claim: Because deep down gay men are destructive. All they want is sex.

    Prove me wrong.

    Prove to the public that gay men are responsible citizens who will stand up against HIV, leading by example.
  • Bunjamon

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    Oct 28, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    The best way to prevent exposure to HIV is to use a condom. I cannot speak to how one's perception to "safe sex" changes pre-/post-HIV diagnosis, but the possible factors at play are likely too numerous to mention.

    However, Out Magazine did an interesting article about the advent of PrEP, which may allow men to protect themselves even if they want to bareback with someone they don't know well and/or who hasn't been tested recently.