Is the Online Dating/Hookup a dieing thing?

  • mrsmithers

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    Oct 24, 2013 1:37 AM GMT
    I've been on manhunt, adam4adam since around 2006, and back then I noticed it use to be alot of fun, and alot of different types of guys, and was a much friendlier experience.. Now I notice that they became cluttered with fakes and terribly out of shape guys, and mostly older guys are the only ones active.. At least in my area and South Florida.. If they are not online anymore, where are people going? I know they are not going to the bars in my city, because they are empty.. I've been on Grinder for about a year and there isn't much on there either.. I still think it's better to meet someone out somewhere and not online.. Whether if it's for casual sex or dating..
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Oct 24, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    Apps these days are cluttered with kids who think they are so goodlooking they don't bother messaging anyone and won't respond to you if your not good looking enough.Thats why these apps should be thrown away.
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    Oct 24, 2013 8:40 AM GMT
    mrsmithers saidIf they are not online anymore, where are people going?


    They're going to the bigger cities where the population is more diverse.
  • mrsmithers

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    Oct 24, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    Ya, I agree they are looking for that custom made man, the apps should be thrown away.. And them going to big cities, that's probably true also.. Most suburban ares have died out almost completely..
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    Oct 24, 2013 6:14 PM GMT
    He's in So FL, Orlando and NYC so there should be a lot of guys.

    I wonder what your saved search criteria is???? Broader is better sometimes!
  • mrsmithers

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    Oct 24, 2013 11:34 PM GMT
    I'd say im picky, but not as picky as most.. Like them around the age 25-35 give or take a few, depending on the person. Like them masc (a man), and at least HWP.. alot of people are worried about height and hair etc, and that doesn't faze me either way.. I don't think that's too much to ask for, id say..
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    Oct 27, 2013 6:10 PM GMT
    LoveAndPeace saidApps these days are cluttered with kids who think they are so goodlooking they don't bother messaging anyone and won't respond to you if your not good looking enough.Thats why these apps should be thrown away.


    I feel like there's no way to NOT be rude when communicating with people you're not attracted to on a dating site. You either don't respond, or you respond in quick, short answers without inquiring about them, then they don't get the hint and then you start ignoring them anyway. And you REALLY can't respond to the headless torsos, because as soon as you ask for a pic they either get offended, or they'll send you one and if you're not attracted then it just gets awkward.

    And, mrsmithers, I agree - based on what you said, I don't think you're all that picky. What do you mean by "cluttered with fakes" though?
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    Oct 27, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    mrsmithers saidI'd say im picky, but not as picky as most.. Like them around the age 25-35 give or take a few, depending on the person. Like them masc (a man), and at least HWP.. alot of people are worried about height and hair etc, and that doesn't faze me either way.. I don't think that's too much to ask for, id say..


    I just did an A4A search for FL southeast, age 25-38, athletic/muscular/body builder and there are 54 guys right now!
  • mrsmithers

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    Oct 27, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    Take the images and drag and drop them into the google image search from each profile, you will be surprised to see an infinite amount of pages of blogs and porn sites, where the images were hi-jacked.. I bet it's well more than half of the 54 of those profiles you searched..
  • mrsmithers

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    Oct 27, 2013 10:12 PM GMT
    HottieJ said
    LoveAndPeace saidApps these days are cluttered with kids who think they are so goodlooking they don't bother messaging anyone and won't respond to you if your not good looking enough.Thats why these apps should be thrown away.


    I feel like there's no way to NOT be rude when communicating with people you're not attracted to on a dating site. You either don't respond, or you respond in quick, short answers without inquiring about them, then they don't get the hint and then you start ignoring them anyway. And you REALLY can't respond to the headless torsos, because as soon as you ask for a pic they either get offended, or they'll send you one and if you're not attracted then it just gets awkward.

    And, mrsmithers, I agree - based on what you said, I don't think you're all that picky. What do you mean by "cluttered with fakes" though?


    Thanks HottieJ.. Cluttered with fake profiles meaning, users with multiple accounts using pics of headless torsos, sometimes even with face included.. Usually stolen from blogs and porn sites that show pics of nice defined bodies..

    LOL sometimes with the headless pics, google images will find the same pic with the head..
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    Oct 28, 2013 12:39 AM GMT
    Erm, if anything, it's growing. Guys are less likely to pick each other up at clubs anymore... they just stand around with their friends all looking down into their apps. We've become extremely savvy customers looking for the very best deal possible (hottest guy within 10 miles who wants you) while often ending up with nothing.
  • mrsmithers

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    Oct 28, 2013 6:54 AM GMT
    gooddaytoday saidErm, if anything, it's growing. Guys are less likely to pick each other up at clubs anymore... they just stand around with their friends all looking down into their apps. We've become extremely savvy customers looking for the very best deal possible (hottest guy within 10 miles who wants you) while often ending up with nothing.


    I agree, but I think the apps would help the clubs, they could be looking and find the person in the same building and then set to meet at a spot, and go from there.. I know the internet and these apps have grown over the years, but I still think the best way to meet is in person.. Yes, I've noticed people are looking for something closest and hottest, but sometimes people should be willing to travel, or compromise.. One thing I've noticed on those sites, NO ONE HAS A CAR, and expect some hot guy to be handed to them on a silver platter in that very moment..