People complimenting and noticing your body?

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    Nov 29, 2008 11:36 PM GMT
    I noticed when I was thinner and didn't work out people would compliment my face or say im cute or whatever. However now that I am lifting, I almost always get compliments and noticing my body. I guess I should take that as a compliment but I start to feel like are all people noticing is my body? It kind of makes me feel a little degraded or like something is wrong or not attractive about the rest of me my face,personality ect. Does anyone else get this? Do people usually compliment ur body? How do you take it?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 30, 2008 1:18 AM GMT
    I think all compliments should be taken in stride. I always thank those who make the remark... I've had some that are pretty over the top. Just remember, there's always someone with a better body
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    Nov 30, 2008 1:19 AM GMT
    What have you been complimenting in other guys in the last 2 weeks?
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    Nov 30, 2008 1:38 AM GMT
    Maybe they figure you are more responsible for the effort to develop your body, than you are for your looks. And that is more praiseworthy So they are complimenting your effort, too, when they compliment your body.
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    Nov 30, 2008 1:39 AM GMT
    jlk7jester saidI noticed when I was thinner and didn't work out people would compliment my face or say im cute or whatever. However now that I am lifting, I almost always get compliments and noticing my body. I guess I should take that as a compliment but I start to feel like are all people noticing is my body? It kind of makes me feel a little degraded or like something is wrong or not attractive about the rest of me my face,personality ect. Does anyone else get this? Do people usually compliment ur body? How do you take it?


    I've felt the same way after losing all of my weight. It does seem degrading, but I've realized that they mean well. Now, if all a guy wants is my body, he's definitely not getting it. But, a simple compliment and a conversation is definitely OK. As for friends complimenting body, they're just trying to make you feel good and proud, and possibly a little jealous. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 30, 2008 1:40 AM GMT
    Boy, what kind of bitches look for reasons to be insulted by a compliment? ... icon_rolleyes.gif
  • EricLA

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    Nov 30, 2008 1:45 AM GMT
    Well, I don't think I have an attractive face, so I'm happy with ANY compliments. icon_eek.gif

    As for you, Jester, I think you need to be secure with the fact you are a handsome guy (and you are, trust me). Maybe they compliment you on your body because that is something you had to work for, and not for your face which you had less control over.
  • EricLA

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    Nov 30, 2008 1:45 AM GMT
    charlitos saidWhat have you been complimenting in other guys in the last 2 weeks?


    OMG Charlitos!! You look adorable in those glasses! Very Clark Kent.

    Woof.
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    Nov 30, 2008 1:46 AM GMT
    Caslon8000 saidBoy, what kind of bitches look for reasons to be insulted by a compliment? ... icon_rolleyes.gif



    hahaha, oh that's awesome
  • ajw18

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    Nov 30, 2008 1:49 AM GMT
    I think that people are more vocal about praising things that is known to take more work. Building up a body is one of those things. Encouragement should always be welcome.
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    Nov 30, 2008 2:49 AM GMT
    Always be flattered when you receive a compliment. . . always say 'thank you'. . . and never consider a compliment "degrading" (??) . . . good grief, ENJOY IT
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    Nov 30, 2008 2:57 AM GMT
    Everyone stares at me when I go out.


    I'm so shy around more then a few people so I hate any attention.
    It makes me feel weird. I guess when they say I have a nice body, it makes me want to make it better.

    There are always those comments, as soon as you walk by you hear the word STEROIDS. Of course they say it when I walk by and assume I didnt hear it. I guess I shouldn't assume they are talking about me, but come on now. When a buff guy walks by two skinny old dudes, why else would they use that word.
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    Nov 30, 2008 3:40 AM GMT
    Back in my old hometown I never got any compliments. I had been chubby until around the middle of my sophmore year and then everyone kept commenting on my weight loss; there were even rumors I was doing coke. I went through the whole feeling invisible phase, still working through it, but since I've moved people complimented my body. Someone had said, "Did you lift in Texas?" I don't see myself so the new comment caught me off guard, "I said yeah, but that I don't see myself as big." They said, "Everyone I've met from Texas is big, you included." I'm still adjusting to the scant new attention. It's hard for me to take any compliment because I always tear them apart.
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    Nov 30, 2008 4:50 AM GMT
    I was a scrawny guy before. Then two years ago, I got a trainer and cliche as it sounds--it changed me for the better. I was became active, confident, and looked at myself in the mirror more. I went from 121 to 150 lbs. now its a lifestyle that i'm working out not to mention dancing all the time. A dancer has to work on its physique. Anyways, I can relate about not learning how to accept a compliment. I guess I've always been humble but there are times I'll be laughing and people will be serious. I guess the hard work pays off and it is not so bad to accept the kudos. It is a confident booster and I never been more cut and defined in my life. but like one guy said "take it all in stride". If you feel confident you'll appear confident.
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    Nov 30, 2008 5:50 AM GMT
    I get compliments almost always on my ass and almost never on my face.
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    Nov 30, 2008 6:16 AM GMT
    jakebenson saidI get compliments almost always on my ass and almost never on my face.

    Oh lord, give me strength not to say it! ...

    say what?

    aint saying

    oh c'mon ...you started it already

    nope....

    just a hint then...

    well, it has the words ..."and," "absolutely," "personality," "on," "his," and "never" in it. But I aint saying nothing more.

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  • GQjock

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    Nov 30, 2008 7:29 AM GMT
    I know some people are getting down on jlk for complaining about getting compliments on his body ... how dare He !

    But he brings up a valid point

    It's all their noticing
    Gay men can get a little bit focused on the physical
    I know that's a little hard to believe .. but it's true icon_rolleyes.gif

    jlk ... use this to your advantage
    Thank whomever is paying you the compliment and don't look at his ulterior motive for saying it
    just take it for it's face value and thats all
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    Nov 30, 2008 8:09 AM GMT
    Being big and fit has a number of benefits other than just the big and fit and healthy part: it's a very sexual thing and folks respond at a primal level.

    Their reactions can be varied:
    1. resentment
    2. fear
    3. jealousy
    4. adoration
    5. lust
    6. fight
    7. flight
    8. envy
    9. hate
    .
    As someone who has been a 9.1 to 9.9 on the ratings for years, as someone who holds trophies in bodybuilding and powerlifting as well as ice hockey, and having been active and built all my adult life (my 33rd year of lifting), I've experienced all the above for many years. It is what it is, and a by-product of being "different". I don't feel it's "normal" to be fat, and out of shape, nor real thin, but, facts are that most folks are kind of lazy, don't eat right, and lack discipline.

    I wouldn't sweat it. It beats chemotherapy.

    How do I take it? With a grain of salt. There's always someone bigger, or better looking, or more fit, younger, etc. There's always the haters. There's always the skinny guys that think I should be attracted to them because they adore me. There's always the young guy who won't eat who thinks I have some magic pill. There are worse things in life.
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    Nov 30, 2008 8:36 AM GMT
    I think I saw Chucky in a Wheaties box once too
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    Nov 30, 2008 8:51 AM GMT
    I do tend to get a lot of compliments for being a big guy. I'm 6' 240 bench 345, squat 455, deadlift 500. I know it sounds like bragging but whatever. I'm pretty damn smart too. I almost never get recognized for my abilities at work. I seem to get stereotyped as a big jock with no brain. I get pissed when people are set back by the work I do like wow you did this. I'm like mother fucker I run this shift what the hell are you talking about did I do this... Sometimes I guess it's a good cover for people to think I'm just a dumb jock. I've been told by several anonymous hookups that I'm hot though icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 30, 2008 10:58 AM GMT
    Caslon8000 said
    jakebenson saidI get compliments almost always on my ass and almost never on my face.

    Oh lord, give me strength not to say it! ...

    say what?

    aint saying

    oh c'mon ...you started it already

    nope....

    just a hint then...

    well, it has the words ..."and," "absolutely," "personality," "on," "his," and "never" in it. But I aint saying nothing more.

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    LOL wat tha fuck?
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    Nov 30, 2008 11:14 AM GMT
    I get compliments every now and then on a few areas that I've improved (mind, body and personality). They make me feel nice in a non-conceited way and it's pretty nice to know that people have noticed.

    I ddin't intentially improve myself to be noticed but it certain feels good knowing that people are looking. That's the sort of thing that sparks a convo and maybe a dinner and then maybe some "action". Who knows?

    In any case, I take it in kind and press on. No sense turning a mole hill into a mountain I say.
  • TmanAveen

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    Nov 30, 2008 12:46 PM GMT
    Love to get compliments, and I couldn't care what they are about... just makes me feel good, so bring it on....
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    Nov 30, 2008 1:51 PM GMT
    My eyes.... most definitely my eyes then my calves- God gave me calves I can be proud of.
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    Nov 30, 2008 6:14 PM GMT
    I guess you guys are right I should be looking at it as compliments and not thinking into it anymore then that. I guess its kind of just when your noticed consistantly for one thing it almost seems like it becomes who u are and not a part of who u are.

    I was going to end up purposely wearing bigger clothes that didn't show off my body as much to see what would happen.