my friend is about to discover that I am gay

  • meezo

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    Oct 25, 2013 10:08 PM GMT
    Hey all,
    you all know how it is very hard to be gay in an Arab Muslim country, and I am very unfortunate to be in these countries,and of course as a result I am hiding my sexuality.
    I have a friend who I meet him many times,he always keeps talking about girls,and I participate in his conversation sometimes.
    In the last 2 times we have been together he told me: I don,t feel that u r into girls a lot>>and really he freaks me a lot when he said this sentence.
    the first time I was fortunate to meet a foreign girl(from outside) who I was taking language lessons with her, so when my friend saw me talking and laughing with her ,he just thought that he was wrong about what he thinks about me,and he said:u never told me that u know girls etc>>blah blah blah....
    the 2nd time he also surprised me when he said to me that I am not into girls and why I don,t talk about them:I stayed very calm and I managed it well,I told him:I just prefer to keep my relations and my interest in girls just for me and u r talking about girls so much ,u r very hyper-sexual and I am not like you
    he told me: you don,t want to marry? I told himicon_surprised.giff course but it is just not the right time, I am not prepared and I want to enjoy my life.(he always kept telling me before he will get married he want to enjoy his life a little and go here and there so this is why I told him I want to enjoy my life) and I kind of convinced him >but I feel frightened that I will be discovered sooner or later from my friends that I am gay especially because I am not going to get married.
    please help me guys,what is your advices? what to do with my friend and with my other friends and family also ? is getting away to another country is a good idea?
    thank u all in forward.

  • Robin_Mark

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    Oct 25, 2013 10:47 PM GMT
    I totally understand, we are suffering in middle east. this is the worst part when u start getting older and u don't have a wife or a girl friend at least (u can fake it for sometime)..

    leaving the country is not that easy specially when u love ur family and at the same time u don't know if they love the real you..

    I ran through this then i took my decision to leave and the main reason is seeking true love.

    just close ur eyes and start imagining u r 5 years older would u like to feel the same way u feel right now then imagine being sixty would u regret that u didn't run away.

    I'm sorry to say that no Arabic family or friend will understand. if u tell them u will become alone and miserable as they surely will kick u out from the house and ur friends will not help u..
  • meezo

    Posts: 117

    Oct 26, 2013 1:42 AM GMT
    I think trying to get out of the country is the only solution, but it is hard to leave your parents when they get old, icon_sad.gif
    it is a lose lose situation
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    Oct 26, 2013 1:54 AM GMT
    Do what you want to do. Not what other people think. Even family and friends can be shitty to you. And also where you move, there can be idiots. So don't move just because you think it will be better. There are idiots all over the world when it comes to accepting everyone.
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    Oct 26, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    Hey Meezo..

    ..So In Your Mind.. your friend is suspicious of your sexuality?..

    ..You didn't admit to anything..
    Unless you get caught engaging in something Gay..then can you be accused..

    ..This "friend" needs to back off a bit..and in the case that outing you can cost you.. Maybe you should avoid this guy..or ask out right..

    "Why are you so interested in my sex life?" "I really do not feel comfortable sharing this..I hardly know you.."

    Be careful
    Hugz..

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    Oct 26, 2013 3:51 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidHey Meezo..

    ..So In Your Mind.. your friend is suspicious of your sexuality?..

    ..You didn't admit to anything..
    Unless you get caught engaging in something Gay..then can you be accused..

    ..This "friend" needs to back off a bit..and in the case that outing you can cost you.. Maybe you should avoid this guy..or ask out right..

    "Why are you so interested in my sex life?" "I really do not feel comfortable sharing this..I hardly know you.."

    Be careful
    Hugz..



    Problem is Anox that in the ME people actively seek out gay people to out them to authorities, even based soley on hear say
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    Oct 26, 2013 3:59 AM GMT
    You're living in a dangerous place, it's better to come out(if you really want to) only to those whom you trust with your life or to everyone if you're ready to face the consequences. Else its better to stay silent.

    You don't need to lie nor you don't have to speak the truth. Just mind your business. And what others think of your sexuality is none of their business.
    Most of the humanity is wasting their valuable time by poking into other people's lives and trying to judge them instead of introspecting and judging oneself, which is what actually everyone needs to do.
  • meezo

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    Oct 26, 2013 7:18 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidHey Meezo..

    ..So In Your Mind.. your friend is suspicious of your sexuality?..

    ..You didn't admit to anything..
    Unless you get caught engaging in something Gay..then can you be accused..

    ..This "friend" needs to back off a bit..and in the case that outing you can cost you.. Maybe you should avoid this guy..or ask out right..

    "Why are you so interested in my sex life?" "I really do not feel comfortable sharing this..I hardly know you.."

    Be careful
    Hugz..


    Hey Anoxcu, icon_smile.gif
    yes he is very suspicious, if he opens the topic again I will reply in this way to prevent him from talking about it again
    thanks
  • meezo

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    Oct 26, 2013 7:19 AM GMT
    Thank you all guys,I appreciate your replies