Another rate me please topic , but really thats important to me.

  • orionsirius

    Posts: 10

    Oct 27, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
    Hi , everyone new user here and i wanted to ask u a couple of questions.
    My name is Hany , im from Morocco ( Arab north african country ) , and im really pleased to be here.

    I noticed that whenever i chat with other guys in my country , they mostly seem to answer (sorry you r not my type ) it happened so frequently that i honestly think there is something wrong with me.
    So can u rate me based on how i look ( very shallow of me i know ) out of 10 i honestly would love to hear your opinions and if there is something i could do to improve how i look ( hair style , clothes that fit me better ...etc)

    I know this question was asked like a million times before , but if i weren't turned down so frequently i wouldn't have asked this question in the first place.

    p.s.: race shouldn't be an issue because Europeans, blacks and asians are all rare to find in my country , most people in Morocco have my same skin tone or slightly darker/lighter.

    All my pics are in my profile , would love to hear from you what you think.
    I know im not the most handsome of the bunch , but am i THAT bad ? Do i look so young ?

    Thanks everyone in advance.
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    Oct 27, 2013 3:56 PM GMT
    Pas de probleme tu es reellement un bel homme . Un corps mince et bien defini avec juste assez de poil dessus pour le rendre sexy . Pas d'inquietude , je te donne un 9 aisement .
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    Oct 27, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    To some you will be a 1. To some you will be a 10.

    Having confidence and self-worth in yourself will make your imaginary points go up more though.

    If you hate something about yourself, then change it. If you can't change it, then don't worry about it.
  • MikeW

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    Oct 27, 2013 5:20 PM GMT
    JMJ is right. It isn't a good idea to base you own sense of self-worth on what other people think or find desirable. How other people see you says more about them than you. Same thing in reverse, however you perceive others says more about you than them. Of course there is some overlap but none of us are objective even in how we see ourselves. This is why we look to other people as a reflection of ourselves in the first place. But it seldom occurs to us that all these mirrors around us are distorted as well. So the only person who can *really* see you is you (and, hopefully, someday someone who loves you 'warts' and all). Cultivating the ability to see yourself objectively is the key.

    As for other people's ratings: A) wants someone older; B) wants someone younger; C) wants someone with straight hair; D) wants someone with lighter skin; E) wants someone with blue eyes; etc., etc. And all this IS very superficial. When do we begin looking beneath the surface to who is there, what kind of person they are, whether or not we like them and can maybe even fall in love with them FOR who and what they are?