Oct 27, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
Has this ever happened to anyone else? Out of the blue my boyfriend of 3.5 years just dumped me to become a born again christian. He is bi so I have always worried he would end up taking the road more often traveled. While he is not out to his family and most friends, a few people know because they have picked up on us being more than friends. This happened months ago though and he seemed to be ok with it. He is an amateur comedian and told me that after doing some open mic work he started talking to a few of his friends about all the wonderful things God has done for him lately. One of them said he was more touched and moved by that then all of his stand up combined and it really touched my boyfriend. He says he feels he has been running from this for a while but now he knows this is his calling. The real slap in the face came when he asked me to continue being his friend but that he couldn't risk his soul for me. He says I have been more loyal to him than his family and he really appreciates it.
Of course I am shocked, this came out of the blue for me. Also I have always known him to be spiritual, I'm a Buddhist myself, but it never seemed to be a problem. I am angry because of course he just called my love for hm a threat to his soul. As his friend I truly care for him and wish him the best. As you can see I am very confused right now. I want him back but I don't think i can accept him back even f he changed his mind. I would always fear that he would once again decide i was a threat to his soul and leave again. I feel that now that he has his life together, he spent some time in jail a year ago, I am no longer needed and this is a nice excuse. I feel used, good enough to be there when he was down but still a threat to his soul.
Of course I am shocked, this came out of the blue for me. Also I have always known him to be spiritual, I'm a Buddhist myself, but it never seemed to be a problem. I am angry because of course he just called my love for hm a threat to his soul. As his friend I truly care for him and wish him the best. As you can see I am very confused right now. I want him back but I don't think i can accept him back even f he changed his mind. I would always fear that he would once again decide i was a threat to his soul and leave again. I feel that now that he has his life together, he spent some time in jail a year ago, I am no longer needed and this is a nice excuse. I feel used, good enough to be there when he was down but still a threat to his soul.