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    Nov 30, 2008 7:12 PM GMT
    I have been trying to bottom and have not been able to take anything thicker than a finger. Any suggestions on how to loosen up?
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    Nov 30, 2008 8:51 PM GMT
    Just relax. Try some rimming. Enjoy!
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    Nov 30, 2008 9:42 PM GMT
    Learning to bottom is like training for a marathon, you can't be a weekend warrior. You need to keep at it until you can take whatever it is you want to stick up there.

    First, here is what not to do. Don't try poppers until you know what you can take. Don't use devices that mechanically stretch your ass: like speculums. Both of these will get your ass to open, but both can also cause damage without you being aware of it.

    The key to getting yourself to open up is to try different things. Lube up your finger and play with your sphincter muscle. Don't just jam it in there, massage it, tap it, love it. Find what gives you the best sensation.

    Toys are very useful. Here is an anal training kit. It includes three butt plugs in progressively larger sizes, the first being slightly fatter than a finger. A plug will get your muscles used to relaxing and you can work up to the larger sizes. The one essential toy to this is lube. Some guys can sit on a greased up fire-hydrant no problem, but the same guys would have trouble getting a few fingers up there without momma lube.

    Let us know how it goes.
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    Nov 30, 2008 10:47 PM GMT
    Munching Zombie: is a butt plug that flares a good idea? Something that is really small at the tip, and wide at the base? For training purposes?
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    Nov 30, 2008 10:59 PM GMT
    UncleverName saidMunching Zombie: is a butt plug that flares a good idea? Something that is really small at the tip, and wide at the base? For training purposes?


    I think a flared base is grand. Variable width gives the muscles something to work up to. With a cylindrical toy (which is good for depth training) you just get a single size to work with so going from a small toy to a medium toy can be painful. A plug makes transition from one size to the next much easier, as the widest part on a small is smaller than the narrowest part on a medium.

    The one I linked to has a very gradual flare on both sides of the widest part. On the smallest one the flare isn't much different than a knuckle on a finger.

    But you are correct. There are plugs in the shape of a cone with an abrupt edge at the bottom of the flare. That would be terrible for training. I should have mentioned that.
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    Dec 01, 2008 12:17 AM GMT
    Personally, i find that stretching your hole on a regular basis in the shower with a large dildo helps keep you loose. Also, make sure you are really, really clean down there before you have sex so you don't feel like your going to have a BM if your getting fucked really hard. Try giving yourself an enema a few hours before.
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    Dec 01, 2008 12:25 AM GMT
    lol, I would say anal numbing cream

    but, ive heard of guys that are so numb they dont realize there was tore up from the top till the next day they are bleeding

    Tell they guy to use his tounge. In the past ive made the biggest "tops" that cant handle anything take it and love it.
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    Feb 05, 2010 11:29 PM GMT
    eat tortilla chips with taco sauce and rub butter in ur ass.