Ex-boyfriend sends images/clips of guys he is seeing.

  • Robert28ct

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    Oct 28, 2013 10:41 AM GMT
    Hi All,

    Just wanna have some thought from you peeps out there.

    Ex-boyfriend sends images/clips of guys he is seeing. WTF!!!
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    Oct 28, 2013 11:18 AM GMT
    The delete button/feature works very well. I suggest you use it to your advantage.
  • Robert28ct

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    Oct 28, 2013 11:40 AM GMT
    Delete someone u been dating for 7 yrs is not easy done. Share friends and so on.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Oct 28, 2013 11:44 AM GMT
    Robert28ct saidDelete someone u been dating for 7 yrs is not easy done. Share friends and so on.


    So instead you're going to let him torment you.
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    Oct 28, 2013 12:26 PM GMT
    Robert28ct saidDelete someone u been dating for 7 yrs is not easy done. Share friends and so on.


    It's called "moving on!" Try it! It works!
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    Oct 28, 2013 12:38 PM GMT
    Robert28ct said
    Ex-boyfriend sends images/clips of guys he is seeing. WTF!!!

    How does he explain these pics he's sent to you? Or does he just send them without comment? Are they pics of the 2 of them together, or just the new guy?
  • Robert28ct

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    Oct 28, 2013 12:45 PM GMT
    Mixed image ( none sexual ) images with him drinking like a fish ( never used to be like that ) images of boys sleeping in his bed. Yesterday I was at friends ( mutual friends) and he rocks up and seconds later he brings in a boy without a shirt!!

    I know i should just write him off, but yah we share friends and work, i would be more hurting myself my deleting him.
  • Crepuscule

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    Oct 28, 2013 12:46 PM GMT
    Reply something like this:

    Why are you sending me these? Are you trying to make me jealous or are you failing with the technology?
    Because really, you're just making yourself look like a total douche. I thought better of you.
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    Oct 28, 2013 1:36 PM GMT
    Robert28ct saidHi All,

    Just wanna have some thought from you peeps out there.

    Ex-boyfriend sends images/clips of guys he is seeing. WTF!!!
    Must have been a rough break up? Sounds like he's trying to make you jealous or something.
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    Oct 28, 2013 2:22 PM GMT
    Unfortunately people do not always think before they act. If the intentions behind his actions are important to you, then just ask him why he does it.

    I think the more important issue is that it obviously upsets you, which means you still have feelings for him. I think you need to let him know that it bothers you. If he chooses to continue the behavior you need to end your friendship.

    The fact that you share friends does not mean you need to be close friends. You simply need to be cordial acquaintances when your shared friends require you to be.

    Why would you be good friends with someone who does things to bother you?
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    Oct 28, 2013 2:29 PM GMT
    Drama.
    Delete and block, that's why he is an ex. Jesus, why would this be complex at all?
    The joy of ending a relationship is you get to walk away. Do that. Close the door and stop accepting and sharing and then chatting about it online, adding more and more drama. It's all so unhealthy.
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 28, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    It's worse when they don't move on... Consider him someone else's problem now!!icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 28, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    Delete and block him. There's nothing wrong with remaining in touch with an ex-boyfriend, but when said ex-boyfriend is taunting you, you need to let him go.
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    Oct 28, 2013 2:39 PM GMT
    Never had the pictures thing, but did have an ex-BF who kept me informed about all his latest tricks and guys he was dating, in all the most intimate details. And asking me for advice about dealing with them. Rat poison always formed a part of my answer.

    (Not really)

    Funniest time was when he was banging on my front door at 11:30 at night, came in white as a sheet and trembling, barely able to speak. He had just driven 20 miles from this guy's place, after the wife returned from a trip unexpectedly, while the husband and my ex were naked in a hot tub on the back patio.

    He escaped clothes in hand still naked, climbing over a fence, dressing in the bushes, lying low and waiting for the wife to empty her luggage from her car out front, and finally making his way the several blocks to where his car was discretely parked. He kept repeating that he should have listened to my advice about staying away from married guys, the most shaken I'd ever seen him. Of course that resolution only lasted about 2 weeks.

    Now that's a case where I would have welcomed pictures. And while I really liked him, I've learned that some exes carry more baggage than that wife returning home, and are best left behind.

    They may want to remain involved in your life, often in the guise of asking you for advice, like this one did, but sometimes I think it's not a wise decision. Plus both my late and current partners have not approved of my staying in touch with them, and while one can argue whether that's reasonable, I'd rather defer to the guy who's sharing my bed than to the one who's left it.

    The OP may want to consider asking this ex to stop the pics, and blocking him if he doesn't.
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    Oct 29, 2013 6:28 AM GMT
    There are two roads here, either u stay in this mess and let your ex boyfriend torment u or u delete and block the mothe*fucker and try to find peace from your failed relationship. Both these roads are not easy, but one of them will lead u to happiness.
  • Robert28ct

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    Oct 29, 2013 6:32 AM GMT
    Thanks for the many replies guys ;-)
  • Robert28ct

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    Oct 29, 2013 6:32 AM GMT
    jonnymia saidThis is very immature. Even for me.

    Ignore him.

    Not getting a response is probably torturing him more than any response you could give....

    In other news you're kind hot. How big are you???


    LOL am too big to fail!
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    Oct 29, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidIt's worse when they don't move on... Consider him someone else's problem now!!icon_smile.gif


    This
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    Oct 29, 2013 6:49 AM GMT
    Robert28ct said
    jonnymia saidThis is very immature. Even for me.

    Ignore him.

    Not getting a response is probably torturing him more than any response you could give....

    In other news you're kind hot. How big are you???


    LOL am too big to fail!


    There seems to be no ugly men in SA, just saying;)
  • Robert28ct

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    Oct 29, 2013 6:51 AM GMT
    boorangOz said
    Robert28ct said
    jonnymia saidThis is very immature. Even for me.

    Ignore him.

    Not getting a response is probably torturing him more than any response you could give....

    In other news you're kind hot. How big are you???


    LOL am too big to fail!


    There seems to be no ugly men in SA, just saying;)


    Haha am Dutch and living here, Cape town not that exciting with men.icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 29, 2013 6:57 AM GMT
    Robert28ct said
    boorangOz said
    Robert28ct said
    jonnymia saidThis is very immature. Even for me.

    Ignore him.

    Not getting a response is probably torturing him more than any response you could give....

    In other news you're kind hot. How big are you???


    LOL am too big to fail!


    There seems to be no ugly men in SA, just saying;)


    Haha am Dutch and living here, Cape town not that exciting with men.icon_sad.gif


    Ah that explains it Im a Dutch boy myself, Aussie born to Dutch parents. I have to say SA men are just hot,