Did I miss the "block everyone that i don't want to hookup with" chapter of Grindr etiquette?

  • melloyello

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    Oct 28, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    This has happened to me a couple times:

    <25yo: hi
    me: hi
    <25yo: pic?
    me: send
    <25yo: block!

    I'm not particularly worried about it honestly but last weekend I was out and about for the halloween New Orleans festivities and this kind of skanky, scantily clad 20yo that I had no interest in starting hanging me while I was waiting to get drinks at a bar. "You're hot, I like that you're bigger than me, I want you to throw me around, etc. etc." I was polite, got my drinks and excused myself. The next day he hits me up on Grindr and I sent him a pic of me and before I could even get "we've met before" he blocked me.

    Wasn't happening regardless but I feel like people now are just getting ruder and ruder. What happened to common courtesy?
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    Oct 28, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    1) it's online so people can be as rude as they like with no consequences
    2) there's an entrenched attitude in young gay men that you have no worth unless you look a certain way .
    3) grinder is a sex shop- you are product for fucking. That's the way it's seen often .
    4) people are not parented properly . Values of kindness and manners are not instilled in many from a young age. School and tv is many peoples teacher.
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    Oct 28, 2013 8:39 PM GMT
    In some cases, it's a memory aid. Reminds them that they've already screened and rejected you. Avoids embarrassing multiple hits - especially if you change your pic or something.

    A couple of times, (can't remember whether it was grindr or some web site) I got pre-emptively blocked. I'd get a notice that someone I'd never interacted with or even heard of had blocked me. Just thought they'd let me know they cared icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 28, 2013 8:53 PM GMT
    Nope i dont block people unless they are disrespectful
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 28, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    grindr and all the other like apps is filled with just about anyone that wants to post a fake profile, including those that just want to see if they know someone for blackmail purposes or check up to see if their spouse or bf is on there. Use the 20x80 rule. About 20% are legit, the rest are just creepers.
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 28, 2013 9:06 PM GMT
    Good riddance to those who would block you.
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    Oct 28, 2013 9:58 PM GMT
    blactor said1) it's online so people can be as rude as they like with no consequences
    2) there's an entrenched attitude in young gay men that you have no worth unless you look a certain way .
    3) grinder is a sex shop- you are product for fucking. That's the way it's seen often .
    4) people are not parented properly . Values of kindness and manners are not instilled in many from a young age. School and tv is many peoples teacher.


    ^^^^ this.

    so many younger guys are plain, flat out rude to a fault. Oh, i know they are just sure of what they want and don't want, but rudeness is never an attractive quality in anyone!
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    Oct 28, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    Make people who ask for pics work.

    Give them the url to your profile here (or elsewhere) instead of sending them a pic. Most are probably pic collectors and pic thieves. Either way, if they can't even be bothered to paste the url you provide into their browser (and most phones today have browsers) to check you out for sex or steal your photo screw 'em. The real charmers that do will then ask you to cam and put you on xtube.
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    Oct 28, 2013 10:07 PM GMT
    i had one RJ member ( a few weeks ago) make a comment on a pic in my profile, telling me " how disgusting i was, and the fact I had a son, made me even more disgusting". I was like WTF asshole… I blocked him.
    first time that ever happened on this site.
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    Oct 28, 2013 10:22 PM GMT
    Hmmm….maybe you sent him a pic of your smashed up car by mistake. Scared him off….yikes! icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 28, 2013 10:25 PM GMT
    hairyandym saidi had one RJ member ( a few weeks ago) make a comment on a pic in my profile, telling me " how disgusting i was, and the fact I had a son, made me even more disgusting". I was like WTF asshole… I blocked him.
    first time that ever happened on this site.

    LOL..Oh I can relate. I just blocked a guy that started a rude conversation with me a while back. I was nice and tried to educate him on why what he said was rude. After that he seemed receptive to my situation then started posting here about the same stuff. I think he has other issues but I did the same….block. Don't use Grindr so not sure about that app but when I was out on the internet, I did use that feature occasionally for the rude and inconsiderate.
  • whytehot

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    Oct 28, 2013 11:05 PM GMT
    Considering that Grindr only lets you view a limited number of profiles at a time, OF COURSE you block everyone you're not interested in... to make room for more profiles to show up. It's too bad you're only allowed to block 10 people a day.

    Seriously, has anyone ever heard a semi-attractive guy complain about online "etiquette" lol???

    Also, yes Grindr is mostly for hooking up, but increasingly less so, as more and more normal people use it. It's actually possible to go on several dates through Grindr without having sex...
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Oct 29, 2013 12:38 AM GMT
    People who block instantly don't understand courtesy or how to curtly dismiss someone icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 29, 2013 6:27 AM GMT
    It's Grindr....an app in which the rules of etiquette do not apply.
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    Oct 29, 2013 7:15 AM GMT
    I just started using it and what a laugh! All the 30 somethings say they are 20 something all the way up to 50 year olds pretending to be 40.

    Plus i set the filters to what Im after and there is no one, no one for 2980kms lol, thats a lot of miles for you imperialists.

    So as not to be creepy I put on my profile "hit me up young guys I don't want to be an old creeper so you can contact me" my god 10 messages in 30 mins from 20 somethings calling me daddy. icon_lol.gif