Holding off sex till second meeting

  • Piers40

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    Oct 30, 2013 8:36 PM GMT
    If you ended up in a sexual liaison, you're enjoying it but realise you think the guy is cool and you want to see him again, is it a bit awkward to say "look I'd love to fuck, but you'll have to see me again if you want to do that...". I often find I hook up with people then never see them again, if you say that are you laying your cards down on the table? is it a bit desperate? And is there a cooler/more sophisticated way of saying it. Also I find fucking on first meeting might make things awkward in future, what do you reckon?
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    Oct 30, 2013 8:44 PM GMT
    It really depends on the person, you can basically just tell them you rather get to know them more mentally and emotionally then physically, so they can understand you want more then sex, some guys are okay with that and others may not, but at least the ones who are okay with it, you would be seeing them more often.
  • Piers40

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    Oct 30, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
    But say a guy was just horny and wanted to mess around, would this be an intense thing to say? I mean we have mutual friends so we'll be bound to see each other again. If I dont from him again i doubt its a straight forward rejection but more likely we're looking for different things.
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    Oct 30, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    For me its a test, if I get to have sex with the person on the first date for me thats a relationship killer. On the other hand if by the end of the night I get an "i like you but I want to wait a bit" or something, that draws my attention.I like to chase after someone, getting someone easily makes them look easy and like youre not special at all. But thats me.
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    Oct 30, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    Piers40 saidBut say a guy was just horny and wanted to mess around, would this be an intense thing to say? I mean we have mutual friends so we'll be bound to see each other again. If I dont from him again i doubt its a straight forward rejection but more likely we're looking for different things.

    Don't worry about what the guy wants, worry about what you want, you can probably find another guy in a minute who is on the same page as you, so just state what you exactly want and let things flow.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Nov 02, 2013 6:36 PM GMT
    You set the tone early on, by the end of the date they know whether they'll get it or not and if there's another date you'll know whether they're worth it
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    Nov 03, 2013 5:32 AM GMT
    What is this second meeting you speak of? In the world of hook ups, I've never heard the term.