Dallas214 saidDoes anyone else out there seem to get along better with straights than gays?
No doubt about it.
None of the out gay guys at my job are any more than nodding acquaintances. An "open" Lesbian and I were workplace buddies before she left the company, but that was it for the same-sexers. Oh - and a closeted guy will pass by with that "I know you know" look and smile. Everyone I've grown closest with has been hetero.
On the home front, there's a guy (60 if a day) around the corner who's stuck in adolescence and working the "loud and proud" shtick. The apartment house he lives in and owns stays one step ahead of being condemned. He and the guests for his frequent loud, late parties are all insufferably snotty. So the refrain among the rest of the neighbors is, "We don't hate you because you're gay, we hate you because you're an ASSHOLE!!!
One of my primary social circles is "mixed" in many ways, me and a gay-guy couple making for one. Here as at work, I'm the least close with them. Ditto for my singing and community activities ("community" in both senses of the word.)
Is there some kind of mentality around "Get lost, I want to be the token" in effect here or what? I don't lack for friends, but the number who are gay is proportionately tiny. Even factoring out ageism and "looks-ism" this would still not make much sense.