What's the best way to navigate the post-first date "Does he like me?" game?

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    Nov 03, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    I've recently plunged back into the dating world, and I'm in need of some advice.

    I recently went on a date with a great guy, and I am interesting in seeing him again. At the end of our first date, I raised the possibility of a second. At the time, he seemed very agreeable to a second date, and he told me to call him/keep in touch.

    When I followed up, I asked if he was free this weekend, but he replied that he would be working both nights(Note: I know this to be true). We texted a bit during his shifts, and although it was me who initiated, his responses didn't strike me as "blow-off" one-word answers.

    Anyway, last night, I asked if he was free Monday for dinner, and he still has not replied.

    When the situation is reversed (i.e., when I am the one being "pursued") and I am not interested in seeing someone again, I try to make it really clear ("It was really great meeting you but I don't think it's a good fit"). It frustrates me that most other guys don't extend the same courtesy.

    My question is: How do I navigate the post-first date "does he like me?" game? Should I just assume he isn't interested, and cut my losses? Should I keep extending him the invitation -- and if so, how do I do it without being annoying? Or should I just asked him outright if he's not interested?
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    Nov 03, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    If he texted you right after your first date saying stuff like "You're cute" or "I would like to see you again" then he likes you.
    As you said, he may have been busy, but if he is interested he will initiate and contact you for a second date when you've already asked him out twice.
    If he does not mention within a couple of days since the last time you asked him, then just forget about it, this guy does not deserve your caring.
    Good luck.
  • Apparition

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    Nov 04, 2013 5:49 AM GMT
    ask him and give him an out.

    "I had fun last week. I would like to see you more. Call me by wednesday to let me know if you would like to arrange something or I will take it as a no"
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    Nov 04, 2013 6:39 PM GMT
    Apparition saidask him and give him an out.

    "I had fun last week. I would like to see you more. Call me by wednesday to let me know if you would like to arrange something or I will take it as a no"


    No kidding! People should just get to the point! All of this "I don't know if he likes me, what should I do" is a bunch of bull! Just ask him!