Nov 03, 2013 9:23 PM GMT
Ok the town I live in is pretty small and doesn't have a large gay community and right now I'm not that interested in dating or sex and just want a few really good gay guy friends to talk to and hang out with but I need advice about something recent that happened. So there was this guy I met on facebook that I kinda thought was cute and basically he kept blowing me off and eventually I just gave up and stopped talking to him. But a half a year later this Halloween he just messaged me out of nowhere and asked how we knew each other and that sort of lead to a conversation that was very pleasant. And he asked why I never talked to him and I told the truth about how he blew me off when I tried to talk to him and he apologized and said it was because he was dating a guy at the time and thought it would be like cheating to talk to me. But I told him I just wanted to be friends and told him how I just wanted some gay guy friends to hang out with and he said we could be friends. And we talked on facebook more and we have a lot of similar interests and after about 2 days of talking he told me he likes me in a romantic way and asked if we could ever be more than just friends. And I told him right now I just like him as a friend and thats all I'm looking for and said that maybe we could be but that's not a guarantee we will be more but in a nice way of course. And he said he would be content having me as just a friend. So as we talk more he has been texting me good morning which is nice but in my experience that usually means a guy likes you a lot. And he wants to talk all the time on facebook or text which I'm OK with but again I'm thinking thats a sign he likes me a lot. And when I asked how many boyfriends he had he said he would rather talk about that in person which I understand so I didn't push it. But I get the vibe he isn't experienced and to my knowledge has had only one boyfriend. And he told me he wants me to be his snuggle buddy (which I honestly found ADORABLE) and I said maybe lets see how things go. Now I'm getting the vibe he is really liking me a lot when I just like him a lot as a friend. And I REALLY don't wanna hurt him because he seems like a cool friend but I really wanna make it clear we are just friends. And I'm not that experienced either when it comes to relationships but when I was much less experienced that I am now I had more experienced guys jerk me around and play with my feelings which really hurt and I don't want to do the same to him. And I feel like if things keep going the way they are it might end bad because he might think I'm jerking him around and I don't wanna lose him as a friend. So what would be the best way I can handle this situation? Thoughts?? Comments?? What would you do in my shoes?? Any insight appreciated!!