How Important is Topping and Bottoming to you ?

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    Nov 04, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    This post is really ment for the gay guys who define themselves as 100% top or 100% bottom

    What if there was a guy you really liked, someone you clicked with on a deep level and you were both attracted to each other, but what if your " puzzle pieces " didnt fit ?( top in love with a top and bottom in love with another bottom ) Would you compromise ? Or would you forget the whole thing ?
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    Nov 04, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    I love how "vers" now means "exclusively"....
    like. "oh im a vers top" or "I'm a vers bottom" aka I'm exclusively a bottom. Im exclusively a top.

    Ppl just ned to stop kidding themselves, especially the vers bottoms. Like, gimme a break. You're a bottom through and through. Just fucking admit. Dont add "vers"..... aint foolin anyone, bottom boy
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    Nov 04, 2013 5:01 PM GMT
    ViciousRumor said
    Import saidI love how "vers" now means "exclusively"....
    like. "oh im a vers top" or "I'm a vers bottom" aka I'm exclusively a bottom. Im exclusively a top.

    Ppl just ned to stop kidding themselves, especially the vers bottoms. Like, gimme a break. You're a bottom through and through. Just fucking admit. Dont add "vers"..... aint foolin anyone, bottom boy


    There's the connotation of being less manly if you're the bottom. Gay men are all about their image.


    the bottoms are the ones being fucked....likje a girl. Therefore, regarded as less manly and more "bitch-like"...
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    Nov 04, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    I wouldn't forget the whole thing ... I guess it deepens on how deep we actually connected
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    Nov 04, 2013 5:06 PM GMT
    ViciousRumor said
    Import said
    ViciousRumor said
    Import saidI love how "vers" now means "exclusively"....
    like. "oh im a vers top" or "I'm a vers bottom" aka I'm exclusively a bottom. Im exclusively a top.

    Ppl just ned to stop kidding themselves, especially the vers bottoms. Like, gimme a break. You're a bottom through and through. Just fucking admit. Dont add "vers"..... aint foolin anyone, bottom boy


    There's the connotation of being less manly if you're the bottom. Gay men are all about their image.


    the bottoms are the ones being fucked....likje a girl. Therefore, regarded as less manly and more "bitch-like"...


    That's exactly what I just said.

    You just made it more crass.

    And there's nothing wrong with bottoming. Topping feels weird.

    lol, I wasn't talking down on it, boo.
    Whatever u like..... more power to you.
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    Nov 04, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    ViciousRumor said
    Import said
    ViciousRumor said
    Import said
    ViciousRumor said
    Import saidI love how "vers" now means "exclusively"....
    like. "oh im a vers top" or "I'm a vers bottom" aka I'm exclusively a bottom. Im exclusively a top.

    Ppl just ned to stop kidding themselves, especially the vers bottoms. Like, gimme a break. You're a bottom through and through. Just fucking admit. Dont add "vers"..... aint foolin anyone, bottom boy


    There's the connotation of being less manly if you're the bottom. Gay men are all about their image.


    the bottoms are the ones being fucked....likje a girl. Therefore, regarded as less manly and more "bitch-like"...


    That's exactly what I just said.

    You just made it more crass.

    And there's nothing wrong with bottoming. Topping feels weird.

    lol, I wasn't talking down on it, boo.
    Whatever u like..... more power to you.


    Power to me....power bottom


    do you bb?
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    Nov 04, 2013 5:14 PM GMT
    ViciousRumor saidI bareback all the time.


    and how's that working out for you?
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    Nov 04, 2013 5:19 PM GMT
    ViciousRumor said
    Import said
    ViciousRumor saidI bareback all the time.


    and how's that working out for you?


    Pretty well. Thanks for asking.

    do you not fear the risks associated with engaging in behavior like that? Or do you just not care?
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    Nov 04, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    Not every gay guy is into anal sex for the question to even apply. Many of us think ass is at least as disgusting as vagina.

    If two people of the same sexual orientation (gay/gay) or compatible enough (gay/bi/str8 mix and match), they don't absolutely have to enjoy the very same sexual preferences (top/bottom/oral/anal/plug and play) in order to experience a perfectly satisfying, extremely intimate relationship.

    Further, compromise or forget the whole thing are not the only two options available to a relationship because an open relationship allows you to enjoy a person for what you enjoy them for without compromising on what you don't enjoy, while satisfying outside the primary relationship the bits that don't fit.

    Gay people make up only a very limited percent of the population. Further reducing options unnecessarily produces more misery.

    "We all seek happiness, but turn our backs on it. We all wish to avoid misery, but race to collect its causes." Shantideva's Bodhisattvacharyavatara
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    Nov 04, 2013 5:59 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidI don't really have any opinion about bottoming. But for toppings, I like pepperoni, ground beef, crumbled bacon, onions, black olives, and ham. Or any combination of the above. Also a thick crust.
    dammit sharky
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    Nov 04, 2013 6:02 PM GMT
    If your going to be in an open relationship you may as well just break up and be friends and date the guy your fucking.. when in a relationship your body should be only for your partner and his only for you. If your both tops you need to decide if your going to be able to compromise before you even get to the point of being in an open relationship because you "love each other" so much that your afraid to let them go..bull shit..
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    Nov 04, 2013 7:36 PM GMT
    I couldn't compromise, since bottoming doesn't work me at all. In fact, as far as topping goes, I'm more willing to do it for the other guy's pleasure more than mine, I get off more on foreplay.
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    Nov 04, 2013 7:50 PM GMT
    If youre a top you better find a total bottom or it will lead to a world of pain. I know you can't pick the one you fall in love with but being sexually compatible is a huge part in a relationship.
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    Nov 04, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
    I think this whole idea of putting a label on one's sexual preferences is moronic. Do guys actually turn someone down because he might not fit the profile stated in his label???
    Why limit yourself....if you think you're a "bottom" you might be missing a great opportunity to explore a new "you"...to say nothing of not taking a chance on true, everlasting love??
    If you're just in it for sex and willing to settle for a one night stand, there's no hope for you anyway...so just keep on doing what you've always done...and you will always get what you what you always got before.....NOTHING!!
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    Nov 04, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    failscarf said
    Import said
    ViciousRumor said
    Import said
    ViciousRumor saidI bareback all the time.


    and how's that working out for you?


    Pretty well. Thanks for asking.

    do you not fear the risks associated with engaging in behavior like that? Or do you just not care?


    The fun of shitting out cum like a piping bag >>> Acquiring an std


    That to me is just disgusting. Whatever floats your boat. I use a condom.
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    Nov 04, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    CopperDevil saidThis post is really ment for the gay guys who define themselves as 100% top or 100% bottom

    What if there was a guy you really liked, someone you clicked with on a deep level and you were both attracted to each other, but what if your " puzzle pieces " didnt fit ?( top in love with a top and bottom in love with another bottom ) Would you compromise ? Or would you forget the whole thing ?


    Compromise.
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    Nov 04, 2013 9:15 PM GMT
    FriendsOnly saidI think this whole idea of putting a label on one's sexual preferences is moronic. Do guys actually turn someone down because he might not fit the profile stated in his label???
    Why limit yourself....if you think you're a "bottom" you might be missing a great opportunity to explore a new "you"...to say nothing of not taking a chance on true, everlasting love??
    If you're just in it for sex and willing to settle for a one night stand, there's no hope for you anyway...so just keep on doing what you've always done...and you will always get what you what you always got before.....NOTHING!!

    Bullshit, it is important to fit sexually with the other person, SPECIALLY if you plan on having a relationship. You cant pick the one you fall in love with but if you both like the same thing that will lead to problems, period. You will have constant fights over it because you both will want the same thing and not getting any, you will get frustrated and try to find solutions to that problem and whatever solution you come up with wont be ideal. So dont underrate this issue in a relationship because it is damn important.
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    Nov 04, 2013 9:19 PM GMT
    The good thing about being gay is you can TOP and you can BOTTOM. You can fuck and be fucked. That is the beauty of being gay. Compromise. It isn't hard.

    If you are so set in your ways you will never find peace.
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    Nov 04, 2013 9:24 PM GMT
    Paperless_Pen saidThe good thing about being gay is you can TOP and you can BOTTOM. You can fuck and be fucked. That is the beauty of being gay. Compromise. It isn't hard.
    If you are so set in your ways you will never find peace.

    Fuck No, what if you dont want to bottom? or to top. Why on earth should you have to do something you dont want to? Its stupid, maybe you say that because you are versatile but there are guys who are only tops or only bottoms and wouldnt be confortable doing the other thing.
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    Nov 04, 2013 10:06 PM GMT
    David3000 said
    Paperless_Pen saidThe good thing about being gay is you can TOP and you can BOTTOM. You can fuck and be fucked. That is the beauty of being gay. Compromise. It isn't hard.
    If you are so set in your ways you will never find peace.

    Fuck No, what if you dont want to bottom? or to top. Why on earth should you have to do something you dont want to? Its stupid, maybe you say that because you are versatile but there are guys who are only tops or only bottoms and wouldnt be confortable doing the other thing.


    There are many things I don't want to do but I do it anyway. That does not make me less of a man.
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    Nov 04, 2013 10:11 PM GMT
    The thread is for 100% bottoms and 100% tops. Obviously the thread isn't going anywhere, really... If you are going to compromise then you werent 100% bottom or top to begin with. So I think this thread is flawed from the beginning.
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    Nov 04, 2013 10:16 PM GMT
    Paperless_Pen saidThe thread is for 100% bottoms and 100% tops. Obviously the thread isn't going anywhere, really... If you are going to compromise then you werent 100% bottom or top to begin with. So I think this thread is flawed from the beginning.


    No it is not icon_rolleyes.gif. People are not chained and shackled to making the decision. Sometimes when love is involved people have been known to make changes and compromises for things they would never have thought they were capable of


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    Nov 04, 2013 10:23 PM GMT
    CopperDevil said
    Paperless_Pen saidThe thread is for 100% bottoms and 100% tops. Obviously the thread isn't going anywhere, really... If you are going to compromise then you werent 100% bottom or top to begin with. So I think this thread is flawed from the beginning.


    No it is not icon_rolleyes.gif. People are not chained and shackled to making the decision. Sometimes when love is involved people have been known to make changes and compromises for things they would never have thought they were capable of




    Exactly.
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    Playing the socratic method.
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    Nov 04, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    What comes first? Love or sex?
    Do you love your boyfriend because you have amazing sex with him? Or do you have sex with your boyfriend because you love him?
    If there is a connection, you would be willing to top/bottom for your partner.

    Simple.
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    Nov 04, 2013 10:35 PM GMT
    Paperless_Pen saidThe thread is for 100% bottoms and 100% tops. Obviously the thread isn't going anywhere, really... If you are going to compromise then you werent 100% bottom or top to begin with. So I think this thread is flawed from the beginning.

    No its not and this subject isn't black or white either, there are many things that can be discussed. Its clear you're narrow minded.