How much of an age difference do you think is too old to date?

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    Nov 05, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    I'm 24 but have met a guy who is 33. He seems very nice and all but there are 9 nears between us and I feel like there's too big of a gap between us and people will view it as wrong. And I feel like a guy my age and a guy his age are at 2 different points in our lives.
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    Nov 05, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    Give it a shot ... The age gap isn't bad imo ...

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    Nov 05, 2013 4:42 PM GMT
    A 9 year age gap is wrong? I'm not sure why you're worried about what ignorant people might think.
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    Nov 05, 2013 4:45 PM GMT
    I went on a date last night with a guy who is 32 and I'm 21.

    I wouldn't sweat it. :-)
  • Hothouse

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    Nov 05, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    What people will view it as wrong?

    The only people that matter are you and him.
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    Nov 05, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    Hothouse saidWhat people will view it as wrong?

    The only people that matter are you and him.


    Agreed! Who cares what other people think.
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    Nov 05, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    Being at "different places" in your life's, has little to do with age and if you feel that you are than express this and just have fun.
    I doubt anyone notices the age difference you've expressed, as I find guy's mostly look the same from 25-43 if they stay fit.
    I'm often mistaking for being the younger one in my relationship.
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    Nov 05, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    Don't understand why people let others dictate their life rules and happiness. Date who you want to date.
  • secondstartot...

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    Nov 05, 2013 5:25 PM GMT
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    date who ever the fuck you want ! if you are worried about what people think....then his age is the least of your problems
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Nov 05, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    Being at two different points in your lives has nothing to do with how many times you've been around the sun.
    Age is relative to how you apply the wisdom it brings you, and the grace in the actions and choices you make.
    Time is an illusion anyway. Stop counting days and start counting on the character attributes that measure up to what you deserve and what you can match. If that's two years or twenty years it doesn't matter so long as you have respect, a common language (not always a common historical context or topical familiarity) and honesty.
    Fuck the perspective from the outside. BE in it, and you'll be fine. Seek approval and you were never truly connected to begin with.
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    Nov 05, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    I believe the older to younger ratio calculation is officially 1/2 your age + 7.

    I'm not good enough at the maths to reverse that calculation for older to younger.

    It is in the manual you have to study in order to take the test and get your gay card. You should all know this.

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  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 05, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    that's not too big of a age gap. however, its your decision. if he is a good guy than go for it
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    Nov 05, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidBeing at two different points in your lives has nothing to do with how many times you've been around the sun.
    Age is relative to how you apply the wisdom it brings you, and the grace in the actions and choices you make.
    Time is an illusion anyway. Stop counting days and start counting on the character attributes that measure up to what you deserve and what you can match. If that's two years or twenty years it doesn't matter so long as you have respect, a common language (not always a common historical context or topical familiarity) and honesty.
    Fuck the perspective from the outside. BE in it, and you'll be fine. Seek approval and you were never truly connected to begin with.

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    Nov 05, 2013 5:32 PM GMT
    Depends on the age of the younger person.

    It is perverted for a 60 year old guy to want to date a guy in his early 20s. To me that indicates that such a man would interfere with someone much younger if the opportunity presented itself.

    Having said that: your age differences should not be an issue.
  • in_this_corne...

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    Nov 05, 2013 5:34 PM GMT
    It's funny...I met a really great guy nearly 2 months ago. Our age difference is 16 years - him being the younger. At first I thought dammit...how will this ever work? But the more and more time we have spent together, the more I'm in the camp of who the hell cares. Fact is, we get along quite well and have both stated our concerns (or lack thereof) about the gap. We will see how it all unfolds. I haven't felt this good about someone in years.

  • Nov 05, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    My first boyfriend was nine years older and that lasted ten years. The next one was five years younger and that lasted nine years. Some guys are young at heart and some have an old soul. If the connection is there, if it works for the two of you, than who cares what anyone else says - go for it! There are no rules.
  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 05, 2013 6:03 PM GMT
    I don't see as it matters as long as there's physical and mental attraction. I stress the "and." I see a lot of guys here mention that older/younger couples are at different points in their lives and have vastly different life experiences but I'm not sure why that matters. We all have stories and 99% of the time we live in the present. If you care about him now and he cares about you now, how important are the stories? I'm not a fan of daddy/boy relationships but one thing I've learned is you never know about why one couple works and another doesn't. If each is getting happiness from the other, that should be good enough for those on the outside looking in. That being said, I see no reason not to also respect a guy's preference to date someone of similar age.
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    Nov 05, 2013 6:05 PM GMT
    What am I talking about! There are hot guys in their 60's in my hotlist. So I guess; I'll just stop reverting to regressive thinking. icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 05, 2013 6:24 PM GMT
    I think theres certain blocks of ages that get along better together. For example: I don't date anyone under 25 anymore. They aren't in the same place in their lives. So I think 25-32 is a block of age that gets along as well as 21-25.
  • Hothouse

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    Nov 05, 2013 6:28 PM GMT
    kentstrongtommy saidI'm 25 but i'd date anytime a 55 years old guy if he's sexy and muscled lol *daddy isues" haha.icon_biggrin.gif


    Just substitute "sexy and muscled" with "bad back and gray hair" and I'm old!, er I mean, gold!
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    Nov 05, 2013 6:31 PM GMT
    For me, it's more about looks that age. My present workout partner, although he tells me he was a champion teen bodybuilder, looks a lot older than me although he's younger. This turns me off. Wish he had taken better care of himself.
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    Nov 05, 2013 9:12 PM GMT
    I lot of younger guy here on RJ message me. I like young men. I'm in the best shap of my life and don't look my age. So if your attracted to oler or younger men it's your business and no body else'
  • Bunjamon

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    Nov 05, 2013 9:43 PM GMT
    BigJimBigJackBigJosh saidSome guys are young at heart and some have an old soul. If the connection is there, if it works for the two of you, than who cares what anyone else says - go for it! There are no rules.


    This.
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    Nov 05, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    Coming from someone who's always dated older, I didn't think age difference was a bog deal until I met my ex. Me in my early 30s, him in his 50s...he was too set in his ways, never wanting to do anything different or get anything new. My new age preference is 25-40.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 05, 2013 9:55 PM GMT
    I won't date any one greater than 7 years plus or minus anymore ... any greater, and it is too much of an age difference. However, if you are just looking for something short term, I don't think age matters too much, just keep in mind anything >7plus/minus will likely not last in the long term and you might miss out on that perfect long term guy by wasting your time with a short term guy.