Casual Sex / Sex with Strangers

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    Nov 06, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    Do you think there's a difference between casual sex and sex with strangers?

    Last week, I was at a gallery and met a guy. He was attractive, by RJ standards, and very friendly. We talked about nothing for a few minutes, and then he asked if I would like to go home with him.

    What would you have done? How well do you have to know someone before you are willing to jump into the sack?
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    Nov 06, 2013 2:28 AM GMT
    no thanks
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 06, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    He was a man, right?

    Gawd, you guys are so picky!

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  • jo2hotbod

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    Nov 06, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    Go to his place and drill the life out of him... Or get drilled, whichever is your preference
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    Nov 06, 2013 2:36 AM GMT
    There is a difference.

    If you get to know somebody, and have casual sex with them, you have an opportunity to do some "risk assessment" to determine if it makes sense to even engage in casual sex.

    If you have casual sex with an anonymous stranger, you are denying yourself the opportunity to perform any "risk assessment" and may therefore engage in sex with somebody who (if you knew them better) you wouldn't even think of sharing casual sex.

  • Timbales

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    Nov 06, 2013 2:46 AM GMT
    I've come to the realization I like the idea of sex more than actual sex.
  • disasterpiece

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    Nov 06, 2013 2:53 AM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidDo you think there's a difference between casual sex and sex with strangers?

    Last week, I was at a gallery and met a guy. He was attractive, by RJ standards, and very friendly. We talked about nothing for a few minutes, and then he asked if I would like to go home with him.

    What would you have done? How well do you have to know someone before you are willing to jump into the sack?


    I rolled my eyes so hard at "by RJ standards" that they were too sore to read the rest of the post.
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    Nov 06, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    Disasterpiece saidI rolled my eyes so hard at "by RJ standards" that they were too sore to read the rest of the post.


    I just meant that most of the guys here would have drooled over him. But then, most of the guys here would drool over anything that moved.
  • DBomb129

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    Nov 06, 2013 3:49 AM GMT
    So what happened?

    If he was hot and you got a good vibe from him, but aren't comfortable sleeping with him off the bat, maybe ask to go out or hang out a bit more after the gallery?
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    Nov 06, 2013 3:57 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidThere is a difference.

    If you get to know somebody, and have casual sex with them, you have an opportunity to do some "risk assessment" to determine if it makes sense to even engage in casual sex.

    If you have casual sex with an anonymous stranger, you are denying yourself the opportunity to perform any "risk assessment" and may therefore engage in sex with somebody who (if you knew them better) you wouldn't even think of sharing casual sex.


    In other words, the key to spontaneity is careful preparation. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 06, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    by rj standards? what the fuck is that?

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    Nov 06, 2013 4:17 AM GMT
    Are you bragging about being cruised?
    or
    Calling out the prudes and sluts?

    --I was compensated a few times, so not completely a slut.




    Import saidby rj standards? what the fuck is that?

    think he means, dude had abs and shit, totally straight acting.
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    Nov 06, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    Me thinks we're being used for a psychological evaluation; as if we're allowed to be a true representation of All members of RJ cause we post; or even the whole of gay society cause of this International Gay Platform. More test for lover, haters and cynics who want to draw a line between gays and everyone else; cause such and such Universal behavior.
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    Nov 06, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidAre you bragging about being cruised?
    or
    Calling out the prudes and sluts?


    Can it be both? Aren't all posts on RJ supposed to be self-congratulatory or judgmental?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 06, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    I think maybe casual sex is when you get to know a little about someone, or you may even know them fairly well ... sex with strangers is pretty much like going to the bathhouse or a pick location like a park or bathroom.

    In the past was more the casual sex type, but I have had sex with strangers. Now days, not so much, but then I guess I haven't run into the right guy, because I know there are a couple guys I've met casually and briefly that I would have gone home with if the opportunity had produced itself.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 06, 2013 4:31 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    --I was compensated a few times, so not completely a slut.


    ummm ... doesn't that make you a whore
    Not that, that never happened to me ... just sayin' icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 06, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    dustin_K_tx said
    --I was compensated a few times, so not completely a slut.


    ummm ... doesn't that make you a whore
    Not that, that never happened to me ... just sayin' icon_lol.gif


    Pretty sure it's whore till 25 years of age then technically it a Gigolo, and as I didn't take the plane tickets till 27...
  • killercliche

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    Nov 06, 2013 4:53 AM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidDo you think there's a difference between casual sex and sex with strangers?

    Last week, I was at a gallery and met a guy. He was attractive, by RJ standards, and very friendly. We talked about nothing for a few minutes, and then he asked if I would like to go home with him.

    What would you have done? How well do you have to know someone before you are willing to jump into the sack?



    Would I? No

    Should you have? Yes
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    Nov 06, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    JonnyMIA saidI once thought about sleeping with a guy for his Apple discount.


    By "thought about," do you mean, "totally did?"
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    Nov 06, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    shortbutsweet said
    GAMRican saidThere is a difference.

    If you get to know somebody, and have casual sex with them, you have an opportunity to do some "risk assessment" to determine if it makes sense to even engage in casual sex.

    If you have casual sex with an anonymous stranger, you are denying yourself the opportunity to perform any "risk assessment" and may therefore engage in sex with somebody who (if you knew them better) you wouldn't even think of sharing casual sex.


    In other words, the key to spontaneity is careful preparation. icon_wink.gif


    Spontaneity happens.

    So at the very least, ALWAYS PACK CONDOMS!!!

    Some lube (a Chap Stick at the very least) is also helpful.
  • DBomb129

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    Nov 06, 2013 8:37 AM GMT
    shortbutsweet said
    JonnyMIA saidI once thought about sleeping with a guy for his Apple discount.


    By "thought about," do you mean, "totally did?"


    Depending on the discount or even just availability, you really probably, definitely should have. I guess you didn't need a new computer at the time?
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    Nov 06, 2013 8:50 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidSomeone hold me back before I tell the OP what I really think.


    *pushes forward*
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    Nov 06, 2013 9:46 AM GMT
    JonnyMIA saidI once thought about sleeping with a guy for his Apple discount.


    OMG, me too! But then he told me it was only 10% and I said forget it!
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    Nov 06, 2013 10:26 AM GMT
    Timbales saidI've come to the realization I like the idea of sex more than actual sex.


    Yep, ditto.
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 06, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    shortbutsweet said
    GAMRican saidThere is a difference.

    If you get to know somebody, and have casual sex with them, you have an opportunity to do some "risk assessment" to determine if it makes sense to even engage in casual sex.

    If you have casual sex with an anonymous stranger, you are denying yourself the opportunity to perform any "risk assessment" and may therefore engage in sex with somebody who (if you knew them better) you wouldn't even think of sharing casual sex.


    In other words, the key to spontaneity is careful preparation. icon_wink.gif


    Spontaneity happens.

    So at the very least, ALWAYS PACK CONDOMS!!!

    Some lube (a Chap Stick at the very least) is also helpful.

    Only use lip gloss on holidays, or he'll think you're a whore.