Could you be in a sexless relationship?

  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 06, 2013 4:00 AM GMT
    COLORED TEXT GOES HERERESIZED TEXT GOES HERE Here is the deal. I have run into a lot of guys gay and straight who are in relationships where they are not getting sex. I know some guys who are in very long term relationships where they have not had sex in 5, 10, or 15 years.. I almost passed out when one of my buddies told me that he had not had sex in 10 years with his partner. I use to laugh at one of my very close buddies when he use to complain about being in a sexless marriage. I know what I would do but I would be very interested in hearing from other realjockers. Do you think you would stay in a relationship with someone if the sex completely stopped? Or would you move on?

    By the way:

    If the sex stops and he or she aren't trying to work through it than the relationship is over for me.


  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 06, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    woodsmen saidNo, I could not. Sex sustains the love in the relationship.
    wow, something we actually agree on. who knew. ;)
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    Nov 06, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    woodsmen said^Don't break out the champagne. It's the only one. And I would like to publicly apologize on the failscarf comment. It was extremely poor taste on my part.
    its cool buddy. i did not take it personally
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 06, 2013 4:21 AM GMT
    however, i do agree with you that sex helps sustains a relationship. which is why can't understand why someone would do it.
    i wonder if its because they are scared to walk away from it and be alone?
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    Nov 06, 2013 4:35 AM GMT
    Hellllls no. Ahaha
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    Nov 06, 2013 5:41 AM GMT
    I've never been in a relationship, but I don't mind a sexless relationship (if by sex, you mean penetrative sex). I actually don't want penetrative sex but I don't mind kissing, caressing, cuddling, and frottage.
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    Nov 06, 2013 6:22 AM GMT
    Why not?
    Sex is only a small part of relationship which people give more attention than it deserves... but relationship isn't sex.
    In my humble opinion, Sex is only a catalyst.
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    Nov 06, 2013 7:10 AM GMT
    ^ I like some of your posts, but this one sounds judgmental.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 06, 2013 7:17 AM GMT
    woodsmen saidFor those who think a relationship without sex is okay, you are living with a roommate not a partner unless for reason of age or diseases that prevent intimacy.

    I've heard of older, long-term (been together 10+ years) couples gay and straight who stop having sex after awhile. It could just be natural. God originally created cum so you can fuck, have kids, and then after that it's not required to fuck anymore. Straight men have it worse. I've heard of guys begging their wives for sex and they just don't want to. I think that's where nature went wrong. Old horny men, yet women just totally lose it.

    But..I've been that guy in the sexless relationship. Yes, me. I was 'friends' with a guy for over a year kinda on/off, but every week we would hangout, go home together, sleep in the same bed, etc. He called it 'just friends' but in reality he wanted to try and control the relationship by witholding sex. Friends don't sleep together and cuddle.

    Never again...A man brings their ass in my bed, it's gonna get fucked. Bring your dick in, it's gonna get sucked. Lay you head on my bed, you're gonna taste this nut LOL hahaha
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 06, 2013 9:23 AM GMT
    Harry7785 said^ I like some of your posts, but this one sounds judgmental.icon_rolleyes.gif
    no, its not judgmental its a fact. if you ask any therapist they will tell you that sex is very important part of a relationship. but like woodsmen said if you are not having sex than you just have a roommate
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 06, 2013 9:25 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    woodsmen saidFor those who think a relationship without sex is okay, you are living with a roommate not a partner unless for reason of age or diseases that prevent intimacy.

    I've heard of older, long-term (been together 10+ years) couples gay and straight who stop having sex after awhile. It could just be natural. God originally created cum so you can fuck, have kids, and then after that it's not required to fuck anymore. Straight men have it worse. I've heard of guys begging their wives for sex and they just don't want to. I think that's where nature went wrong. Old horny men, yet women just totally lose it.

    But..I've been that guy in the sexless relationship. Yes, me. I was 'friends' with a guy for over a year kinda on/off, but every week we would hangout, go home together, sleep in the same bed, etc. He called it 'just friends' but in reality he wanted to try and control the relationship by witholding sex. Friends don't sleep together and cuddle.

    Never again...A man brings their ass in my bed, it's gonna get fucked. Bring your dick in, it's gonna get sucked. Lay you head on my bed, you're gonna taste this nut LOL hahaha
    LOL remind me not to come home with you then
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    Nov 06, 2013 10:04 AM GMT
    Harry7785 said^ I like some of your posts, but this one sounds judgmental.icon_rolleyes.gif


    That's because it is. There are so many reasons why couples don't have sex. Stating age and disease are the reasons is absurd.
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    Nov 06, 2013 10:06 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    Harry7785 said^ I like some of your posts, but this one sounds judgmental.icon_rolleyes.gif
    no, its not judgmental its a fact. if you ask any therapist they will tell you that sex is very important part of a relationship. but like woodsmen said if you are not having sex than you just have a roommate

    Can you tell the same to a couple who are asexuals?
    Tell them that they are not in a relationship as they think they are, but just roommates!
    Even if you can, they will surely will not accept your opinion just like you won't accept the concept "homosexuality is a disease" which generally claimed by homophobic people.
    And if you disagree with them (asexuals) they can call you "asexual-phobic" just like we use the word 'homophobic' on those who disagree with us.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 06, 2013 10:25 AM GMT
    Harry7785 said
    tuffguyndc said
    Harry7785 said^ I like some of your posts, but this one sounds judgmental.icon_rolleyes.gif
    no, its not judgmental its a fact. if you ask any therapist they will tell you that sex is very important part of a relationship. but like woodsmen said if you are not having sex than you just have a roommate

    Can you tell the same to a couple who are asexuals?
    Tell them that they are not in a relationship as they think they are, but just roommates!
    Even if you can, they will surely will not accept your opinion just like you won't accept the concept "homosexuality is a disease" which generally claimed by homophobic people.
    And if you disagree with them (asexuals) they can call you "asexual-phobic" just like we use the word 'homophobic' on those who disagree with us.
    dude, are you serious? asexual? this form of relationship is not even apart of the topic. my thread is about people who were having sex and stopped having sex.
    someone being homophobic is not apart of this conversation. the things are you bringing up to validate your point is utterly ridiculous. They make no sense what so ever
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    Nov 06, 2013 10:40 AM GMT
    Lol! My apologies!
    However,... no...no.. I'll end it now.
    My apologies again.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 06, 2013 2:36 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidLol! My apologies!
    However,... no...no.. I'll end it now.
    My apologies again.
    its ok, its not your fault you did not read the topic
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    Nov 06, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    woodsmen saidNo, I could not. Sex sustains the love in the relationship.

    I was in a sexless relationship once, then we went on the second date and I pounded the hell out of him in the restroom, and the rest was kind of romantic actually.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 06, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
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    woodsmen saidNo, I could not. Sex sustains the love in the relationship.

    I was in a sexless relationship once, then we went on the second date and I pounded the hell out of him in the restroom, and the rest was kind of romantic actually.
    ha ha ha that doesn't sound very sexless to me at all.
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    Nov 06, 2013 6:20 PM GMT
    polfsky saidI've never been in a relationship, but I don't mind a sexless relationship (if by sex, you mean penetrative sex). I actually don't want penetrative sex but I don't mind kissing, caressing, cuddling, and frottage.
    ha ha ha well you need to become a top than
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    Nov 07, 2013 12:41 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    polfsky saidI've never been in a relationship, but I don't mind a sexless relationship (if by sex, you mean penetrative sex). I actually don't want penetrative sex but I don't mind kissing, caressing, cuddling, and frottage.
    ha ha ha well you need to become a top than


    lol. I need to find myself a bottom then. icon_redface.gif
  • mrsmithers

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    Nov 07, 2013 2:59 AM GMT
    A sexless relationship is basically close friends to me.. If the two persons are elderly and have been together for like 40+ years or something, and don't have sex anymore, that's different..
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    Nov 07, 2013 3:46 AM GMT
    Been there. Done that. Never again.
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    Nov 07, 2013 4:11 AM GMT
    Been in that situation..could never allow that to.happen again..I feel like sex is too easy to obtain for me to need to beg my partner for it..
  • Apparition

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    Nov 07, 2013 9:25 AM GMT
    been there done that against my will. Never again.
    Put out or get out.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 07, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    Behemothboi saidBeen in that situation..could never allow that to.happen again..I feel like sex is too easy to obtain for me to need to beg my partner for it..
    dude, if i have to beg for sex than that is the beginning of the end for me. i will not be begging for sex unless we are doing role play