Hotlist too long?

  • lifeat84

    Posts: 54

    Dec 03, 2008 1:31 PM GMT
    So, as i near the 2750th person on my HotList, I am wondering. just how do you guys feel about being on hot lists in general. Is it flattering? are you on so many that you don't even care anymore? If you have read my profile, you know what I use it for. Surprisingly enough to me, i don't think anyone has asked me WHY I added them to the list. Not one out of 2687 men on the list are the least bit curious? Really?

    So I guess what im actually asking is, what do you guys think, is it pointless for me to do, or am I reading too much into things?

    Feedback is Welcome

    Goddess' blessing on you all this holiday season, may the warmth of family, friends, and love bring you joy and see you safely through these stressful times. Blessed Yuletide's everyone!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 2:21 PM GMT
    I find it flattering when the guy has like, 50 or less. If they have like over 500 or something I just see pretty much ignore it...

    It's not that I don't appreciate it, but it's just too many
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 2:52 PM GMT
    It is a reflection of how I feel at any given moment, all the men I click are hot to me for one reason or another. I don't mind the number, yeah there are 3000+ hot guys on this site. Why else would I want to be here?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 2:55 PM GMT
    the fact is, there are too many gorgeous guys on this site that it'd be all to easy to stick in a hotlist- its to the credit of the site.
    my old profile had a TON in the hot list, but i never actively used it for anything- it was like a collection. or a compulsion to add hot guys to it lol.
    so in my new profile, knowing full well that if i start adding guys i'll never be able to stop lol, i'm keeping my hotlist empty for now. its much more difficult to earn one's way into my buddy list anyways- it means i wanna talk to those guys again regularly.
  • ArmwrestlerJi...

    Posts: 188

    Dec 03, 2008 3:12 PM GMT
    Good God..it's just a website and it's all in good fun. Why does it matter really?icon_question.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 3:15 PM GMT
    I don't know about you guys, but I lie awake at night thinking about my hot list all the time.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 3:18 PM GMT
    Me too, I was up all night last night thinking about your hotlist. WTF?

    iguanaSF saidI don't know about you guys, but I lie awake at night thinking about my hot list all the time.

  • Teacherguy

    Posts: 150

    Dec 03, 2008 3:37 PM GMT
    HAHA its just for fun...and i do find it flattering when a guy hotlist me..
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 4:01 PM GMT
    If I see someone has hot listed me and their profile indicates anywhere over 100 others hot-listed, I ignore because the initial thought that comes to mind is: 'kid in a candy store, and everything looks good to him'.

    Can't like everything that's available.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 4:04 PM GMT
    Hmm, I like to browse my hotlist on occasion, see who's added new photos, if they've update the profile with new data about their life. It's not just about Ooo me want. It's really no different than friending on MySpace and Facebook.
  • TallGWMvballe...

    Posts: 1925

    Dec 03, 2008 5:38 PM GMT
    My policy was no policy; I would see a guy I thought was very attractive either because he is my "type" physically OR because something he wrote in his profile or in the forums struck a chord and I simply hit the "Add to Hot List" button.

    Even though only a couple of guys responded about being added I want everyone on my list to know that they are much appreciated and I would love to hear from you. icon_smile.gif

    By the way, I am always flattered when someone from this youth crazed site DOES hot list me. Thanks to those who have,

    -- Ron
  • Nudista

    Posts: 158

    Dec 03, 2008 6:02 PM GMT
    Its nice to know someone added me to their hotlist....but it pales in comparison to when someone actually sends an email to say hello or try to start a conversation...or better yet, has added me to their mutual buddy list.

    Also....if your hotlist is in the "thousands"....well, I'm not finding it very surprising at all that I landed on it...had i been added. Really says nothing to me.....simply adds me to the masses.

    I don't have a single person on my hotlist...why? Mainly because I'm not on here to collect a file of handsome men. I can hit google pics for that and be bombarded.

    I promise you if I think your handsome I'm going to tell you during a chat after we've exchanged a few words. Its a hell of a lot more meaningful that way.
    Just one man's opinion.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    I don't get the point of a hotlist. Maybe I'll just start playing the whore, sleep with as many RJers I can, then add them to my hotlist. It'll be like my little RJ black book.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 6:27 PM GMT
    ursamajor saidMe too, I was up all night last night thinking about your hotlist. WTF?

    iguanaSF saidI don't know about you guys, but I lie awake at night thinking about my hot list all the time.



    I often lie awake at night (and sometimes sobbing in frustration) wondering why, oh why I'm not on your hotlists multiple times. Once is never enough, dammit!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 6:28 PM GMT
    Who'd wanna sleep with a Buckeye? Ew.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 6:35 PM GMT
    when I see a hot guy, I add him to my list. It's meant to be a compliment AT THAT MOMENT...like "hey, you're hot"

    I don't expect to maintain relations with all of the guys on my list (tho there are some I'd like to relate to at least for a few hours)...its just more of a 'I think you deserve a mention that you are hot' and not much more.

    as such, I dont feel bad about having 40,000 guys on my list...I felt that each one was hot at some point and I just wanted to let them know that.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 6:40 PM GMT
    tommysguns2000 saidwhen I see a hot guy, I add him to my list. It's meant to be a compliment AT THAT MOMENT...like "hey, you're hot"

    I don't expect to maintain relations with all of the guys on my list (tho there are some I'd like to relate to at least for a few hours)...its just more of a 'I think you deserve a mention that you are hot' and not much more.

    as such, I dont feel bad about having 40,000 guys on my list...I felt that each one was hot at some point and I just wanted to let them know that.


    See, now, why dont we have a "poke" feature? I love poking people.

    Or we could be dirty like manhunt and wink at people. HAHA, but then people would just put in profiles: WINKS = IGNORE

    Or you could just be totally direct and email him saying: You're hot, lets fuck.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 7:04 PM GMT
    You have long ways to go yet. There are over 142,000 RJ members of which over 50,000 have photos. So 2,750 is around 5% of the total. Peanuts.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 9:03 PM GMT
    I have been on this site for a while although not very active in posting until recently.

    So far, I have only 2 people that have "hot listed" me. One is my partner of over 11 years and the other is a random person just from the other night. I sent that person a note of thanks for "hot listing" me. It makes me feel good inside when someone esle think's I'm "hot".

    Now, I realize that I am 38 years old and still have some work to do. I'm not 22 anymore- the beach photo of me in my photos of when I was 22. Even at 38, I still thought I would have had more than 2 people hot list me on this site? But, like I said I haven't posted much and maybe that's part of it.

    Maybe, we should have a new category called, "I think you use to be hot" or "I think you have potential to be hot."

    Just think of all the guys on this site that have not been "hot listed" yet?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 9:53 PM GMT
    icon_lol.gif
    from what i read you are using your hotlist to list the guys that you find hot.
    there are many hot guys on here, hence many guys on your hotlist.

    my brain is fried with all the thinking i had to do to figure out the above...icon_lol.gif
    i'm gonna go chill now icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 10:06 PM GMT


    I've got 20 guys on my hotlist, only about 4 of those are recent. People here may trivialize it because this is just the internet, but out of 142,000 men on this site, I think they are the hottest and am hard pressed to find any guys who are better. It may not mean much in this limited medium, but actions speak louder than words all the time. This is why number 20 on my list can believe me when I call em hot, number 20 on Terry's list....not so much.
    There is one guy I delete and re-add to my Hotlist everytime he gets bumped off and that's COMALE.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 10:21 PM GMT
    Why would someone write to you to ask why you'd put them on your hotlist?

    I mean, it's a H-O-T-L-I-S-T !!!!!!!

    Does what it says on the tin.

    I haven't hotlisted anyone for ages, I can't be arsed to be honest.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 11:03 PM GMT
    I find it flattering. I find it kind interesting when I get put on the "Buddy List" when we have never exchanged one single email among each other.icon_lol.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 11:07 PM GMT
    Yes, that is a weird one. And then they open their private pictures. Hmm. Oh, well, you can never see enough naked men.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2008 11:12 PM GMT
    I agree with those who said if someone has over a certain number on their hotlist (2700 is way over that number) it's pretty much meaningless.

    I try to keep mine under 100.

    I hotlist someone for several reasons. For one, as a kind of bookmark. Two, if I just want the guy to know someone thinks he's hot. And often I hotlist a guy because of something he's written in his profile; something witty he's said, a shared common interest, or something common in both our backgrounds.

    If someone is on my hotlist, it's significant. I don't think you can say that about 2750 people on this site.