Should your mate/lover/partner want other guys?

  • that_fella

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    Nov 12, 2013 1:43 PM GMT
    I think the majority of us want our guys to be head over heels and to never stray from us, but shouldn't they still want other fellas?

    I've got a friend that would like for us to be something more.. We hang out (strictly platonic) and have a great time together. I recently asked him why he's not dating/hooking up and he said "because I already know who I want" To me this was more of a turn off than flattering. Do we want our fella's to want other men (even if subconsciously)?

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    Nov 12, 2013 3:18 PM GMT
    Fist off
    I can't blame him, pretty sure it be hard just to hang with you.
    Confused "your fella"?
    Your friend is your fella; then yes, you should lay down the law, maybe back off some so he can find someone else.
    Your Partner/boyfriend should want other men?
    --he's a man, so yes he should be looking or rather appreciating other men, but wanting them enough to ruin what he has with you, then no.
    is this a fuckbuddy situation that has come to an end?
  • that_fella

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    Nov 12, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    Thank you..
    Its one of those met over 10 years ago, went out a couple of times, it didn't work, lost touch for years, then started hanging 4 yrs ago.. It just got me wondering if I'd want my guy to want other guys or if I was put off because this guy is a just a friend.
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    Nov 12, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
    To answer the thread question, yes. Just because a guy is committed doesn't mean they can't fantasize about per guys or check them out. As long as he doesn't stray from the estabalished boundaries of the relationship, it's totally natural.

    For your case, I fail to see the relevance. He probably does think of sex with other guys other then you. But he WANTS it with you. See the difference? There's a deeper connection in his perception.