Is having a long term monogamous relationship possible in the gay world?

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    Nov 12, 2013 2:39 PM GMT
    I'm 24 and finding it hard to so much as get a date let alone get into a relationship with someone.

    No one seems to be serious and give you the run around when you try to get to know them.
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    Nov 12, 2013 2:40 PM GMT
    Yes of course it's possible. I was 24 when I met my current partner and we've been together for 4 years.
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    Nov 12, 2013 2:45 PM GMT
    Nope
    only in Uruguay
    oh
    and Canada--Move?
  • MikeW

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    Nov 12, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    Of course its possible. Illusive, true, but possible.

    You may have to be willing to relocate, though. Depends on the dating pool where you are, so to say.

    The main thing is to be available. That word "available" implies a lot more than the obvious (single), such as your willingness to be emotionally vulnerable or open to meeting someone you actually LIKE (are not only 'attracted' to). Plus it has to be mutual in that regard, as well. So, there are are a lot of variables. But, you never know. Just don't give up or get jaded too quickly. Doing so limits your "availability."

  • HottJoe

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    Nov 12, 2013 5:26 PM GMT
    Only if you are willing to compromise and try kinky role playing.
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    Nov 12, 2013 5:49 PM GMT
    MikeW saidOf course its possible. Illusive, true, but possible.

    You may have to be willing to relocate, though. Depends on the dating pool where you are, so to say.

    The main thing is to be available. That word "available" implies a lot more than the obvious (single), such as your willingness to be emotionally vulnerable or open to meeting someone you actually LIKE (are not only 'attracted' to). Plus it has to be mutual in that regard, as well. So, there are are a lot of variables. But, you never know. Just don't give up or get jaded too quickly. Doing so limits your "availability."



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    Nov 12, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    Meninlove!
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 12, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidMeninlove!

    You know they want to kill each other, right?icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 12, 2013 5:59 PM GMT
    Yes, duh. Why you got to be conformed to every stereotype?
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    Nov 12, 2013 7:13 PM GMT
    It is definitely possible, but guys who try too hard will struggle to find someone, or will end up with someone who treats them badly. This is even more true for gay men than straight women.

    Think of it as like a sales job, it is easier to get the sale if you have confidence in your product. If you believe in your product then if one potential buyer is uninterested you can move on to the next one.
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    Nov 12, 2013 11:52 PM GMT
    Yes, you just have to find someone with the same mindset. By nature I'm a loyalist. I stick to my beliefs and the people I love -- even going down with the ship (so to speak).

    It's hard to gain my trust, but once you have it don't screw it up.
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    Nov 13, 2013 1:47 AM GMT
    Yeah, it's possible - some of us have been together more than 20 years. However, you shouldn't expect your first to be the last. Most guys need the practice of trying out relationships (that won't last) before they end up in one that lasts a long time. Keep hunting - you are bound to find someone.
  • Paperless_Pen

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    Nov 15, 2013 12:36 PM GMT
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/09/gay-relationship-mistakes_n_4242826.html
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    Nov 15, 2013 12:54 PM GMT
    Definitely is possible. I'm in one right now! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 15, 2013 1:40 PM GMT
    Here's a new topic.
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 15, 2013 5:07 PM GMT
    No, you're a hooker now. Just deal with it.icon_evil.gif