Blasians?

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    Nov 13, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    Any Asian guys out there interested at all in black guys? Whether for dating, hookups or whatever, I have a hard time getting any Asian guys to give me the time of day as a black guy. So many profiles say outright that they are only looking for white guys, or occasionally other Asian guys. And I've seen millions of Asian-white couples, but have yet to come across an Asian-black couple. I will become involved with any attractive guy regardless of race, but I do tend to find a lot of Asian guys attractive, so it is frustrating that many Asian guys I have encountered seem to think so little of black men. I am confident in myself as an attractive and intelligent man anyways, but what is the deal???
  • Ridiculance

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    Nov 14, 2013 12:46 AM GMT
    Happens to me all the time as well. I love asian guys too and have luckily been with quite a few icon_cool.gif but most of the ones I hit on aren't interested. Especially the more masculine guys. Just my observation. But I simply move on to the next. Some guys look at non-whites (especially asians & blacks) as a good lay & that's it. So maybe they feel being with a black guy will put them even lower on the gay totem pole (lol). It sucks though. I know a lot of guys that love hanging out once they give me the time of day. They admit it afterwards too. We aren't all hoodrats lol.
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    Nov 14, 2013 1:04 AM GMT
    jrmdavis saidAny Asian guys out there interested at all in black guys? Whether for dating, hookups or whatever, I have a hard time getting any Asian guys to give me the time of day as a black guy. So many profiles say outright that they are only looking for white guys, or occasionally other Asian guys. And I've seen millions of Asian-white couples, but have yet to come across an Asian-black couple. I will become involved with any attractive guy regardless of race, but I do tend to find a lot of Asian guys attractive, so it is frustrating that many Asian guys I have encountered seem to think so little of black men. I am confident in myself as an attractive and intelligent man anyways, but what is the deal???


    I like black guys. :-)
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    Nov 14, 2013 8:16 AM GMT
    1285pytk said
    I like black guys. :-)


    ooo...you better get with that icon_wink.gif

    I dated only 1 Asian guy. He was hitting me up on Grindr for months but I thought I wasn't really into him. But then, one day I was like, "what the heck" and met him.

    He treated me really nice, let me drive his Lex around on dates. But then out of nowhere he started acting distant before we could even get to the next level. Then he just stopped meeting up with me. But then, he'd send Happy 4th of July texts, and then most recently he came on strong and asking to see my dick pics..but then flaked on me AGAIN. And I know it wasn't size-related because he was still taking dirty.

    Not sure if that story means anything. But, if you're going for Asians...you might have to join the military. that's how my cuz married an Asian girl.

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    Nov 14, 2013 7:40 PM GMT
    Ridiculance saidHappens to me all the time as well. I love asian guys too and have luckily been with quite a few icon_cool.gif but most of the ones I hit on aren't interested. Especially the more masculine guys. Just my observation. But I simply move on to the next. Some guys look at non-whites (especially asians & blacks) as a good lay & that's it. So maybe they feel being with a black guy will put them even lower on the gay totem pole (lol). It sucks though. I know a lot of guys that love hanging out once they give me the time of day. They admit it afterwards too. We aren't all hoodrats lol.


    Ugh. I hope the totem pole thing isn't true. Although I have heard that perspective before. Really upsetting if our community is that superficial. I could accept if dating a successful guy would "raise your social status", because at least that indicates that the guy must have some impressive personal attributes (hard working, intelligent etc.). I don't understand why being white, or any race, should have any bearing. Maybe it's because we collectively accept that white people are the ideal of beauty and therefore should be sought after as some kind of trophy. That is both shallow and offensive since there are sooooo many handsome, sexy, hot non-white guys all over the place.

    Oh whatever ... we should just date each other; we can be hoodrats together icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 15, 2013 2:52 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    1285pytk said
    I like black guys. :-)


    I dated only 1 Asian guy. He was hitting me up on Grindr for months but I thought I wasn't really into him. But then, one day I was like, "what the heck" and met him.

    He treated me really nice, let me drive his Lex around on dates. But then out of nowhere he started acting distant before we could even get to the next level. Then he just stopped meeting up with me. But then, he'd send Happy 4th of July texts, and then most recently he came on strong and asking to see my dick pics..but then flaked on me AGAIN. And I know it wasn't size-related because he was still taking dirty.



    LOL he probably has a boyfriend already and was just curious about Black men maybe? Lol Red flags should go up when guys start acting all hot/cold all of a sudden! You were just his booty call! sorry to sound harsh! I mean you met on Grindr, did you expect happily ever after ?? icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 15, 2013 5:14 AM GMT
    jrmdavis said
    Ugh. I hope the totem pole thing isn't true. Although I have heard that perspective before. Really upsetting if our community is that superficial.


    Even if it is true, it's not just 'our community'. It's more particular to the Asian community. Nothing bad, it's just how it is. China is way on the Pacific. Africa is way on the Atlantic. Blame the babylonians and pangea for dividing the human race.

    I'd probably say Blacks and Asians probably have the widest disparity as far as 'hooking up' goes. What you seen in Romeo must die is about as close as it's gonna get between a sistah and a ricer lol. (i know, rude!)
  • Import

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    Nov 17, 2013 5:29 AM GMT
    wait, isn't a blasian a mixed black and asian person? All you're talking about, OP is your unsuccessful pursuit of dating Asian men.

    This has nothing to do with actual Blasians. wtf?
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    Nov 17, 2013 7:40 AM GMT
    Import saidwait, isn't a blasian a mixed black and asian person? All you're talking about, OP is your unsuccessful pursuit of dating Asian men.

    This has nothing to do with actual Blasians. wtf?


    Lol right, I think OP means Blasians as a metaphor for Asian-Black mixed couple! (Everytime I read Blasian, I think of Clint Eastwood wife, Dina Eastwood, she's half Asian/Black and Tiger Woods).
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    Nov 17, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    Import saidwait, isn't a blasian a mixed black and asian person? All you're talking about, OP is your unsuccessful pursuit of dating Asian men.

    This has nothing to do with actual Blasians. wtf?


    Dude you are so right about that but in his defense I think he meant to use the term in referring to the coupling of Black and Asian.

    On a more serious note, I think the reason why 74% of Asian men are unwilling to date Blacks is because of the high HIV rate amongst black men. I am attracted to Asian and Caucasian men, but I will probably never date because I am aware of the stigma. I think also there is the education factor and wealth factor issue that comes up. Oh and let us not forget about looks. Most "good" people will say that looks should not matter and all those "nice" things, but to be honest I truly believe that looks do matter a great deal. Not only in the gay community but in all aspects of life. When you go to certain job interviews they do prefer to higher someone who is taller or someone who looks fit. Looks dictate your role in society, sad but it is a FACT.
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    Nov 18, 2013 4:32 AM GMT
    Buffgeek81 said
    Import saidwait, isn't a blasian a mixed black and asian person? All you're talking about, OP is your unsuccessful pursuit of dating Asian men.

    This has nothing to do with actual Blasians. wtf?


    Dude you are so right about that but in his defense I think he meant to use the term in referring to the coupling of Black and Asian.

    On a more serious note, I think the reason why 74% of Asian men are unwilling to date Blacks is because of the high HIV rate amongst black men. I am attracted to Asian and Caucasian men, but I will probably never date because I am aware of the stigma. I think also there is the education factor and wealth factor issue that comes up. Oh and let us not forget about looks. Most "good" people will say that looks should not matter and all those "nice" things, but to be honest I truly believe that looks do matter a great deal. Not only in the gay community but in all aspects of life. When you go to certain job interviews they do prefer to higher someone who is taller or someone who looks fit. Looks dictate your role in society, sad but it is a FACT.


    High HIV rate? wtf? If you're hot you're hot. Doesn't matter.

    Asians are super into, like.... "saving face" and looking good in front other people and bringing pride and noterity to their family. Perhaps dating white ppl is seen as more desireable to Asians because they think that white ppl are higher up in the social stratosphere. They think that dating a white person will be more beneficial to them and their reputation. No offense, Asians, but like.... u guys obsess on that type of shit. it's kinda weird.
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    Nov 18, 2013 1:13 PM GMT
    From my experience in the Asia-Pacific, a "blasian" couple would have to overcome/deal with one furious tiger mom. icon_surprised.gif
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    Nov 19, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    One of my ex's was half asian .... Nana na nana !!! icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 19, 2013 4:35 AM GMT
    My ex was Asian...
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    Nov 23, 2013 7:05 AM GMT
    Black guys are hot. Especially the one on the basketball court. Tall, dark and yummy haha.
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    Nov 23, 2013 9:51 PM GMT
    I mean I'm not black (Actually Im a quarter Chinese), but I get told I don't look it at all. I love asian guys... would love to find a nice buff asian dude haha! but for the most part, i don't think asian dudes like me. Im too big for them, since they're average height is like 5'7" - 5'9"... Black guys are on average a lot bigger (Im talking physical body wise) than asians, so does that play a role in it?

    P.S. Im also very asian cultured being from Hawaii, so I know its not a culture difference per say
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    Oct 28, 2015 3:51 AM GMT
    brand06 saidBlack guys are hot. Especially the one on the basketball court. Tall, dark and yummy haha.


    i am happy to see that some asian guyz see my skin color as beautiful thanks you for giving me hope. Please tell me why most asain guyz choose to date white guyz exclusivly
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    Oct 29, 2015 6:09 PM GMT
    I like black guys! I'm half Asian but I get confused with Latino a lot. I have dated a black guy in the past and he definitely changed my perspective. I found myself watching more porn with black guys in it and I would pretend it was the guy I was seeing that was in the video.
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    Oct 29, 2015 6:19 PM GMT
    Import said
    Buffgeek81 said
    Import saidwait, isn't a blasian a mixed black and asian person? All you're talking about, OP is your unsuccessful pursuit of dating Asian men.

    This has nothing to do with actual Blasians. wtf?


    Dude you are so right about that but in his defense I think he meant to use the term in referring to the coupling of Black and Asian.

    On a more serious note, I think the reason why 74% of Asian men are unwilling to date Blacks is because of the high HIV rate amongst black men. I am attracted to Asian and Caucasian men, but I will probably never date because I am aware of the stigma. I think also there is the education factor and wealth factor issue that comes up. Oh and let us not forget about looks. Most "good" people will say that looks should not matter and all those "nice" things, but to be honest I truly believe that looks do matter a great deal. Not only in the gay community but in all aspects of life. When you go to certain job interviews they do prefer to higher someone who is taller or someone who looks fit. Looks dictate your role in society, sad but it is a FACT.


    High HIV rate? wtf? If you're hot you're hot. Doesn't matter.

    Asians are super into, like.... "saving face" and looking good in front other people and bringing pride and noterity to their family. Perhaps dating white ppl is seen as more desireable to Asians because they think that white ppl are higher up in the social stratosphere. They think that dating a white person will be more beneficial to them and their reputation. No offense, Asians, but like.... u guys obsess on that type of shit. it's kinda weird.


    Thank you! I can't believe I'm taking a white guys opinion on this over an Asian guys. But Import is absolutely correct. I feel that with Asian's mentality to be overly competitive in society can even translate even to who they date (I actually do believe that to be a fact). And lets face it there is a racial hierarchy especially here in America.

    I remember when I was dating a black guy and my father said something negative about it, and I never ever disrespected my father (who is Filipino). I told him to "shut the fuck up", I was so infuriated that he would talk about a guy I was seeing just because of his skin color. I immediately left the house that night and decided to go spend it with the black guy I was seeing.