Myol saidI think the names of the people who do this should be included in the articles so that people know who their asshole neighbors are. Being a server doesn't make one less of a person or employee so they shouldn't have to put up with insults of any type, regardless of the reason behind it. If you're going to run up $93 in service and not tip because of your judgement of a person, your name should be known so that you can be judged.
How did they know she was a lesbian. Did they ask her? How is that any of their business. It's hilarious how all of these homophobes are so against gays and lesbians but go out of their way to ask. If they returned to the restaurant I would give them absolutely horrible service and piss in their food.
There seems to be an increasing lack of manners or standard of behavior. I'm 30, but some people my age don't seem to have been raised to know what's appropriate and what isn't. Tipping is, by definition, an option, not a requirement. Certainly restaurant owners have made their employees dependent on tips by playing games with wage rates to "assume" a certain tip. But as long as the customer has control of the tip and it's not added to the bill it's an option. There's a huge difference between choosing to "stiff" the server and writing a judgmental justification. If the adults in that family of four who did that had my parents, they'd feel the back of a hand for such hateful behavior.
As to knowing she was a lesbian, as the article says, the server said that when she gave her name as "Dayna" (which assumably sounds like Dana), they said they thought she was going to say "Dan", clearly signaling they thought she was a man. Now . . . not to judge Dayna, and I certainly empathize with her over her customers' abhorrent behavior vis a vis what they wrote on the bill, I think if it were me, and if I'd heard that from customers, I might have gone to the manager and nicely requested that another server be assigned to the table, just in case it signaled their intolerance. Again, not judging Dayna, but we all live with intolerance all day every day, and it seems like giving some way to those who are ignorant, judgmental and obviously ill-mannered might be better than chancing a positive outcome through influencing their future behavior. And certainly matching bad behavior with worse behavior, as suggested, is just ludicrous, however appealing in anecdote.
Back to Dayna: YOU GO GIRL!
Back to society: GROW THE FUCK UP!