Online support groups!

  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 16, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    My mom died last night.She had cancer and other serious
    health problems.I was wondering what free online support
    groups are for gay single men who are dealing with death
    of a relative.I don't feel comfortable talking to strangers
    in public places at all.I have been a very shy guy all of
    my life.I don't feel comfortable doing offline therapy or
    offline counseling or offline support groups at all.I'm a
    very private guy.I'm a hyper emotional guy.I'm a hyper
    sensitive guy too.I'm mentally challenged guy too.I rather
    use the internet to meet my own mental health needs than
    going psycho therapy in any day.I went psycho therapy for
    depression,add,and other mental health problems in the
    past and it was a waste of time.
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    Nov 16, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    I'm sorry for your loss.

    Support groups on the web can be great, but, I'm not sure you should be relying on it for your mental health needs. Be careful.

    Good vibes coming your way, man.
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    Nov 16, 2013 6:14 PM GMT
    My thoughts are with you and your family .
    Hugs ..
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    Nov 16, 2013 6:15 PM GMT
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidMy mom died last night.She had cancer and other serious
    health problems.I was wondering what free online support
    groups are for gay single men who are dealing with death
    of a relative.I don't feel comfortable talking to strangers
    in public places at all.I have been a very shy guy all of
    my life.I don't feel comfortable doing offline therapy or
    offline counseling or offline support groups at all.I'm a
    very private guy.I'm a hyper emotional guy.I'm a hyper
    sensitive guy too.I'm mentally challenged guy too.I rather
    use the internet to meet my own mental health needs than
    going psycho therapy in any day.I went psycho therapy for
    depression,add,and other mental health problems in the
    past and it was a waste of time.

    Have you tried anti-depressant medicine? That could help.
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    Nov 16, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    Sorry for your loss. May you find peace and comfort during this time of grieving. Hope you find someone to confide with (online or in person) so you don't go through this alone.
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    Nov 16, 2013 6:44 PM GMT
    thebearerofbadnews said
    PrickleyHeat said
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidMy mom died last night.She had cancer and other serious
    health problems.I was wondering what free online support
    groups are for gay single men who are dealing with death
    of a relative.I don't feel comfortable talking to strangers
    in public places at all.I have been a very shy guy all of
    my life.I don't feel comfortable doing offline therapy or
    offline counseling or offline support groups at all.I'm a
    very private guy.I'm a hyper emotional guy.I'm a hyper
    sensitive guy too.I'm mentally challenged guy too.I rather
    use the internet to meet my own mental health needs than
    going psycho therapy in any day.I went psycho therapy for
    depression,add,and other mental health problems in the
    past and it was a waste of time.

    Have you tried anti-depressant medicine? That could help.


    honestly, i wouldn't recommend antidepressants but that's just me though. antidepressants basically mask away the pain someone is feeling but it doesn't take the shit away. dude needs someone he can talk to and a shoulder to cry on. that might be better for him.

    op, you just need to find someone that you trust that you think won't make you feel bad for saying what's on your mind. i feel you on being hesitant to reveal your issues to support groups and etc because they might be insensitive and tell you some fucked up shit like "get over it" or something. that happened to me about a year and some months ago when i went to some therapist that i THOUGHT was going to help me. when i told his ass about my issues, he told me to cry into a pillow and "get over it". that really rubbed me the wrong way because i took it as he wasn't interested in helping me help myself. then he was ready to tell me what i should be focusing on and basically pretending that my problems didn't exists. his advice was TERRIBLE because sometime later, my shit was really getting bad to the point where i had to go see another shrink that put me on meds. they were cool where i could tell them about my probs BUT i wasn't able to see them like that. they tried to do the whole group support shit.

    dunno if you like journal writing or whatever.. writing actually helps because you can release everything that's bothering you without anybody else knowing. it's your secret.

    sorry for your loss, man. my condolences.


    I should have first stated that the person who created this topic shouldn't take any medical advice from anyone on here. Your assessment that he "just needs a shoulder to cry on" is quite dangerous. You don't know him, or his situation. Making such a diagnosis is a reckless thing to do.

    To the person who started this topic, you should be at your doctor's office first thing on Monday to discuss getting treatment.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 16, 2013 6:58 PM GMT
    I tried anti-depressants in the past and they made my depression,mood swings and other mental health problems
    worst.Antidepressants don't work for me at all.I use drug
    free treatments to deal with my own mental health problems at home these days.i'm into using alternative medicine not psycho
    drugs for dealing stress,depression,add,anxiety related health
    problems.I use music,the internet,video games as stress busters
    these days.i'm gonna wait until my mom's funeral before i find
    myself a non-family doctor for my primary care doctor.Dealing
    with my mom's death is stressful enough for me.I don't need or
    want any more stress in my life.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 16, 2013 7:05 PM GMT
    Only other gay single men can meet my own mental health needs
    for me.I rather cry alone than share my own emotional problems
    with women or kids or teens or straight guys any day.I rather
    share my own emotional problems with other gay single men
    than with women or with relatives or straight guys any day.
    Only other gay men like myself can meet my own emotional
    needs and my own mental health needs for me.Women,straight
    guys and relatives can't meet my own emotional needs for
    me at all.They don't know what it is like to be a gay single
    man at all.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 16, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    I'm not willing to share my own emotional health problems
    and my own mental health problems with women or kids or
    teens or straight guys at all.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 16, 2013 8:32 PM GMT
    I don't have any non-related female friends in my social
    life and I plan to keep it that way too.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 16, 2013 8:33 PM GMT
    I'm not willing to make new friends in public places at all.
    I'm both a high tech guy and private guy.I'm a gamer too.
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    Nov 16, 2013 10:20 PM GMT
    I'm very sorry for your loss, I know what it feels like, having lost my father about two years ago. You MUST be willing to reach out for support. You are isolating yourself, and it will only harm you. You'd be surprised how a kind friend or therapist can be helpful. Please reconsider. icon_neutral.gif
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 16, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    I'm very picky I become friends with these days.I'm only
    willing new friends online these days.I'm not into interested
    in making new straight friends at all.I have got enough straight friends in my life these days.The only new friends
    I want in my life these days are other gay men.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 16, 2013 11:00 PM GMT
    I grew up with all sisters.I have got 4 sisters,1 step brother
    and 2 brother in laws.I don't have any blood related brothers
    at all.That's one of the reasons why I don't want any non-
    related female friends in my social life these days.
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    Nov 16, 2013 11:28 PM GMT
    First I am so sorry for the loss of you mom to cancer! If you need support on line support is superficial. I recommend one on one with a counsellor if you don't want to be in a group setting. The issues you are facing are not gay or straight issues but human issues.
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    Nov 16, 2013 11:54 PM GMT
    thebearerofbadnews said
    PrickleyHeat said
    thebearerofbadnews said
    PrickleyHeat said
    GAYBIGMACHODUDE1972 saidMy mom died last night.She had cancer and other serious
    health problems.I was wondering what free online support
    groups are for gay single men who are dealing with death
    of a relative.I don't feel comfortable talking to strangers
    in public places at all.I have been a very shy guy all of
    my life.I don't feel comfortable doing offline therapy or
    offline counseling or offline support groups at all.I'm a
    very private guy.I'm a hyper emotional guy.I'm a hyper
    sensitive guy too.I'm mentally challenged guy too.I rather
    use the internet to meet my own mental health needs than
    going psycho therapy in any day.I went psycho therapy for
    depression,add,and other mental health problems in the
    past and it was a waste of time.

    Have you tried anti-depressant medicine? That could help.


    honestly, i wouldn't recommend antidepressants but that's just me though. antidepressants basically mask away the pain someone is feeling but it doesn't take the shit away. dude needs someone he can talk to and a shoulder to cry on. that might be better for him.

    op, you just need to find someone that you trust that you think won't make you feel bad for saying what's on your mind. i feel you on being hesitant to reveal your issues to support groups and etc because they might be insensitive and tell you some fucked up shit like "get over it" or something. that happened to me about a year and some months ago when i went to some therapist that i THOUGHT was going to help me. when i told his ass about my issues, he told me to cry into a pillow and "get over it". that really rubbed me the wrong way because i took it as he wasn't interested in helping me help myself. then he was ready to tell me what i should be focusing on and basically pretending that my problems didn't exists. his advice was TERRIBLE because sometime later, my shit was really getting bad to the point where i had to go see another shrink that put me on meds. they were cool where i could tell them about my probs BUT i wasn't able to see them like that. they tried to do the whole group support shit.

    dunno if you like journal writing or whatever.. writing actually helps because you can release everything that's bothering you without anybody else knowing. it's your secret.

    sorry for your loss, man. my condolences.


    I should have first stated that the person who created this topic shouldn't take any medical advice from anyone on here. Your assessment that he "just needs a shoulder to cry on" is quite dangerous. You don't know him, or his situation. Making such a diagnosis is a reckless thing to do.

    To the person who started this topic, you should be at your doctor's office first thing on Monday to discuss getting treatment.


    the irony. icon_lol.gif so you telling him to consider taking antidepressants isn't medical advice? icon_confused.gif you might as well just stop while you're ahead. shouldn't you have followed up the last sentence asking if obamacare took away his health insurance since you're running around fear mongering on here? after all, he does need insurance before he sees a doctor.


    THINK before you attack.

    Of course it is not medical advice, since he can't get anti-depressants without a doctor's prescription. I won't be writing him any prescriptions because I am not a doctor. Your advice of "you just need a shoulder to cry on" however is an actionable suggestion that he can do which might NOT be what he needs.
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    Nov 17, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    Our prayers and thoughts are with you.May your mom be at peace with the angels and saints.We would suggest finding a good mental health professional in your area.Maybe you can get some advice from your local LGBT center.
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    Nov 17, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    sorry to hear about ur mom.
    didn't someone else in ur fam die a few months ago and u were going on and on about what's appropriate to wear to her funeral?
  • monet

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    Nov 17, 2013 6:49 AM GMT
    Import saidsorry to hear about ur mom.
    didn't someone else in ur fam die a few months ago and u were going on and on about what's appropriate to wear to her funeral?


    His grandmother. He refused to wear a suit to his grandmother's funeral.
  • Webster666

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    Nov 17, 2013 9:02 AM GMT
    Yes, I think it would help for you to go to a doctor (a general practitioner. Let him know what your problems are (medical, physical, mental, and emotional).
    The doctor should be able to steer you to people who can help you.

    I am also very emotional and shy.
    My doctor prescribed clonazepam, which helped me a lot.
    I'm not saying that's what you should take.
    I'm saying that getting yourself to a doctor is a great first step toward a happier life.

    I did it.
    So can you.
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    Nov 17, 2013 6:16 PM GMT
    if i was besides you right now i would have kissed you and hugged you... But since im not there, ill have to do it virtually... And so sorry bout your loss may her soul rest in peace...
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    Nov 17, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    Isn't it clear that this is your support group icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 17, 2013 9:02 PM GMT
    You have my sympathy. I hope you can find someone to talk to.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 18, 2013 7:53 AM GMT
    I rather find myself some local gay single masculine drug free
    smoke free high tech muscular male friends who are willing to
    meet all of my own mental health needs,emotional health needs
    for me as well my own- physical health needs,computer needs,
    social needs,gaming needs,entertainment needs,shopping needs,
    traveling needs,dating needs,friendship needs,sexual needs,
    high tech needs,spiritual needs and my other personal needs
    for me than a counselor or talk to my crazy relatives about
    my own personal problems any day.That's what friends are for.
    Some things are better done with friends than with relatives.
    Plus relatives can't meet all of your needs for you like friends can.That's why we all need non-related friends in
    our lives.
  • GAYBIGMACHODU...

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    Nov 18, 2013 8:55 AM GMT
    I rather cuddle with and hug other non-related men than with
    crazy relatives any day.Relatives can't meet any of my own
    touching needs for me at all.Women,kids,teens and straight
    guys can't meet my own touching needs for me at all like
    other gay men can.I don't like to be touched by kids or
    teens or girls or women at all.