Urgent - Messy Situation

  • xy28

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    Nov 19, 2013 5:42 AM GMT
    I really need some advice I am in a pretty messy situation. My boyfriend of 1 year decided to break up with me out of the blue. I got tested right after for std's and everything came back negative.

    We didn't see each other for 2 weeks then I decided to have oral with some guy to help me get over it. I saw my ex a few days after and we had unprotected sex...

    He was thinking of getting back together with me but now I have to tell him that I may have Gonorrhea and he might have it too.

    This is a horrible, and I actually felt worse after messing around with that guy. I have already started treatment but it hasn't been confirmed, it is highly suspected.

    How do I tell him? We were supposed to talk about getting back together in a few days...I really wanted him back I was so stupid and I should have told him I slept with that guy and should not have slept with him.
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    Nov 19, 2013 7:42 AM GMT
    Based on the situation you described, the best thing you can do is be honest with him. Tell him everything you stated in this thread. He deserves the truth and you need to come clean with your past action. If the situation turns negative, then at least you've told the truth and can learn from your experience.

    Do NOT delay telling him about the possible STD transmission. The longer you wait, the worse the situation will become once your ex discovers the truth.
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    Nov 19, 2013 8:04 AM GMT
    Be honest. This is not something you can hide from him and this is affecting him so he has the right to know.
    After that, what comes will come, but if you two can get through this, your relationship would be significantly stronger.
    I was in the same situation but thank God I did not catch the disease because it was only oral. He was honest with me and I stuck with him through it and we grew strong. Even though he's my ex now but I always have good impression of him.
    Man up! and Good luck.
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    Nov 19, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    Very good troll post.
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    Nov 19, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    HikerSkier saidVery good troll post.


    Ehhh, I give it a 6, tops.
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    Nov 19, 2013 10:37 PM GMT
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    HikerSkier saidVery good troll post.


    Ehhh, I give it a 6, tops.


    Well, maybe even a 7.

    However, OP, listen up:
    He broke up with you. You got lonely. You met someone and had oral sex. Now you may have caught something. Unless your breakup was made with the condition you were to wait for a hoped for reconciliation, you did nothing wrong EXCEPT that you exposed your ex, KNOWING you'd had oral sex which can be a vector for several STDS. Why did you do that? Why not just say you couldn't until you got tested?

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    Nov 20, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
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    Nov 21, 2013 2:01 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    Scruffypup said
    HikerSkier saidVery good troll post.


    Ehhh, I give it a 6, tops.


    Well, maybe even a 7.

    However, OP, listen up:
    He broke up with you. You got lonely. You met someone and had oral sex. Now you may have caught something. Unless your breakup was made with the condition you were to wait for a hoped for reconciliation, you did nothing wrong EXCEPT that you exposed your ex, KNOWING you'd had oral sex which can be a vector for several STDS. Why did you do that? Why not just say you couldn't until you got tested?



    If my friend broke up with his bf of a year and gave oral to a stranger a mere 2 weeks later, I'd judge him whether or not it's "legal" in the dating rulebook.
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    Nov 22, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    christastic said
    meninlove said
    Scruffypup said
    HikerSkier saidVery good troll post.


    Ehhh, I give it a 6, tops.


    Well, maybe even a 7.

    However, OP, listen up:
    He broke up with you. You got lonely. You met someone and had oral sex. Now you may have caught something. Unless your breakup was made with the condition you were to wait for a hoped for reconciliation, you did nothing wrong EXCEPT that you exposed your ex, KNOWING you'd had oral sex which can be a vector for several STDS. Why did you do that? Why not just say you couldn't until you got tested?



    If my friend broke up with his bf of a year and gave oral to a stranger a mere 2 weeks later, I'd judge him whether or not it's "legal" in the dating rulebook.


    There's no dating rulebook. There is, however, logic. If I dumped someone and he went out a couple of weeks later and had a mildly risky encounter, I'd be a fool to judge him.

    However, if I decided to get back together after dumping him and he'd had risky sex with me and didn't tell me FIRST before we had making-up sex, I'd end it and this time for good.
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    Nov 22, 2013 11:54 PM GMT
    This sort of thing happens to me all the time. I order a pizza, a dude in boxers shows up with an empty box and a boner, we all have a wild meth fueled orgy that last for days and before I know it, police have raided my apartment, LingLang gets deported, the pizza guy get arrested on some outstanding warrants and my big screen TV had been broken when people were using it as some sort of dance floor. Bottom line, if he really loves you, he'll probably say OK.