REASONS WHY YOU DON'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND

  • curiousmind7

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    Nov 19, 2013 9:16 PM GMT
    I got this from a girl's website but I think it can be applied to gay men too. What do you think?? icon_cool.gificon_cool.gificon_cool.gificon_cool.gificon_cool.gif


    http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2009/09/28/relationshipstrategies/20-reasons-you-dont-have-a-boyfriend/

    1. You’re needy. You met him last weekend, he texted a few times, and now you just won’t leave the guy alone. You went from 0 to 60 in a few days. You’re already planning for next weekend. This is probably the #1 behavior that gets girls labeled psycho in the early days.

    2. You like players. You say you want a nice guy, but you fall for the same lines again and again. You can’t resist the bad boys, the ones who have dumped on other women. You think that you will be different, that nabbing a player will validate your feminine powers. But the player always wins, because the player always walks.

    3. You’re a princess. You want a man who will proclaim to the world that he is whipped as butter. He will worship the very ground you walk on. Trouble is, the only men who will happily inhabit a one-down position in a relationship have no balls. Do you really want a guy who will eagerly go to a bunch of chick flicks with you? Wouldn’t you rather accompany him to Transformers from time to time?

    4. You flirt too much. Flirting is an essential skill in any woman’s toolkit. It is meant to indicate to a guy that you are singling him out for special attention because you are attracted to him. If you flirt like crazy with every Y chromosome you encounter, it loses its effectiveness, and makes you seem “not very choosy.” Also, if you are spending time with a guy but can’t stand the idea of hiding your light under a bushel, he is not going to appreciate your flirting with other men. It makes him look and feel less manly, and awakens unwelcome feelings of jealousy.

    5. You’re not in the game. If you’re shy, reserved, or aloof, you are not approachable. Many beautiful women are ignored by guys because the odds of rejection are too high. You also telegraph likely rejection if you hold back. If you find a guy attractive, meet him halfway by signaling your interest with eye contact and a smile. If you know him, pay him some attention.

    6. You’re too picky. You want a guy who is well-educated, financially successful, handsome, funny, witty, generous, blah blah blah. You want a 10. Get realistic. How about well-educated, funny and generous? Or handsome and witty, but a poet, i.e. broke? Perhaps financially successful, generous and fun to be with, but never went to college? Keep an open mind when you’re sizing up men. Allow yourself to find the good.

    7. You’re a Girl Gone Wild. Stop dancing on tabletops when you’re drunk. In fact, stop getting drunk. Drunk is ugly. No one, male or female, ever became more attractive when they got drunk (beer goggles just fool you into thinking they did). When you are drunk, you say and do foolish things. Step away from the beer pong table. If you wouldn’t do it sober…then you really don’t want to do it at all.

    8. You’re ditzy. I once knew a very smart woman who exclaimed at a frat party that she thought Mt. Rushmore was a natural phenomenon. I don’t know why some women love to get all girly and giggly. I suppose it makes them feel sexier, a la Marilyn Monroe. If you’re with a guy who wants his women stupid, you need a new guy. Lose the simpering act.

    9. You’re a Mean Girl. Seriously, stop being a bitch. I’ve heard guys speak in awe (and fear) of mean girls, but Chuck Bass is the only guy I’ve ever seen who really wanted to love one, and he’s fictitious. Sometimes, guys want to get with mean girls because they’re powerful, but that relationship isn’t about love.

    10. You’re high maintenance. You always feel slighted. He’s always saying and doing the wrong thing. Your feelings are constantly hurt, and he is constantly apologizing. Fighting all the time can be rewarding in the short-term, because it amps up the sexual tension for makeup sex, but ultimately it’s a total boner-killer.

    11. You’re aggressive. You act like one of the guys. You pursue, make moves, call the shots. You say that you’re a liberated woman, so you can grab whatever cock grabs your fancy. That will get you laid, but try to remember that it’s the male of the species that got the big dose of testosterone. That male is biologically programmed to seek his complementary opposite – which includes a much larger dose of estrogen. You can be strong, independent, and very, very female.

    12. You’re self-absorbed. You talk about yourself all the time. You talk about your ex all the time. You cry on his shoulder all the time when you don’t get what you want. You’re not really giving. You’re not emotionally engaged in a caring and generous way. If you’re not curious about him; if you are not hungry for details about who he is and what he’s into, then maybe he’s the wrong guy. Or maybe you’re the wrong girl.

    13. You’re a homebody. You’re not out there meeting new people every day. You are not going through each day looking to interact with and smile at attractive and approachable people. And by the way, get off the cell phone. The adorable guy behind you in line at Starbucks can’t say hi if you’re on your phone, plus he’s hearing you sound like a complete idiot with your BFF.

    14. You’re too hard to get. Yes, everyone likes a challenge. No one likes eager or desperate. But employing “The Rules” or some other silly tactic is just going to leave you solo. If he asks you out spontaneously for tonight, that’s a real invitation. If you are interested, accept. A guy’s suggesting a plan on the spur of the moment is not him treating you badly. It’s him expressing an interest in spending time with you. (Obviously, do the opposite of what I say here if it’s a booty call situation.)

    15. Your number is too high. OK, fine, you don’t want any guy who cares about how many people you’ve slept with. Problem is….that’s most guys. You don’t have to tell anyone your personal data. Just be aware that when you’re making the rounds within a certain community or group of friends, word gets out fast. I don’t think there has ever, ever been a guy who got laid and didn’t tell anyone about it afterwards. If your number is high and that fact is well known, you have every right to find a new pack of males and revirginate reinvent yourself.

    16. You’re flaky. A plan is a commitment. Don’t blow someone off when something better comes along. Don’t ditch him because your friend “really needs you.” Don’t double book yourself. Don’t be late. Don’t get drunk and not show. Women constantly complain that men aren’t reliable, but I’ve seen plenty of women flake out on guys.

    17. You’re materialistic. You know what? The best dates are cheap dates. In fact, I think the best dates I ever had were actually free dates. Cooking together. Hanging out. Taking a long walk. I met my husband in graduate school, and he was dead broke. He was paying his own way and had very little money. We’d only been toget
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    Nov 19, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    I'd say I'm the 5&6 and maybe the 17. IDK I had many opportunities but I always felt like I would sell off myself if I'd accept...( not pretending btw, just a feeling).
  • Oceans_of_Flo...

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    Nov 19, 2013 11:25 PM GMT
    I don't do any of that stuff, but I'm posting this funniness.(Men usually only do #1 on occasion depending on the magic of the wand).

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    7. You’re a Girl Gone Wild. Stop dancing on tabletops when you’re drunk. In fact, stop getting drunk. Drunk is ugly. No one, male or female, ever became more attractive when they got drunk (beer goggles just fool you into thinking they did). When you are drunk, you say and do foolish things. Step away from the beer pong table. If you wouldn’t do it sober…then you really don’t want to do it at all.

  • DanOmatic

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    Nov 19, 2013 11:54 PM GMT
    None of those. I simply have a narrow bandwidth when it comes to guys that I click with in that way. Some people may say that falls into the "you're too picky" category, but you know, if I don't feel it, it ain't happening. Happily single in the meantime.
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    Nov 20, 2013 1:40 AM GMT
    Forwarding the opening post to Taylor Swift so she can start writing her new hit.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Nov 20, 2013 3:44 AM GMT
    Because my type is nerds who are into fitness. Those are about as rare as shiny Charizards and I won't settle for someone who I can't make obscure references with while running side by side on the treadmill.
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    Nov 20, 2013 3:55 AM GMT
    I think I am just emotionally complicated; I cannot interpret my own feelings about things sometimes. I am open but not vulnerable. I find myself wanting to be with someone but I start to feel like a sociopath because I cannot care enough to love.
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    Nov 20, 2013 4:07 AM GMT
    I am numbers 5 & 13:

    5. I don't naturally hit on people.

    13. I do like exploring new areas and seeing new things. But I loathe clubs and bars. Once in a blue moon to dance, sure... But I'd rather be at home watching a movie with some wine, reading a book, or on RJ icon_wink.gif

    5. You’re not in the game. If you’re shy, reserved, or aloof, you are not approachable. Many beautiful women are ignored by guys because the odds of rejection are too high. You also telegraph likely rejection if you hold back. If you find a guy attractive, meet him halfway by signaling your interest with eye contact and a smile. If you know him, pay him some attention.

    13. You’re a homebody. You’re not out there meeting new people every day. You are not going through each day looking to interact with and smile at attractive and approachable people. And by the way, get off the cell phone. The adorable guy behind you in line at Starbucks can’t say hi if you’re on your phone, plus he’s hearing you sound like a complete idiot with your BFF.
  • radilf

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    Nov 20, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    Or maybe just because no one knows Im gay in my community.. LOL
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    Nov 20, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    Lucky dog haha. Where did you meet your man; in the produce aisle? I want to date a bag boy named Jay.
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    Nov 20, 2013 5:32 AM GMT
    <<--- #6.....kinda picky! Well it's more like i don't feel that spark or whatever. Since I've been single, about 2 yrs now, I've been on dates on and off, but no guy like super-stand out! Urg, whatever, I like dating and getting to know different guys, not motivated enough for a boyfriend! icon_smile.gif I ended up not seeing guys again for several of the reasons listed here.



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    Nov 20, 2013 5:55 AM GMT
    # 5, 13, 14, out of these.



  • RaggedyMan

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    Nov 20, 2013 5:59 AM GMT
    ill admit it; im a homebody who isnt really in the game. im doomed arent i...
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    Nov 20, 2013 6:03 AM GMT
    sanjose408 saidill admit it; im a homebody who isnt really in the game. im doomed arent i...
    You better do something about it now. Otherwise, time will fly by and then..


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  • cowboyathlete

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    Nov 20, 2013 6:05 AM GMT
    I fall for guys who end up being straight.
  • RaggedyMan

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    Nov 20, 2013 6:09 AM GMT
    xrichx said
    sanjose408 saidill admit it; im a homebody who isnt really in the game. im doomed arent i...
    You better do something about it now. Otherwise, time will fly by and then..


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    Nov 20, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
    I'm 18 and 19

    18 = I'm old

    19 = I'm a Republican

    and 11
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    Nov 20, 2013 7:08 AM GMT
    I'm just unable to date-date due to traveling.
    So... maybe a little bit 5, 6 and 14?
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    Nov 20, 2013 9:05 AM GMT
    I think #6 is the most pathetic excuse. Guys who say this need to elaborate. After all, his reasons will either be genuine or simply prove that he's a superficial piece of crap!
  • Nakedman1969

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    Nov 20, 2013 3:05 PM GMT
    I'm 5,8,and, 13.
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    Nov 20, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    5 and 13 for sure!
    I would say in reality I am definitely shy and quite reserved.
    For number 13, I am definitely a homebody but I'm not the type to be stuck on my phone.
    I actually hardly use my phone.

    I'm more so just oblivious somewhat to my surroundings when I'm outside because I just naturally look at the ground unless I'm particularly looking for a specific store or something.

    I also would like to tweak number 12 a little.
    Instead of self-absorbed, I am just very self-conscious.
    It's silly but people's opinions of me probably matter to me much more than it should.
    This is more something I do to myself and do not apply it to anyone else, but I generally just leave my default perspective of myself as 'everyone is better than you'.

    Not that I walk around crying lol, it's just my default thinking.
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    Nov 20, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    I don't have a boyfriend because my boyfriend won't allow it.
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    Nov 20, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    there's no one available
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    Nov 20, 2013 5:43 PM GMT
    anus and same passion,humour,nice,laidback.
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    Nov 20, 2013 5:45 PM GMT
    Witch. Are you bisexual?