Was it a dream or a premonition?

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    Dec 05, 2008 10:15 AM GMT
    I met this guy recently and we've been myspacing each other back and forth. It's def nothing serious just casual conversation mostly about fitness. Last night I had a dream that I took him home to my parents. In reality I have never discussed with my family that I am bi. I don't think it would come as much of a shock to my family. However, my father and a few other family members are very Christian and it may require some time for them to come to accept it once it has been officially declared that I'm bi. The bond in my fam is pretty strong so I don't see anybody shunning me if I were to tell them.

    Back to the dream... I dreamed that I the dude I met and I were exclusively dedicated to one another and I wanted my family to finally know about me. In the dream I was only able to find my younger brother who is 27. My friend and I walked into my brother's bedroom. I turned to my friend and asked him if could give my brother and I a minute. My brother knew right away what was about to go down and tried to run. I had to tackle him to the ground and force him to listen to me. He knew I was going to tell him I am attracted to men as well as women and I have had sex with men as well as women (that's true btw.) What really bothered me about the dream is that my brother didn't want to hear the truth.

    I'm wondering if my dreams are telling me it's time to talk to my family. There is no real reason to do it... It's not really something hanging over my head. I don't think it's going to improve or destroy my relationship with my family. Just push it to a new stage but it just doesn't seem necessary to stir the pot...
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    Dec 05, 2008 11:36 AM GMT
    Not necessarily.

    Dreams are often reflections of what you really WANT. So I say start thinking seriously about coming out.

    Back when I was still totally closeted (mere months ago), I used to have dreams of coming out to my friends and family all the time. Often very vivid ones.

    So I finally sucked up enough courage (with a little prodding from guys here icon_razz.gif) and told my bestfriend I was gay. And the feeling afterwards was AWESOME. It gave me the peace of mind that I had sorely needed for YEARS.

    I still haven't come out to my family, but it's mostly because of the circumstances. I'm still financially dependent on them, being a fresh graduate and all. I need to get myself on my own two feet first before I come out fully. That way, I can take whatever happens.

    You're independent and old enough. You're big enough, so you can take whatever shit may happen, LOL. I think it's time you ask yourself what you really want out of this life.

    So go do it, dude. icon_razz.gif But only if you're really ready. Find someone you trust the most and tell him/her. Your bro sounds like a good start. There may be problems at first, of course, but they're still family. They'll come around sooner or later.

    Remember, coming out is for YOU not for them. As you said, it may not be something hanging over your head, but sooner or later you'll have to say it. It's much better if you say it when you want to, rather than wait until you're outed or wait until you're forced to. Do it for yourself. And I guarantee you'll feel a whole lot better about yourself.

    You'll also start receiving subscriptions to the Gay Manual for World Domination® (Including the Gay Agenda v2.5) only after coming out. icon_lol.gif
  • GQjock

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    Dec 05, 2008 11:46 AM GMT
    Yes ...our dreams are a reflection of our desires ... our fears and our frustrations
    Your dreams aren't telling you anything

    YOU'RE telling Yourself what you need to do
    and as far as your brother running away?
    That's your fear
    Your brother has no power over what you dream
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    Dec 05, 2008 2:34 PM GMT

    "Back to the dream... I dreamed that I the dude I met and I were exclusively dedicated to one another and I wanted my family to finally know about me. In the dream I was only able to find my younger brother who is 27. My friend and I walked into my brother's bedroom. I turned to my friend and asked him if could give my brother and I a minute. My brother knew right away what was about to go down and tried to run. I had to tackle him to the ground and force him to listen to me. He knew I was going to tell him I am attracted to men as well as women and I have had sex with men as well as women (that's true btw.) What really bothered me about the dream is that my brother didn't want to hear the truth."

    Dreams often contain plots or actions that are inverse to what's likely to happen in real life. icon_wink.gif