Three Reasons You Should Never Marry for Love

  • metta

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    Nov 21, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    Three Reasons You Should Never Marry for Love

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/susan-pease-gadoua/three-reasons-you-should-_1_b_4294079.html
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    Nov 21, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    Disagree.
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    Nov 21, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    This article is bull crap
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Nov 21, 2013 11:49 PM GMT
    The author takes the Kardashian as an example of what marrying for love is? perhaps the kind the Author is likely referring to is the "Modern marriage" type; you know the kind that is based on materialism, survival, convenience, and self interest! did I say modern? wasn't marriage created as an institution for those purposes? love is the total opposite of marriage anyway, now that I think about it.
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    Nov 21, 2013 11:52 PM GMT
    It may be a mistake to marry solely FOR love, but it's also a mistake to marry WITHOUT love. That may be a distinction this article underplays.
  • winwin

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    Nov 22, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    Dumb article!
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    Nov 22, 2013 3:00 AM GMT
    I would like to know what the person who posted the link to the article thinks. Did you read his profile? icon_eek.gif


    I'm fine being single. I'm not really looking to date and I don't hookup either.

    It's weird he is even posting in the Dating and Relationships forum. icon_lol.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 22, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    VillageMike saidI would like to know what the person who posted the link to the article thinks. Did you read his profile? icon_eek.gif


    I'm fine being single. I'm not really looking to date and I don't hookup either.

    It's weird he is even posting in the Dating and Relationships forum. icon_lol.gif

    #obvioustrollisobvious
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    Nov 22, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    VillageMike saidI would like to know what the person who posted the link to the article thinks. Did you read his profile? icon_eek.gif


    I'm fine being single. I'm not really looking to date and I don't hookup either.

    It's weird he is even posting in the Dating and Relationships forum. icon_lol.gif



    If I told you more about the OP I think you'd feel embarrassed about your post.
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    Nov 22, 2013 4:01 PM GMT


    Metta, she's completely wrong and exceptionally confused about her first point:

    1. Love is a changeable emotion. As quickly as you fall in love, you can fall out of love. Then what? Either the relationship ends or it becomes toxic. If love is your primary connection, the glue is gone. This is true for passionate, physical love as well as "soul-mate" love.

    Dear lord, it's as though a young teen thought that up.

    She confuses being in love with love.

    My observations: It starts out as a sensation of falling in love which then becomes falling in love if the other person is in sync, too. THEN love begins, or not, and that love is pretty indelible. The in-love feeling boosts it, and in return it boosts the in-love feeling.
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    Nov 23, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    VillageMike saidI would like to know what the person who posted the link to the article thinks. Did you read his profile? icon_eek.gif


    I'm fine being single. I'm not really looking to date and I don't hookup either.

    It's weird he is even posting in the Dating and Relationships forum. icon_lol.gif



    If I told you more about the OP I think you'd feel embarrassed about your post.



    So go ahead nobody is stopping you.
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    Nov 23, 2013 11:23 PM GMT
    VillageMike said
    meninlove said
    VillageMike saidI would like to know what the person who posted the link to the article thinks. Did you read his profile? icon_eek.gif


    I'm fine being single. I'm not really looking to date and I don't hookup either.

    It's weird he is even posting in the Dating and Relationships forum. icon_lol.gif



    If I told you more about the OP I think you'd feel embarrassed about your post.



    So go ahead nobody is stopping you.


    If I do it will be via email as Metta has a right to privacy.
    I'll share this with you though, his partner died. That you went after him on this topic leads me to believe you are probably yet another sock account. Since when, by the way, is someone who is happily single NOT PERMITTED to post about relationships? Is that some rule you made up? It won't fly here.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Nov 24, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
    VillageMike saidI would like to know what the person who posted the link to the article thinks. Did you read his profile? icon_eek.gif


    I'm fine being single. I'm not really looking to date and I don't hookup either.

    It's weird he is even posting in the Dating and Relationships forum. icon_lol.gif


    Metta is one of the nicest and best informed RealJock member on here! why the hostility?
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    Nov 24, 2013 3:47 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    VillageMike said
    meninlove said
    VillageMike saidI would like to know what the person who posted the link to the article thinks. Did you read his profile? icon_eek.gif


    I'm fine being single. I'm not really looking to date and I don't hookup either.

    It's weird he is even posting in the Dating and Relationships forum. icon_lol.gif



    If I told you more about the OP I think you'd feel embarrassed about your post.



    So go ahead nobody is stopping you.


    If I do it will be via email as Metta has a right to privacy.
    I'll share this with you though, his partner died. That you went after him on this topic leads me to believe you are probably yet another sock account. Since when, by the way, is someone who is happily single NOT PERMITTED to post about relationships? Is that some rule you made up? It won't fly here.


    Well you just violated his right to privacy.

    I having nothing but sympathy for his loss.

    But if he is going to participate in a discussion forum and post on relationships as a single guy, and just put a link to a story and not provide any comment of his own, such as "I believe in this point of view, I lost my partner and for me this is how I will live my life" - something, anything, then perhaps those of us not "in the know" would be able to put his point of view (which we still don't know but can only infer that he agrees with the article) into context. But he did not do any of that, he invited discussion on the topic and I point you back to what he has written in his profile as fodder for this particular discussion.

    If he is still having psychological issues (and who wouldn't it is perfectly understandable) he should seek out some of the excellent government programs that are available to help people who have gone through what he has. And then one day he might change his mind and change the words he has written in his profile.
  • BloodFlame

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    Nov 27, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    I didn't even bother to read the article but personally, even though I have never had a boyfriend, I will not give up on loving a person when the time comes someday.
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    Nov 27, 2013 6:01 AM GMT
    VillageMike said
    meninlove said
    VillageMike said
    meninlove said
    VillageMike saidI would like to know what the person who posted the link to the article thinks. Did you read his profile? icon_eek.gif


    I'm fine being single. I'm not really looking to date and I don't hookup either.

    It's weird he is even posting in the Dating and Relationships forum. icon_lol.gif



    If I told you more about the OP I think you'd feel embarrassed about your post.



    So go ahead nobody is stopping you.


    If I do it will be via email as Metta has a right to privacy.
    I'll share this with you though, his partner died. That you went after him on this topic leads me to believe you are probably yet another sock account. Since when, by the way, is someone who is happily single NOT PERMITTED to post about relationships? Is that some rule you made up? It won't fly here.


    Well you just violated his right to privacy.

    I having nothing but sympathy for his loss.

    But if he is going to participate in a discussion forum and post on relationships as a single guy, and just put a link to a story and not provide any comment of his own, such as "I believe in this point of view, I lost my partner and for me this is how I will live my life" - something, anything, then perhaps those of us not "in the know" would be able to put his point of view (which we still don't know but can only infer that he agrees with the article) into context. But he did not do any of that, he invited discussion on the topic and I point you back to what he has written in his profile as fodder for this particular discussion.

    If he is still having psychological issues (and who wouldn't it is perfectly understandable) he should seek out some of the excellent government programs that are available to help people who have gone through what he has. And then one day he might change his mind and change the words he has written in his profile.


    Wow, it always amazes me how absolutely cruel some people can be. I'm suitably impressed.
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    Nov 27, 2013 7:12 AM GMT
    I agree.
  • PR_GMR

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    Nov 27, 2013 5:43 PM GMT
    Forget that article. If I ever marry, it'll be for love.