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    Nov 23, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    Updated: I like him a lot, I would change nothing about this guy. We just had a dinner date tonight and everything he said while we were in the car driving back completely melted my heart.
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    Nov 23, 2013 1:03 AM GMT
    You cannot change anyone. Get with the program as long as he's surviving its better he's spending his spare time playing video games than playing with other boys
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    Nov 23, 2013 1:06 AM GMT
    Video games are awesome. Better than watching some nonsense on TV like gameshows or whatever.
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    Nov 23, 2013 1:19 AM GMT
    Ohno saidVideo games are awesome. Better than watching some nonsense on TV like gameshows or whatever.


    Yes video games are awesome. But nobody mess with my American Horror Story lol
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    Nov 23, 2013 1:22 AM GMT
    The fact that he's a gamer shouldn't be a problem - everybody has their own ways of unwinding at the end of the day. Some people watch ESPN, some reality TV, some watch movies or read books. He likes video games. It's important to respect his hobbies.

    The bigger issue seems to be that he's neglecting you. That's something to discuss with him. Talk to him and see if you can make a compromise where he can play games yet still see you enough that you don't feel cast aside.

    You say that you play video games regularly as well - why don't you play together online?
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    Nov 23, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    He's living in a tiny world and there's probably very little you can do to get him out.

    Invite him to join you for anything but a game.

    For yourself you should date others or at least find other activity partners.
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    Nov 23, 2013 5:21 AM GMT
    Lifter4ever saidHe's living in a tiny world and there's probably very little you can do to get him out.

    Invite him to join you for anything but a game.

    For yourself you should date others or at least find other activity partners.
    or you could accept him for who he is..and always will be
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    Nov 28, 2013 2:20 AM GMT
    If you're a gamer and he's a gamer. When do you date ever?
    Or maybe you date directly in-game in the world of warcraft. lol
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    Nov 28, 2013 11:07 AM GMT
    Just on a personal level ... as a GAYmer , I know when I really enjoy a game I usualy like playing it WITH my SO ( Significant other ) I always found it brought us closer even when there was in game drama.

    Also , after a while the games wear thin and we movce on ( I had full teir 11 in warcraft before the rest of the server ... so I know what being hardcore is)> Also I think its interesting that he shows that much commitment . Because Gaymers are very misunderstood people. We have goals , we don't talk about them because at some points in life we know where we are is not getting us where we want to be. Also , we ALWAYS have goals ... most of those games teach that ... and the game grind isn't all that different from the daily grind. So think twice before you pass a judgment like he doesn't seem to be going anywhere in his life because I'm betting he has plans but now its not time or he isn't ready. People pushed me to go to school and I wound up leaving for medical reasons from the stress I was doo damned young and trying to manage a 50 000$ student loan at 19 ... yeah ... not cool. So I quit. Mostly because I tried it and was having a very hard time trying to eat sleep and study off of 10000$ a year ... nearly impossible ...

    Also , I would love a stable gamer boyfriend. I would love any guys who meets his bills and is happy with me , happy with himself and happy in general ... those are real diamonds ... I would love him for what he is not someone wants him to be. Because in the end that's all we can ask for.

    It could be worse ... I wont get into my history here ... but he could be ignoring you , screwing around , doing drugs , hiding his feelings, blaming you for what's wrong in his life etc. But if you think this guy isn't good enough for you because he has no "Goals" ... Well then I guess that's up to you ... if you leave him for it ... I'll gladly romance him with a new Processor and a High end video card ... Just Sayin!


    Signed: Been a month alone and I still Cant sleep!
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    Nov 29, 2013 2:55 AM GMT
    jocktrainee said
    xoVS saidIf you're a gamer and he's a gamer. When do you date ever?
    Or maybe you date directly in-game in the world of warcraft. lol


    I'm not a gamer though I do play video games. 1-2 hours when I have time after school work.
    Sometimes it feels like he has an emotional rush and we would chat for a long time, the rest of the time we barely communicate. However, each date has been amazing. But I still expect something more.
    Now I ask you guys: would you date someone if you know he only spends 4 hours each week to see you?


    Wow, 4 hours?
    That's 8.67 days in one year.

    Ummm no.
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    Nov 29, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    If he likes playing video games, then let him... I'm sure if you talk to him that he's not spending enough time with you, he'll understand and try to do something about it.

    I'm obsessed with music and video games and wouldn't appreciate it if my bf tried to come in between that, but if he felt I wasn't paying him enough attention, i'd appreciate it if he brought this to my attention so I can do something about it.
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    Nov 29, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
    As a gaymer myself, I play video games as well. I don't spend hours now as I used to play from nights to the a peek of the sunrise.

    Maybe you could ask him to balance his workload to make available time for you? As you said, you are a patient guy - that is something worth about you for him.

    Cheers.
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    Dec 01, 2013 8:05 PM GMT
    Oh wow, video games are nice, I'm an obsessively heavy gamer myself, but I would never deny real life to stay in the game. I want to get out.
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    Dec 02, 2013 8:21 PM GMT
    It's all about having balance. After work,family and sleep (if I get that) then I'll dedicate so free time to gaming. Sometimes a week will pass without ever turning on the PC. Other times it's a from dusk till dawn thing. I'd love to be able to share that with a partner. Great way to bond together.