Why some people start changing when they get a new roommate?

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    Nov 23, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    I have a friend who I've known for probably almost 2 years now. We used to hangout a lot and he was pretty fun. But, couple months ago he gets this new roommate who he just met off grindr moved in with him. This guy I've seen a couple times when he gets home from work late at night, and we're just hanging out at my friend's place.

    This dude barely ever says a word to any of us. He walks from the front door to his room and shuts the door. I don't know what kind of relationship he and my friend have, but to me it seems very divided. They don't hang out or anything, they just share a refrigerator.

    I've noticed my friend has been acting real crazy lately. He barely wants to hangout, and last Friday when I went over...I couldn't even use a glass to make a sangria that I had bought over fruits for. He's like, "use a plastic cup", then I had a beer and he's like, "don't throw that in the garbage, there's an outside garbage". Then, he takes the fruits after I finished my drink and tosses out the window.

    His roommate drinks, so I can't see what the issue is (plus my friend is the one on the lease, not the roommate). But...he's just completely changed as a person. And I'm older than him, he treats me like a kid when I come to his place. He wasn't acting like that before his roommate came along. Couple years ago, I had another friend who ended up the same way. He got some younger roommate he moved in with, and he started doing weird stuff like going to 18 and up night (he's damn near 50), doing more drugs, and pretty much blew off our friendship for good...and we had a really good FWB friendship for awhile until he moved in with this guy. I don't even hear from him anymore.

    Anyone else notice it? I've never had a roommate before, but I can imagine if I had some strange man living up with me I'd probably start acting all anal too. I don't even believe in roommates. Friends living together, yes. But not some stranger you know from adam (or grindr)
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    Nov 24, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    I'd say allowing a stranger in your home is only asking for strange behavior to pursue. I'm not sure why your friend needed a roommate but now that he has one, he may not want to infringe on what could be something good. Being that he was met virtually on an app for us men, your friend could've been looking for someone more than just a roommate. They could be dating undercover, or just "fun" buddies. People often make abrupt changes in order to retain peace of someone or something they're wanting to impress. The only way you would know for sure why your friend has changed is to bring the issue to the table and just ask him.
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    Nov 27, 2013 3:29 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidI have a friend who I've known for probably almost 2 years now. We used to hangout a lot and he was pretty fun. But, couple months ago he gets this new roommate who he just met off grindr moved in with him. This guy I've seen a couple times when he gets home from work late at night, and we're just hanging out at my friend's place.

    This dude barely ever says a word to any of us. He walks from the front door to his room and shuts the door. I don't know what kind of relationship he and my friend have, but to me it seems very divided. They don't hang out or anything, they just share a refrigerator.

    I've noticed my friend has been acting real crazy lately. He barely wants to hangout, and last Friday when I went over...I couldn't even use a glass to make a sangria that I had bought over fruits for. He's like, "use a plastic cup", then I had a beer and he's like, "don't throw that in the garbage, there's an outside garbage". Then, he takes the fruits after I finished my drink and tosses out the window.

    His roommate drinks, so I can't see what the issue is (plus my friend is the one on the lease, not the roommate). But...he's just completely changed as a person. And I'm older than him, he treats me like a kid when I come to his place. He wasn't acting like that before his roommate came along. Couple years ago, I had another friend who ended up the same way. He got some younger roommate he moved in with, and he started doing weird stuff like going to 18 and up night (he's damn near 50), doing more drugs, and pretty much blew off our friendship for good...and we had a really good FWB friendship for awhile until he moved in with this guy. I don't even hear from him anymore.

    Anyone else notice it? I've never had a roommate before, but I can imagine if I had some strange man living up with me I'd probably start acting all anal too. I don't even believe in roommates. Friends living together, yes. But not some stranger you know from adam (or grindr)


    Interesting. Thanks for posting this.