curious_minds saidOne of my sons is gay, who came out to me 6 years ago at the age of 16. My wife and I were surprised but accepting, so there were no issues for years, other than the fact that unlike his younger brother, my gay son rarely talks about his love life. Recently I snooped on his phone and discovered this thing called Grindr, which appears to be a hook-up app. I was extremely concerned, and confronted him about it. Unlike most of the profiles I saw there, my son didn't have a shirtless picture, and he insisted that it is possible to find a relationship there, and how hard it is for gays to find each other, etc. I don't buy it at all, and would like to get some gays' opinions on the purpose of Grindr, or what key "code" words to watch out for. Surely there must be healthier ways to look for a relationship!?
If your gay son is 22 (out at 16 and 6 years ago)....why are you snooping on his phone? Not cool.... I have 3 sons...18, 22 and 28....I would NEVER think of snooping on their phones......try that with your wife's phone or her purse and see the reaction you get.
There are MANY apps for gays, straights, Bi, and any combination or fetish.....at 22, its his legal business to play where he wants. Unless you are expecting him to suddenly find some relationship through "Christian magic", realize that social media is the mode of contact for the current generation....if its Grindr, Growlr, Scruff, Christian Mingle, Plenty of Fish, Manhunt, Match.com or Zoosk on Facebook or any others out there....always be careful. use protection EVERYTIME, get tested for STI's...be smart and selective about hookups...The game is the same as you and wife played, but the mode has changed away from being so bar centered....its online marketing to find a mate....what sells?...Think about it...and let your adult son learn and play smart.