Is my straight boss curious or just friendly?

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    Nov 24, 2013 9:25 PM GMT
    So I'm a new hire at my current job and i had already told my straight married boss I'm gay icon_biggrin.gif

    He is a hunk with a tough guy demeanor but seemingly gay friendly. Sometimes he taps me on the shoulders or rubs me gently on the back, and doesn't even mind standing very close to my desk and observing what I'm doing ( something I would never do by the way since he knows I'm gay, I would never risk doing anything to make him think I'm coming on to him).

    My coworkers have also told me that he talks to me the most, and that he is always in a good mood when I'm around icon_surprised.gif

    He would often start his conversations with me like this "I'm telling you this as a friend..". I think he trusts me as more than just an employee.

    Also lately he got me laughing about the way he got all excited about the Xmas decoration in our office icon_lol.gif would have never thought he would be so into it!


    So what ya guys think? Would he be the curious type or just gay friendly? Of course I would never act on it, but I'm just curious if he is Curious :p
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    Nov 24, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    There is absolutely no doubt that he is ready for you to lie naked n his desk with your legs in the air. Do it. It will show you can take initiative.
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    Nov 24, 2013 10:07 PM GMT
    Gay friendly. Maybe you're the first gay person he knows and he's excited about it for some reason.

    Or maybe he's a joker type and he's just messing with your head.

    I guess you'll know for sure at the company Xmas party, after the two of you have some drinks. icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 24, 2013 10:09 PM GMT
    Some straight guys love the idea that a man would find them attractive, and even try to encourage it.

    Getting involved with your boss is always bad for your coworkers, and for you it could work out either badly or well. It would be unethical though, even if he wasn't married.
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    Nov 24, 2013 10:54 PM GMT
    haha thanks for your opinions guys!!

    I only told him I'm gay because he asked me if I had a gf, and I felt comfortable telling him, havent told my coworkers yet, don't know nor care if they know.

    I just like that he treats me nice despite being gay. I also like him as a person but I would never fall in love with him, in respect of our professional relationship and his family, whom I already met.

    I won't deny though that i find myself sexually attracted to him, but that would never make me deviate from our professional relationship like I said.

    I could totally flirt with him if I wanted but I don't have that fetish of messing around with straight married guys even if they were curious. It's unethical and too much risk involved on professinal and personal levels.
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    Nov 24, 2013 11:05 PM GMT
    Straight. Don't do anything stupid.
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    Nov 24, 2013 11:11 PM GMT
    Incendiary saidStraight. Don't do anything stupid.


    Pretty much THIS.
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    Nov 25, 2013 12:45 AM GMT
    Straight. He's excited that he has diversification with his staff. It looks good from an HR standpoint.
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    Nov 25, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    I agree with others who are thinking this boss of yours is straight, and just gay-friendly. Even if he were to quietly admit to you one day that he is actually gay - - - you don't want to pursue anything with him. Keep him just as a boss........ remember what a lot of us have learned the hard way: Don't fish off of the company pier. It almost never ends well. There are many, many other guys to have fun with out in the world. Keep work and social stuff separate!
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    Nov 25, 2013 3:46 AM GMT
    woodsmen saidAsk him our for beers and ask who is his favorite character in Brokeback Mountain. IF he says Anne Hathaway, you know.


    Not this at all
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    Nov 25, 2013 3:49 AM GMT
    if you start getting 'mysterious' on line interaction, even from gay websites, with someone who knows all about you and where you work but wont tell you a dam thing about themself, (or they tell you their 'secrets' but wont tell you who they are) first intuition says its your closeted boss or someone close to your boss, 'catfishing' you

    believe it or not, this really happened to me, my ex closeted boss had a major thing for me but I never realized how bad until things went horribly wrong at work, turns out the department boss was being blackmailed by his lower supervisor about his 'secret', once his secret got out, that is when things went wrong, for years, this closeted department manager would favor me and pick me for all kinds of special work projects. I thought it was because he really liked my work, skill, contribution to the company goals and promotion bound. He knows I was gay and I helped the company achieve recognition for its gay friendly work policies

    bottom line is, watch yourself with your boss and do SET YOUR BOUNDRIES if he seems to 'get a little too friendly', I learned the hard, naïve way, DO NOT CROSS THIS LINE with your superior, especially in a corporate setting, some people will 'sell their soul' to climb the corporate ladder and believe me when I tell you, sleeping with the boss is a trap and road you don't want to go down, even if it means leaving and finding another job, just do your work and do it well, that will bring you the best reputation if things do go wrong