gay guy names vs straight guy names

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    Nov 25, 2013 7:28 PM GMT
    I have met a lot of people in my life so far, gay and straight, I have noticed many times, gay men will take and use their formal name while straight men use the short version of the same name

    Except for names that don't have short cuts like:
    One syllable only - Eric or Paul
    Two syllable only - Darren or Damien

    This weekend, I met a gay guy at the bar and asked him his name, he said, Timothy, I said Tim?, he was adamant about using Timothy, now if the guy was straight or I was in a straight bar, the guy would have introduced himself as Tim

    I have a name that has one syllable only, no short cut, so I cant relate to this formality, those gay men, please explain why you prefer the formal first name when introducing yourself, also, why do you think straight men prefer and use the short cut version, because it sounds less gay?

    I just find this fascinating, I wish I had a formal first name with a short cut so I could choose, feel free to add more names while you explain this phenomenon

    Gay Men, Straight Men
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    Steven, Steve
    Joseph, Joe
    Matthew, Matt
    Timothy, Tim
    Jonathan, John
    Samuel, Sam
    David, Dave
    Joshua, Josh
    Alan, Al
    Edward, Ed
    William, Bill or Billy
    Robert, Bob or Rob
    Richard, Rich or Dick
    Jacob, Jake
    Ronald, Ron
    Lawrence, Larry
    Gabriel, Gabe
    Thomas, Tom
    Michael, Mike
    Charles, Chuck
    Henry, Hank
    Dominic, Dom






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    Nov 25, 2013 7:36 PM GMT
    Shorten my name. Trevor Mark Scott.

    Other than Trev, that's all you get. Hahaha.
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    Nov 25, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    I haven't noticed any correlation between gay/straight and the usage of full names. I work with a straight guy that insists that he be called Michael. If you call him Mike, he gets annoyed.

    I usually introduce myself as Richard. But I honestly don't have any preference for Richard or Rich. I have different friends that use either one.
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    Nov 25, 2013 7:41 PM GMT
    TrevorMark saidShorten my name. Trevor Mark Scott.

    Other than Trev, that's all you get. Hahaha.




    well, you got one, and this is about first names only, point is, how do you use it? are you known as Trevor or Trev when you meet someone?, if your gay, you probably use Trevor
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    Nov 25, 2013 7:42 PM GMT
    Generally, I go by James. Only my family (11k miles away) use Jimmy, as well as a small number of friends.

    Given the extraordinary number men with the name James in my family, the older ones went by Jim, and I, the youngest to bear it, was Jimmy. I think there's an oft overlooked power in names, and I've tried to distance myself from the diminutive or declasse variants of my name. Except of course with that one group of friends. There is much fondness there, and it has a different meaning.
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    Nov 25, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    xrichx saidI haven't noticed any correlation between gay/straight and the usage of full names. I work with a straight guy that insists that he be called Michael. If you call him Mike, he gets annoyed.

    I usually introduce myself as Richard. But I honestly don't have any preference for Richard or Rich. I have different friends that use either one.


    that is part of the point, why get annoyed? its the same name, when I called this guy Tim, he seemed annoyed because he said his name is Timothy?
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    Nov 25, 2013 7:48 PM GMT
    I've always used Dan instead of Daniel.
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    Nov 25, 2013 7:48 PM GMT
    Amelorn saidGenerally, I go by James. Only my family (11k miles away) use Jimmy, as well as a small number of friends.

    Given the extraordinary number men with the name James in my family, the older ones went by Jim, and I, the youngest to bear it, was Jimmy. I think there's an oft overlooked power in names, and I've tried to distance myself from the diminutive or declasse variants of my name. Except of course with that one group of friends. There is much fondness there, and it has a different meaning.


    ah, maybe a different meaning, but yeah, James is one of those formal names that can be split into more than two variants, so the short cut version Jim sounds older?
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    Nov 25, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    BigPineKey saidI've always used Dan instead of Daniel.


    odd, I worked with a latino straight guy (has 5 kids) who goes by Daniel, not Dan icon_lol.gif

    that is why this is so fascinating, how does one pick the formal or short? maybe age difference?, young gays will always pick the formal first name
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    I agree with the original poster.

    I would say that percentage-wise gay men tend to be more formal. For example, straight men are less likely to be as careful about their appearance while gay men are more likely. And this formality carries over into what name they prefer.

    (Speaking of formality, I doubt if anyone ever calls the future Prince of Wales Billy.)
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:11 PM GMT
    im just here to say 'JAY' is the gayest name icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidI agree with the original poster.

    I would say that percentage-wise gay men tend to be more formal. For example, straight men are less likely to be as careful about their appearance while gay men are more likely. And this formality carries over into what name they prefer.

    (Speaking of formality, I doubt if anyone ever calls the future Prince of Wales Billy.)


    well, with royals, the formality is in the system, the formal names are part of the generations, maybe some gay men think they are royalty? icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:18 PM GMT
    all my close gay friends have the straight version of the names you just mentioned .. literally the entire list!
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:18 PM GMT
    spacetronaut saidim just here to say 'JAY' is the gayest name icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif


    yeah, Jason (Jayson) sounds way more straight
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    Not following your original post you say one thing and in subsequent posts you say another. There's no correlation between name use and gay/straight some use the long name and some the short
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:23 PM GMT
    FootballHawk saidall my close gay friends have the straight version of the names you just mentioned .. literally the entire list!


    wow, how does their family(s) use the name?

    I mean when Matt got into trouble as a kid, his mom probably used the formal 'Matthew' to scold him, the formal seems to show dominance, like I said in the original post, my name is one syllable with no shortcuts so I cant relate
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidNot following your original post you say one thing and in subsequent posts you say another. There's no correlation between name use and gay/straight some use the long name and some the short


    Lumpyoatmeal got it right, the percentage, I am only documenting my own experience, if your young and only know gay men most of your life, your experience would be one sided
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:41 PM GMT
    I use mike, michael just meant i was in trouble
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:43 PM GMT
    Andrew vs Andy. I was always in trouble when I was called 'Andrew' .
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:46 PM GMT
    Well I am Brandon so where would that fall?
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:48 PM GMT
    thebearerofbadnews saidway off the mark right there, man.



    not really brother with no pic...just saying if you want to go that route. What i was easily saying is im gay and i use mike not michael . The only mark here is well i think you know
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    Nov 25, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    hairyandym saidAndrew vs Andy. I was always in trouble when I was called 'Andrew' .

    I thought that's what the middle names are for? Or were those for REALLY DEEP SHIT?
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    Nov 25, 2013 9:05 PM GMT
    So my name is Julius. I like Julius; it's a strong name. My friends do call me Jules though.
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    Nov 25, 2013 9:09 PM GMT
    Maybe it's a generational thing. I definitely prefer David to Dave. And again there are plenty of guys who don't fit the pattern -- use of formal name over nickname is just a possible not foolproof signal.

    One interesting subcategory -- Gay guys named Robert if they use a nickname it seems to always be Rob and never Bob. Can any rj Roberts confirm or dispute this?
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    Nov 25, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    mike34 said
    thebearerofbadnews saidway off the mark right there, man.



    not really brother with no pic...just saying if you want to go that route. What i was easily saying is im gay and i use mike not michael . The only mark here is well i think you know


    are you fairly 'masculine' or perceived 'straight acting' so the use of Mike is preferred? again, I have a one syllable name with no short cuts so this choice of formal or short name fascinates me, Mike is as classic as Dave, if my name were Michael, I would prefer to use Mike as well, same with Dave over David