Successful Gay Relationships

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    Nov 29, 2013 10:40 PM GMT
    Hey everyone, I hope you everyone is doing well. I have a question about the gay community as a whole. I want to be in a relationship and find a great guy who is willing to fight to be with me like I am willing to fight to be with him. Is there such a thing in the gay community, or is it always moving on to the better looking sexier guy? I do not really ever hear of too many successful gay relationships and I am just trying to figure out what everyone else has dealt with.
    It seems very hard to find a happy relationship that is not solely based around sex and physical attributes. Don't get me wrong, sex is nice, but I am not in to the whole hookup scene. What are your opinions? Anyone able to give me good news, or is it what I am guessing it will be?

    Thanks,
    -Craig
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 29, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    Most people date quite a bit before they connect with one person, so you just have to be willing to put yourself out there and date different guys. A lot of gay men want what you want, so it's not like you're alone.... the guys who are always looking for the next best thing either aren't relationship material, or they're not ready, but they certainly don't make up the whole gay community.
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    Nov 29, 2013 10:57 PM GMT
    They are definitely there (I consider myself one of them), just go out to places where you are most likely to meet them. I for example go to a gay sports club once a week which is a good opportunity to meet new guys and chances are pretty big you'll meet some like-minded individuals there.
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    Nov 29, 2013 10:59 PM GMT

    *waves*
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    Nov 29, 2013 11:14 PM GMT
    Tons of successful couples out there..

    I think you are focusing on the 'stereotypical obvious'..
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    Nov 29, 2013 11:17 PM GMT
    Most people in successful relationships are not prancing around gay clubs screaming about their new wall coverings, they are too busy having a life.
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    Nov 29, 2013 11:19 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidMost people in successful relationships are not prancing around gay clubs screaming about their new wall coverings, they are too busy having a life.

    You'd be surprised by all the new wall covering screaming.icon_eek.gif
  • BlakeWind

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    Nov 30, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    I find this threat very interesting/funny, due to the fact that I think about this EVERYDAY. My biggest fear is that I wont find a guy to spend the rest of my life with, and that I will end up growing old alone. I think this is not uncommon with the gay community unfortunately, and I really hope that doesnt happen to me. I have spent a large part of my life alone, I don't like it at all. That's why when I see older gay couples, I get a nice sensation in my stomach, and i always smile, hoping that I will get that one day too.
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    Nov 30, 2013 7:39 PM GMT
    BlakeWind saidI find this threat very interesting/funny, due to the fact that I think about this EVERYDAY. My biggest fear is that I wont find a guy to spend the rest of my life with, and that I will end up growing old alone. I think this is not uncommon with the gay community unfortunately, and I really hope that doesnt happen to me. I have spent a large part of my life alone, I don't like it at all. That's why when I see older gay couples, I get a nice sensation in my stomach, and i always smile, hoping that I will get that one day too.


    And it's highly likely that you will, if you don't let any flakes or assholes you will meet make you give up in bitterness. That happens far too much. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 07, 2013 5:53 PM GMT
    Bobjones saidHey everyone, I hope you everyone is doing well. I have a question about the gay community as a whole. I want to be in a relationship and find a great guy who is willing to fight to be with me like I am willing to fight to be with him. Is there such a thing in the gay community, or is it always moving on to the better looking sexier guy? I do not really ever hear of too many successful gay relationships and I am just trying to figure out what everyone else has dealt with.
    It seems very hard to find a happy relationship that is not solely based around sex and physical attributes. Don't get me wrong, sex is nice, but I am not in to the whole hookup scene. What are your opinions? Anyone able to give me good news, or is it what I am guessing it will be?

    Thanks,
    -Craig



    Yesssssss, you can be a Metal Horse--that's possible.

    We WOULD love each other and live with one another so successfully.

    I just finished praying for someone like you. Look, I'll show you:

    One of my friends sent me an email that said this:

    Let me know if you want a recommendation for a TaoTeChing translation. I like the ones that translate the text literally.

    I replied to him:

    How will it help me attract a man/men born in the Chinese Years

    Wood Horse age 59
    Metal Ox age 52
    Metal Dog age 43
    Metal Pig/Boar age 42
    Water Ox age 40
    Water Dog age 31
    Water Pig/Boar age 30
    Metal Horse age 23
    Wood Dog age 19
    Wood Pig/Boar age 18

    I'll be right back with more info. I have to gather it together.

    We're iced-in here in the DFW area, huh?
    Well, yesterday, I drove around a bit at 2pm.
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    Dec 07, 2013 6:02 PM GMT
    I made up a birthday for someone born in the Chinese Year of the Metal Horse, like you.

    I used Feb. 9, 1990, 12:05p

    Sun in the Tenth House

    A relationship with composite Sun in the tenth house is likely to be a significant one.

    First of all, this position indicates that the two of you have an identity of purpose in your lives together, or at least that you are able to help each other attain the goals you have set for yourselves. Obviously this position is particularly useful for a business or professional relationship, but it is also very important in a personal relationship. If this relationship goes anywhere at all, it will have a strong effect on your life purpose.

    Since the tenth is also the house of status, some couples may become excessively concerned with how they look to others while ignoring serious emotional problems that may be destroying the relationship.

    Even so, this placement is a good indication of an important relationship, one in which you will find a strong identity of life purpose and direction, which will enable you to work well together.

    Sun Conjunct Mercury

    The conjunction of composite Sun and Mercury signifies that there will be a great deal of mental activity in this relationship. This aspect is good for verbal communication between you.

    You both should be wary of the tendency to intellectualize your emotions rather than deal with them at the gut level.

    You have an unusual similarity of thinking, or at least a better than average ability to understand each other's thinking.

    Mercury is a planet of travel, not always in the literal sense of the word, but in the metaphorical sense; that is, you like to be continually exposed to new ideas and experiences together.

    One of the most positive attributes of this aspect is the ability to be detached from what you are discussing. Because of this detachment you may even be able to talk about your relationship and arrive at understandings that will help you both to get more out of it.

    Sun Conjunct Venus

    The conjunction of Sun and Venus in the composite chart is one of the strongest indications of a love relationship between two people, even in a friendship. It does not primarily indicate a sexual relationship; instead it signifies love, pure and simple. The attraction indicated by this aspect is so powerful that it can bring together people who are incompatible by ordinary criteria.

    If the relationship is laden with conflicts, even a strong feeling of love between you may turn to hatred. In most cases, however, this will be a very fine personal relationship.

    Moon in the Fifth House

    The composite Moon in the fifth house suggests that your relationship exists because it makes you both feel good, especially emotionally.

    Obviously this is a good position for any kind of personal relationship, especially a love affair. You will enjoy each other's company immensely.

    The major deficiency of this position is that you may find it difficult to settle down to anything serious. This can be especially difficult in a marriage or long-term love relationship, for you can't always have fun and games; at some point you have to work at the serious business of building a relationship together.

    Moon Opposition Jupiter

    The opposition of the composite Moon and composite Jupiter may bring the two of you together even though you are quite different, but it also provides the energy for you to adjust to each other.

    An opposition is an active aspect, which means that the two of you will have to be active together.

    Sometimes with this aspect there is a compulsion to be "happy-go-lucky" all the time. You may be reluctant to deal with serious concerns that you should be facing together.

    Moon Conjunct Uranus

    The conjunction of composite Moon and Uranus is bound to create a certain amount of excitement; but it will not provide stability. If the relationship ceases to be stimulating, it may very well come to an end Uranus challenges your preconceptions and drives you out of your established ruts. This relationship may exist for the same purpose.

    On the other hand, it is possible that this conjunction signifies something unusual or atypical about the relationship itself.

    If the relationship itself is unusual, it may be more stable than a more ordinary partnership. In a love relationship, this aspect demands that you give each other more than the usual amount of freedom.

    This is likely to be an unusual relationship. Accept it as such and allow it to teach you something new about life.


    Mercury Conjunct Venus

    Mercury conjunct Venus is an excellent aspect in a composite chart, for it indicates that you both are able to express affection easily.

    Another fortunate attribute of this conjunction is that it gives you sensitivity to each other's feelings.

    This aspect should help smooth out the roughness that occasionally comes up in any relationship, but it may also make you keep quiet for the sake of preserving harmony when you feel angry. Go ahead and say what you feel, for you will be able to express what must be said in the right way.

    Venus in the Tenth House

    Your experience of love within this relationship will very strongly affect the lives of both of you.

    On the psychological level, this relationship will aid both of you in discovering what you want to do with your lives. Loving each other should reinforce you and give you greater confidence in yourselves.

    At the same time, this relationship will teach you about the nature of love and how you relate to others on an intimate personal level. The only way you can learn what living with another person means is by doing so.
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    Dec 07, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
    Hm, the man I've imagine has a chart like this:

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    Interesting:

    He does not have a Solar System Object in H7 and wouldn't have one in H5.

    The composite chart does give us solar system objects in those houses.

    Oh, well, important small game of thinking love through.
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    Dec 07, 2013 6:12 PM GMT
    Bobjones

    Hey everyone, I hope you everyone is doing well. I have a question about the gay community as a whole. I want to be in a relationship and find a great guy who is willing to fight to be with me like I am willing to fight to be with him.


    StephenOABC

    What is this fighting all about. You need to fight just to be in a relationship?

    Who do you need to fight? That's the first question. How powerful is the opposition? How dangerous are your opponents, Craig?

  • Apparition

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    Dec 07, 2013 6:16 PM GMT
    99.9% of gay guys are pussies waiting for someone else to ask them out. The guys that just want to get laid are the .1% that get to fuck everyone because they ASK to fuck them. Why would they give that up?

    Find any other gay guy approaching 30, walk up to them, say "Come back to my house and lets fuck twice a week for the next two years..I will cuddle you afterward and then make breakfast every other saturday. you okay with that?"

    then show him your abs, and shove your card down the front of his pants.




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    Dec 07, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    plenty of good relationships out there. has nothing to do with being gay or not. just a decent human being, really.
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    Dec 07, 2013 8:39 PM GMT
    Apparition said99.9% of gay guys are pussies waiting for someone else to ask them out. The guys that just want to get laid are the .1% that get to fuck everyone because they ASK to fuck them. Why would they give that up?

    Find any other gay guy approaching 30, walk up to them, say "Come back to my house and lets fuck twice a week for the next two years..I will cuddle you afterward and then make breakfast every other saturday. you okay with that?"

    then show him your abs, and shove your card down the front of his pants.






    I actually agree with your first sentence. There's a thread on if guys prefer to be the hunter or be hunted in a relationship and I'm not surprised that most answered that they prefer to be hunted.
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    Dec 07, 2013 9:10 PM GMT
    stop pushing for a relationship, start living life.

    it'll happen one day when you and the person you meet are ready and no amount of whining, pining or neediness is going to change that.
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    Dec 07, 2013 10:21 PM GMT
    StephenOABC saidI made up a birthday for someone born in the Chinese Year of the Metal Horse, like you.

    I used Feb. 9, 1990, 12:05p


    Sun Conjunct Venus

    The conjunction of Sun and Venus in the composite chart is one of the strongest indications of a love relationship between two people, even in a friendship. It does not primarily indicate a sexual relationship; instead it signifies love, pure and simple. The attraction indicated by this aspect is so powerful that it can bring together people who are incompatible by ordinary criteria.

    If the relationship is laden with conflicts, even a strong feeling of love between you may turn to hatred. In most cases, however, this will be a very fine personal relationship.

    Moon in the Fifth House

    The composite Moon in the fifth house suggests that your relationship exists because it makes you both feel good, especially emotionally.

    Obviously this is a good position for any kind of personal relationship, especially a love affair. You will enjoy each other's company immensely.


    Mercury Conjunct Venus

    Mercury conjunct Venus is an excellent aspect in a composite chart, for it indicates that you both are able to express affection easily.

    Another fortunate attribute of this conjunction is that it gives you sensitivity to each other's feelings.

    This aspect should help smooth out the roughness that occasionally comes up in any relationship, but it may also make you keep quiet for the sake of preserving harmony when you feel angry. Go ahead and say what you feel, for you will be able to express what must be said in the right way.

    Venus in the Tenth House

    Your experience of love within this relationship will very strongly affect the lives of both of you.

    On the psychological level, this relationship will aid both of you in discovering what you want to do with your lives. Loving each other should reinforce you and give you greater confidence in yourselves.

    At the same time, this relationship will teach you about the nature of love and how you relate to others on an intimate personal level. The only way you can learn what living with another person means is by doing so.


    Okay, the above shows love as being more than eye candy.
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    Dec 08, 2013 1:12 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidstop pushing for a relationship, start living life.

    it'll happen one day when you and the person you meet are ready and no amount of whining, pining or neediness is going to change that.


    True,... I agree with this.
    Yet waiting is harder than he makes it sound. . .
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    Dec 08, 2013 8:06 AM GMT
    I'm still wondering if my current relationship is successful or not. maybe I'll have an answer after we have been together another five years.
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    Dec 08, 2013 3:03 PM GMT
    StephenOABC saidI made up a birthday for someone born in the Chinese Year of the Metal Horse, like you.

    I used Feb. 9, 1990, 12:05p



    I have to change the birthday to Feb. 22, 1990, 12:05p.

    Instead of going with an Aquarius, I have to try a Pisces.

    Wow. He would have an interesting AstroMap.

    Now, to the partnership:

    Moon in the Seventh House

    The composite Moon in the seventh house is a good indication that in this relationship shared feelings will be very important. The seventh is the house of intimate one-to-one encounters, both positive ones such as partnerships and marriage, and negative ones such as open enmities.

    In general, the seventh-house Moon favors any intimate relationship in which sharing emotions is important. You will have a strong feeling that you belong together as a unit, and your emotional attitudes toward the outside world will be similar.

    You are, however, likely to become too involved in your personal feelings and not be able to see what is really going on between you. Try to stay somewhat detached from difficult situations so that you can deal with them objectively. If you can do that, this should be a very good emotional relationship for both of you.

    Mercury Conjunct Venus

    Mercury conjunct Venus is an excellent aspect in a composite chart, for it indicates that you both are able to express affection easily.

    Another fortunate attribute of this conjunction is that it gives you sensitivity to each other's feelings.

    This aspect should help smooth out the roughness that occasionally comes up in any relationship, but it may also make you keep quiet for the sake of preserving harmony when you feel angry. Go ahead and say what you feel, for you will be able to express what must be said in the right way.
  • Fable

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    Dec 08, 2013 4:10 PM GMT
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    To be successful with you
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    Dec 08, 2013 5:46 PM GMT
    Though the success stories are probably less than the unsuccessful stories, it does happen. "Meninlove" is a user in this site that proves just that. (Tell him waytodawn sent you. He's a great guy)

    There are surprisingly alot of people like you, with your train of thought. Sadly, people with this way of thinking have a hard time finding one another in life.

    I'm not gonna lie, I'm not even out there exploring, but I've seen how two-faced and shallow the gay community in my area has been.

    But that doesn't mean you should give up. It just means the journey will be a little more difficult as all. (And lets face it, I don't think you'll have much difficulties. icon_wink.gif )
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    Dec 08, 2013 8:00 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidstop pushing for a relationship, start living life.

    it'll happen one day when you and the person you meet are ready and no amount of whining, pining or neediness is going to change that.

    Exactly. And when you're needy and desperate for a relationship you're more likely to get in ones that aren't going to work out.
  • Puppymuncher

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    Dec 09, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    Yes, it does happen. No, it's not impossible.

    1) Just go out there and meet people. Make friends.

    2) Don't expect relationships to happen. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, that's fine, move on. It's gotta be natural, not forced.

    3) Bear in mind that you won't get exactly what you want, so sometimes you might meet a guy who's got some qualities you're looking for and some that you're not. Make a decision. That's what life's about.

    Good luck icon_smile.gif