Friends with benefits.. How does it work?

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    Nov 30, 2013 10:23 PM GMT
    I've been curious to give this experience a try and I'm wondering what it's like for those who have tried it before.

    Now I do have my conditions, as I want sexual monogamy to keep myself safe (and only for this reason).

    I'm willing to go the next step further if there is chemistry inside and outside the bedroom. If not well ar least we are having fun .

    What do you guys think of this? Do you think I would find guys who would agree to be monogamously safe?

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    Nov 30, 2013 10:25 PM GMT
    You hang out then they pay your dental bills.
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    Nov 30, 2013 10:25 PM GMT
    Sexual monogamy? That's not very typical in a FWB situation.
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    Nov 30, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    xrichx saidSexual monogamy? That's not very typical in a FWB situation.


    I know I been told that!

    I just wanna be safe. I don't wanna mess around with a guy who is messing with other guys and catch something .

    I wouldn't require monogamy in a cuddle buddy situation for example. It's really not about jealousy to me but keeping safe.

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    Nov 30, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    Play safe that's the best you can do
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    Nov 30, 2013 10:32 PM GMT
    Yeah, NO.
    that's a boyfriend=monogamous fuck buddy.

    However, you may find a By guy, especially as you are only into fraught--some guy who's wife/girlfriend doesn't appreciate all his hard work.
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    Nov 30, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    Behemothboi saidPlay safe that's the best you can do


    Monogamy is just as important in my book.

    The more guys you play with the more likely you'll catch something.
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    Nov 30, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    Solomono said
    xrichx saidSexual monogamy? That's not very typical in a FWB situation.


    I know I been told that!

    I just wanna be safe. I don't wanna mess around with a guy who is messing with other guys and catch something .

    I wouldn't require monogamy in a cuddle buddy situation for example. It's really not about jealousy to me but keeping safe.

    Kinda unrealistic. But if you can find someone you really trust, you can probably make things work.
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    Nov 30, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidYeah, NO.
    that's a boyfriend=monogamous fuck buddy.

    However, you may find a By guy, especially as you are only into fraught--some guy who's wife/girlfriend doesn't appreciate all his hard work.


    Boyfriends have the long term commitment which Friends with benefits don't .

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    Nov 30, 2013 10:40 PM GMT
    xrichx said
    Solomono said
    xrichx saidSexual monogamy? That's not very typical in a FWB situation.


    I know I been told that!

    I just wanna be safe. I don't wanna mess around with a guy who is messing with other guys and catch something .

    I wouldn't require monogamy in a cuddle buddy situation for example. It's really not about jealousy to me but keeping safe.

    Kinda unrealistic. But if you can find someone you really trust, you can probably make things work.


    Yeah I'll see.. I think it's worth the try .
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    Nov 30, 2013 10:57 PM GMT
    I once had a group of guys all got tested around the same Time. Some had bfs some had wives ..but these guys would always meet up with each other.. sometimes large groups sometimes just 2 people.. they all seemed really careful not to get anyone sick and not track anything into or out if the group..all safe sex of course
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    Nov 30, 2013 11:08 PM GMT
    The boundaries of friends with benefits are set by the individuals involved, some might choose to only sleep with each other for safety reasons, but not want anything as deep as a relationship.
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    Nov 30, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
    Mr_Kyle_Barker saidThe boundaries of friends with benefits are set by the individuals involved, some might choose to only sleep with each other for safety reasons, but not want anything as deep as a relationship.


    you're getting where I'm getting at ;)
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    Nov 30, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    Behemothboi saidI once had a group of guys all got tested around the same Time. Some had bfs some had wives ..but these guys would always meet up with each other.. sometimes large groups sometimes just 2 people.. they all seemed really careful not to get anyone sick and not track anything into or out if the group..all safe sex of course


    That's interesting I never heard of such situation.

    I like their concept of safe sex but I don't know how realistic it is to keep it at a group level.
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    Nov 30, 2013 11:51 PM GMT
    It works when Justin Timberlake comes to me and tries to be my friend but then we end up engaging in desperate acts of carnal passion n the parlor room floor....
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    Dec 01, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    Solomono said
    Behemothboi saidI once had a group of guys all got tested around the same Time. Some had bfs some had wives ..but these guys would always meet up with each other.. sometimes large groups sometimes just 2 people.. they all seemed really careful not to get anyone sick and not track anything into or out if the group..all safe sex of course


    That's interesting I never heard of such situation.

    I like their concept of safe sex but I don't know how realistic it is to keep it at a group level.
    You might find something like this in a Craigslist ad - often they're married men.
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    Dec 01, 2013 2:36 AM GMT
    Suetonius said
    Solomono said
    Behemothboi saidI once had a group of guys all got tested around the same Time. Some had bfs some had wives ..but these guys would always meet up with each other.. sometimes large groups sometimes just 2 people.. they all seemed really careful not to get anyone sick and not track anything into or out if the group..all safe sex of course


    That's interesting I never heard of such situation.

    I like their concept of safe sex but I don't know how realistic it is to keep it at a group level.
    You might find something like this in a Craigslist ad - often they're married men.


    Craigslist is trashy.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Dec 01, 2013 4:49 PM GMT
    It can work if you find the right guy(s)
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    Dec 01, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidIt can work if you find the right guy(s)


    I have a long time friend to whom I hinted that I want a fwb.

    I'm afraid it would mess up our friendship though.
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    Dec 01, 2013 4:57 PM GMT
    Solomono said
    jo2hotbod saidIt can work if you find the right guy(s)


    I have a long time friend to whom I hinted that I want a fwb.

    I'm afraid it would mess up our friendship though.


    It depends, if he's in the same situation it may work out for the both of you you never know
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    Dec 01, 2013 4:59 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod said
    Solomono said
    jo2hotbod saidIt can work if you find the right guy(s)


    I have a long time friend to whom I hinted that I want a fwb.

    I'm afraid it would mess up our friendship though.


    It depends, if he's in the same situation it may work out for the both of you you never know


    Yeah we'll see.. We have a date tonight so may be he'll bring up the topic icon_redface.gif